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seattlemama3 *NMD* Due December 16 (girl); 19 kids; Spokane, Washington 5427 posts
7th Dec '12

I'm so excited for all of you doing IUI in January:) Hopefully I will be right there with you! Monday will start my 7th week without a period. The doc gave me something to start it but I'm not taking it because I have to leave the day after christmas so if it takes up to 10 days to work then I take my Clomid I won't be here for an ultrasound or sex. ( DH is staying behind.) So we have to wait until January to try again.



I think I'm really trying to fight off depression right now. Christmas use to be my favorite time of the year. Nothing could stop me from being happy. But ever since Tim died I can't shake this down feeling during holidays. I'm also having a really hard time with DH. It's totally stupid but I feel completely unwanted. I don't know why this is bothering me but I just feel like a frumpy gross house wife. It's probably just because I'm depressed. But our sex life use to be great and now I feel like he is absolutely not attracted to me. I feel the total opposite I could have sex all the time. He has gained probably 20 lbs in the last year and it doesn't bother me but maybe it bothers him. I don't know??? Sorry to vent. I have no one to talk to. I need to find some friends here!!!!

seattlemama3 *NMD* Due December 16 (girl); 19 kids; Spokane, Washington 5427 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" Yeah! We were also able to hear the donor's voice."


This is so exciting!!!!

seattlemama3 *NMD* Due December 16 (girl); 19 kids; Spokane, Washington 5427 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting Wanted: #2:" Pushed to 5 day transfer on Sunday. All 9 are so far doing well and growing appropriately. They didn't ... [snip!] ... we will stick to one. I hope they will keep growing strong during the critical period from cleavage to blast. Praying!!!!"

Crossing my fingers and praying for you!!!

seattlemama3 *NMD* Due December 16 (girl); 19 kids; Spokane, Washington 5427 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting Ryans Mommy TTC #2:" So according to my calendar if my AF arrives anywhere between Dec 19-Dec 26 then my EDD for next cycle ... [snip!] ... end of Sept- first part of October. Ugh....I really wanted a summer baby! But I guess I will settle with whatever I can get!!"

So glad your cyst is gone!

seattlemama3 *NMD* Due December 16 (girl); 19 kids; Spokane, Washington 5427 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting Dicey Wifey:" I'm so excited! I can't believe that by next Christmas both of us could possibly have a LO! :) "

I keep wanting to press like for things like on Facebook! I'm so excited for you guys:)

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting seattlemama3 *NMD*:" I'm so excited for all of you doing IUI in January:) Hopefully I will be right there with you! Monday ... [snip!] ... me but maybe it bothers him. I don't know??? Sorry to vent. I have no one to talk to. I need to find some friends here!!!! "


I'm so sorry hun.
Sometimes DH and I go through dry spells like that, there are times when I'm like don't touch me... mostly when I'm pmsing. What always helps us is date nights, I know that's easier said since I don't have children right now. But we are BIG homebodies, and barely get out but we took time for a date night last night and I always feel it reconnects us and we are able to talk and laugh etc. I hope things get better for you girl, you can always vent here!

seattlemama3 *NMD* Due December 16 (girl); 19 kids; Spokane, Washington 5427 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" I'm so sorry hun. Sometimes DH and I go through dry spells like that, there are times when I'm like ... [snip!] ... feel it reconnects us and we are able to talk and laugh etc. I hope things get better for you girl, you can always vent here!"


We are very blessed that his mom lives basically in our back yard and she watches the kids. I'm so lucky that she has accepted the kids as her own grandchildren!!! This really started after my miscarriage over a year ago. He told me about 6 months ago I ruined our sex life because I told him when we had to have sex ( he has a huge issue with people telling him what to do.) I backed off on ttc after that. It really hurt my feelings. I thought since I backed off maybe it would get better but it seems to have gotten worse again. It might also be because it's winter. The other day he came home unexpected and my son was asleep ( he never naps) I had just gotten out of the shower. He did n't touch me, say anything he went and ate!!! I'm being to sensitive and I know it. I hate being this way. This is only one aspect of our relationship. I'm pretty happy in every other way but I guess I rely on him to much for a big portion of my self esteem. blah. We do have a Christmas shopping date night on Monday yay!!

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting seattlemama3 *NMD*:" We are very blessed that his mom lives basically in our back yard and she watches the kids. I'm so lucky ... [snip!] ... I rely on him to much for a big portion of my self esteem. blah. We do have a Christmas shopping date night on Monday yay!! "


TTC can defintely put a strain on any relationship. My DH often says that the only time we ever had sex was when I was ovulating.. I felt bad because sex was a chore and I didnt want it to be that way. We worked on our relationship, its a must for us to be strong as a whole. I can't say it's easy for everyone to NOT make sex a chore if your TTC, for us it was because obviously we can't have sex to have a child, so a lot of it changed for us. I think your Christmas shopping date is a great idea! It will be nice to spend time together and reconnect :)

Dr.Clandestine 1 angel baby; Stockholm, Sweden 1220 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" TTC can defintely put a strain on any relationship. My DH often says that the only time we ever had ... [snip!] ... changed for us. I think your Christmas shopping date is a great idea! It will be nice to spend time together and reconnect :)"


This is pretty spot on for atleast 75% of couples TTC.



I haven't orgasmed from sex in atleast a month, I fake it for his ego, but I do feel bad for doing it.



It is really hard on a marriage to "perform on command" but if you can rationalize the end goal it helps, at least thats what DH and I do.



It also doesn't help that his Mom is living with us until some time this spring when they finish fixing her house.

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2724 posts
status 7th Dec '12

Here's my test today 8dpo.. Taken at the 5 minute mark. Although I took the picture and saw the line within the time frame I think it's probably an evap :(




ETA: the test is the 10miu from earlypregnancytests.com
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D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2724 posts
status 7th Dec '12
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" TTC can defintely put a strain on any relationship. My DH often says that the only time we ever had ... [snip!] ... changed for us. I think your Christmas shopping date is a great idea! It will be nice to spend time together and reconnect :)"


Infertility has stained our relationship.. DH and I were just talking about it the other day.. DH has also complained that we only have sex a couple times a month now. In the past it was every other day or every day. I feel bad about it, but with his issues we've learned that we have to go 2-3 days so his sperm swims correctly.



Yesterday with the progesterone thing, I cried to DH. He was able to comfort me and be there for be because of his issues. We both kept saying we want to what's causing our problems and how to fix it.

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:" Here's my test today 8dpo.. Taken at the 5 minute mark. Although I took the picture and saw the line ... [snip!] ... saw the line within the time frame I think it's probably an evap :( ETA: the test is the 10miu from earlypregnancytests.com "


Oh my god... but I see something! I don't want it to be evap!!!

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2724 posts
status 7th Dec '12
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" I'm so sorry hun. Sometimes DH and I go through dry spells like that, there are times when I'm like ... [snip!] ... feel it reconnects us and we are able to talk and laugh etc. I hope things get better for you girl, you can always vent here!"


Jumping in here..
We're homebodies too. I also get in the 'don't touch me' mode time to time.. I should see if we could do a date night once a month. One of DH's biggest complaints is we never have a date night together.

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
7th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:</b>" Jumping in here.. We're homebodies too. I also get in the 'don't touch me' mode time to time.. I should ... [snip!] ... I should see if we could do a date night once a month. One of DH's biggest complaints is we never have a date night together. "</blockquote>




Do a date night! It really does help reconnect and it's always fun. I told DH one time I want him to get ready, go outside, and knock on our front door like he's picking me up for our first date lol so corny but I want to do that so bad hahahaha

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2724 posts
status 7th Dec '12
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" Oh my god... but I see something! I don't want it to be evap!!!"


I don't either.. I kinda want to post it in the linespotter thread but I don't want them to laugh and be like that's an evap.



I posted it on countdowntopregnancy.com 4 said it's positive 1 said it negative. I had had issues in the past with the lines being an evap but the line shows up instantly after I test. I use a little egg timer to make sure I don't read it past 10 minutes. If this is another evap I'll never buy these tests again
http://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test-gallery/my-pregnancy-test77216