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. Way, MA, United States 73772 posts
7th May '12
Quoting Clk:" Yeah there is a big double standard when it comes to men and their daughters. Which is crazy since women molest too. "

There really is. It's sad, a lot of guys get nervous in certain situations with their own daughters because of how society is.

IMHO 2 kids; Ontario 7746 posts
7th May '12
Quoting MommyRu:" For people who have age limits on the nudity.... Do you believe that your partner will become sexually ... [snip!] ... Do you believe that you will become sexually aroused by seeing your son naked? If not, then why do you have the age limit! "


I have an age limit because I want to instill in the kids a certain amount of modesty in deference to the society we live in. I know I won't be aroused by my naked children, lol. I doubt DH would be either. BUT DH is very, very prudish in regards to nudity: this is the upbringing he had. I'm not going to judge him or try to change him. If we lived in a society where nudity was common in public places, then I would insist he "loosen up", but we don't.



A part of parenting is preparing your children for society. We live in one that's kind of uptight. Not as much as the one my parents grew up in, but enough.



When my children are adults, then they can make their own choices about how they wish to dress... or not in accordance with the laws. Until then, it's my responsibility to teach them about "rules and regulations" of our society.



Naked isn't bad. Just like sex isn't bad. But where we live, it is something private.

Emily Thorne 2 kids; Quetzaltenango, Guatemala 26302 posts
7th May '12
Quoting Clk:" Yeah there is a big double standard when it comes to men and their daughters. Which is crazy since women molest too. "


I didn't read the word single when I responded!!

NinjaSAPIOSEXUALShahinda 5 kids; Strongsville, Ohio 34460 posts
7th May '12
Quoting Pregnant Cracka |35weeks|:" The single thing bothers me in the OP (no offense to the OP)... but it makes it seem like if something ... [snip!] ... it seem like if something inappropriate WAS going on, it could only be inappropriate or happen if the father was single. :/ "


No offense taken, it was actually something that I'd heard on Judge Judy, and she had told the woman making the accusation to call CPS. The woman was adamant that it was skeezy for a single father, alone with his daughter to do things like that.

Mrs. Tebow 2 kids; El Paso, Texas 6684 posts
7th May '12
Quoting Rawr!:" We use lotion for massages and foreplay.. but if my dad says "hey grab some lotion and come rub my back!" I would never, never, never assume he was getting aroused by it!!"


Well no duh I wouldn't think my dad would get aroused by it.
I just wouldn't be able to do it without feeling uncomfortable.
I can't force myself to be comfortable with a situation

user banned 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 30985 posts
7th May '12

I would def give my dad a back rub with lotion or whatever. He has a bad back. He's getting old lol.



He was there when I had my baby.



I dunno. It can totally innocent and okay or it can be downright disgusting and disturbing. Depends on the family and circumstances.

Rinnie & Addy B. Due November 1; 33 kids; Illinois 2420 posts
7th May '12

I think it is fine for a parent of either sex to see their child of either sex naked at any age as long as the CHILD doesn't have a problem with it.
If my husband got an oiled back rub in lets say the living room while he had pants on by his 10 year old daughter and she was not sitting on him I would NOT find that to be a problem.

Rawr! 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 2797 posts
7th May '12
Quoting Mrs. Tebow:" Well no duh I wouldn't think my dad would get aroused by it. I just wouldn't be able to do it without feeling uncomfortable. I can't force myself to be comfortable with a situation"


That is understandable! I thought the question being asked was is it sexual for the dad...not the child. I see nothing wrong with doing it for my dad...because it's just a massage. Now if we were home alone, and he were naked, or wrapped in a towel and said "hey come over here and rub me with this oil..." I'd be creeped out and definitely not do it!

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11525 posts
status 7th May '12
Quoting Regina Phalange:" There really is. It's sad, a lot of guys get nervous in certain situations with their own daughters because of how society is. "


Yup I've known men who wouldn't change their daughter's diapers in public because of society's views. I'm so glad my husband is comfortable around our daughter.

Mrs. Tebow 2 kids; El Paso, Texas 6684 posts
7th May '12
Quoting Clk:" Yup I've known men who wouldn't change their daughter's diapers in public because of society's views. I'm so glad my husband is comfortable around our daughter."


:shock:




That's crazy.. I can't imagine DH not changing her or whatever because of society :cry:
He's the only one she really behaves with so he showers with her and everything.
I agree that society has sexualized nudity to an extent where it's become ridiculous.

Rawr! 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 2797 posts
7th May '12

My cousin still gives his 10 year old daughter baths, and they sleep in the same bed. I think it's strange....but, neither of them see a problem with it, it's completely innocent..so good for them! I just know I wouldn't want my dad seeing me naked at 10, and I don't want my husband bathing our daughters at 10.

. Way, MA, United States 73772 posts
7th May '12
Quoting Rawr!:" My cousin still gives his 10 year old daughter baths, and they sleep in the same bed. I think it's strange....but, ... [snip!] ... for them! I just know I wouldn't want my dad seeing me naked at 10, and I don't want my husband bathing our daughters at 10."

What about you?

user banned 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 30985 posts
7th May '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Clk:</b>" Yup I've known men who wouldn't change their daughter's diapers in public because of society's views. I'm so glad my husband is comfortable around our daughter."</blockquote>




My husband takes our daughter to the women's room when she has to use the bathroom when they're out. He was mortified at first but since then realized that the mothers in the bathroom think its great he does.

Mrs. Tebow 2 kids; El Paso, Texas 6684 posts
7th May '12
Quoting shes*almost*one!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Clk:</b>" Yup I've known men who wouldn't change their daughter's ... [snip!] ... when they're out. He was mortified at first but since then realized that the mothers in the bathroom think its great he does."


I would be weirded out with a guy in the women's room even if he's taking his kid to the bathroom.

Emily Thorne 2 kids; Quetzaltenango, Guatemala 26302 posts
7th May '12
Quoting Clk:" Yup I've known men who wouldn't change their daughter's diapers in public because of society's views. I'm so glad my husband is comfortable around our daughter."


That always drives me insane. My SO isn't my daughter's biological father, but he still took her to the potty before she could wipe herself, he still wipes her ass when she needs help (and I'm either not with them or sick).



He has no issues with it, does not find it something sexual and doesn't care about society's view.