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D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2728 posts
10th Dec '12
Quoting Ryans Mommy TTC #2:" I can relate with most of you right now-my sil had her baby today. I was so excited! Took pics, held ... [snip!] ... are starting a new protocol soon, but it's just not fair that people like get can get pregnant with a snap of their fingers :("


Hun, I totally understand how you feel. I'm 23, all the other 20-23 year olds I know can't afford their child, they party all the time.. They're very unstable. I actually am 'friend's with this 24 year old who had her first at 16, second at 18. She's a drug addict, and she doesn't have custody of her kids but she receives government assistance for them. She just married some random guy two years ago, he's a truck driver. She cheated on him in June and got pregnant, she TTC'ed with the guy she cheated in her husband with. It disgusts me that she's pregnant. That she was given the gift of a child when she's so unfit.



Then I had one girl who I meet online when I was 16. Back in 09 her and her husband got evicted from their apartment. I felt bad and let he move in with me, she lived a couple states away. While homeless she took Clomid and TTC'ed, she ended up getting pregnant and finding out on my birthday. She never looked for a job while living with me, she just sat on BG posting all day. Her husband sat on my couch all day, refused to work. After a month I kicked them out. She bounced state to state her whole pregnancy going two months without prenatal care. Her mom's church gave her a house and EVERYTHING she needed for her son. A couple weeks after her son was born she TTC'ed #2. She took Clomid with #2 as well. She cheated on her husband a few times while taking Clomid and got knocked up by her roommate. Her husband works at McDonalds and she collects welfare.. It's not fair that she had those kids.



I'm sure that once you start this new cycle you'll get pregnant! I'm right about these things! LOL

Wanted: #2 Due August 26 (boy); 33 kids; Illinois 4726 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:</b>" How do you stay so strong after two falied IVFs? I'm scared to do IVF because, what if it doesn't work? ... [snip!] ... her, they both work full time anyway. My mom refuses to watch my daughter because she wants to hang out with her friends 24\7. "</blockquote>




How do I stay strong? Well, first of all Insometimes I don't, second of all I think it has a lot to do with the fact that I was really, really ill in 2007 and the doctors only gave me weeks to live. I truly do appreciate my blessings more ever since and the fact that I already have a wonderful son helps me a lot too. I just feel like a failure not being able to make a sibling for him. He is now at the age where he realizes that all his buddies have one.
I always feel very down after a failed cycle, but after a few days sadness usually makes space for hope and deep down inside me I know my family and I will be fine no matter what, as long as we are all healthy and together
I have seen tons of kids in their downtown office. One boy in highland park. Maybe call and ask about exact policy. I read online that they don't allow kids and than I saw so many.

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2728 posts
10th Dec '12

Have any of you seen the movie 'The Odd Life of Timothy Green'? I LOVE that movie. I watched and cried along to the movie 3 times today. I always give out spoilers on accident so I won't tell you much.. Just make sure you have some tissues for the beginning and end of the movie. It's about a couple who receives the news by their RE that they're infertile and they did everything they could to get pregnant. That movie really hit home for me. It's a child's Disney movie but I loved it. The whole message is not to give up, don't lose hope. It was very positive.



Dahlia just woke up, I need to get her back to bed. I might be on later or I'll come back tomorrow afternoon.

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:</b>" *Hugs* I can understand why the diagnosis made you sad again. How did you pick your donor? Do you plan ... [snip!] ... have a link to your photography page? I'm not a photographer but I love photography. What kind of camera and lens do you have?"</blockquote>




Hi girl! We picked a donor based on DHs similarities. Tall, lean, dark hair, blue eyes... When we found a few we like, we both their baby photos to try to match them. We found one that looks somewhat similar to DH. We told our friends and our best friend. We decided right now not to worry about the telling of our children, we have in mind that they don't need to know as they are growing up and as time goes on, we may tell them in the future but we want to instill in them that DH is their father no matter what. Sperm is not what makes a father a father, it really is the person that helps raise and love that child.



It's a lot to swallow when you chose to use a donor. It's a heartbreaking thing but we have gone through so much as a whole that I know we can get through this too. We will be a family regardless of DNA.



If you end up having to use a donor, I suggest the book "helping the stork" I have heard such great things about it. I haven't even gotten that far and I love it.



I am always here for you, remember we all are. We are on your team. I haven't seen that movie you mentioned but I remember seeing the previews and can't wait to check it out.



Lastly, I have a FB photography page you can check out once you get back on FB next week... www.facebook.com/AshleighOlsonPhotography ... If that doesn't work let me know. My old work is mostly on there, I got better and just re-published my page. I'm editing wedding photos that will be up next weekend. I have a Nikon D3000 and an 50mm 1.8 lens.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15356 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:" I wrote the company today. I'm very disappointed with those tests. I'm still on my little internet ... [snip!] ... do. You went through a lot TTC wise and you're 14 weeks along :) Do you plan to find out the sex? If so do you know when? "


So glad I can offer you some hope! I know when friends of mine who have struggled with infertility finally have their babies it always brings me hope too. We'll be finding out hopefully at the anatomy scan on the 4th!

Ryans Mommy TTC #2 TTC since Jun 2009; 1 child; Madison, West Virginia 1874 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:" Hun, I totally understand how you feel. I'm 23, all the other 20-23 year olds I know can't afford their ... [snip!] ... that she had those kids. I'm sure that once you start this new cycle you'll get pregnant! I'm right about these things! LOL"


Thanks!! I really need all the support I can get right now!
I have been a emotional rollercoaster lately- I think because of the BC pills, because I'm not normally like this?!
As for the new baby I'm having a hard time comparing if its his baby or not. What do you guys think?
My Brother's baby picture
http://i50.tinypic.com/2eyvomu.jpg



Mason
http://i49.tinypic.com/1zq984h.jpg

aℓyssa Due October 21 (girl); 1 child; Manhattan, KS, United States 18872 posts
11th Dec '12

So, I have some questions about Clomid...



My OB recommended that I try Clomid the next time we TTC and I haven't looked into it much, but from the sounds of it, I don't know if it would even do anything for me?



It seems I don't have any issues getting pregnant, it's the staying pregnant part that doesn't happen. My last pregnancy my levels we're at the borderline bottom to where they needed to be everytime I got checked (ended losing it at 7ish weeks). Both my husband and I have been checked and there isn't anything noticeable that is affecting either of us..



We'll be actively TTC again in a few months and I'm just trying to figure out if I should try it or not, lol.

seattlemama3 *NMD* Due December 16 (girl); 19 kids; Spokane, Washington 5427 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting aℓyssa
D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2728 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting aℓyssa
D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2728 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Ryans Mommy TTC #2:" Thanks!! I really need all the support I can get right now! I have been a emotional rollercoaster lately- ... [snip!] ... What do you guys think? My Brother's baby picture http://i50.tinypic.com/2eyvomu.jpg Mason http://i49.tinypic.com/1zq984h.jpg"


BC is evil! It made me an emotional crazy mess in October! LOL



I think the eye area looks like your brother. In a couple weeks I'd be able to tell better

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2728 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Amelia [14 Weeks]:" So glad I can offer you some hope! I know when friends of mine who have struggled with infertility finally ... [snip!] ... finally have their babies it always brings me hope too. We'll be finding out hopefully at the anatomy scan on the 4th!"


The 4th? That's not far away! Do you and your husband have any ideas on what the baby might be?



You've been through a lot TTC wise, I look up to you because you've remained strong. I'm feeling a little better today, I keep reminding myself that we were lucky to get pregnant with Dahlia our first IUI. So many couples out there have been trying longer than me, they had more failed IUIs and IVFs.. I remind myself how blessed I am to have Dahlia.

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2728 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:</b>" *Hugs* I can understand why the ... [snip!] ... just re-published my page. I'm editing wedding photos that will be up next weekend. I have a Nikon D3000 and an 50mm 1.8 lens."


I agree 100% with you.. Sperm is not what makes a father a father, it really is the person that helps raise and love that child. I talked to DH about using a donor last night, he said he wants to try IVF first then a donor possibly. We both want to adopt a child out of foster care, they need a home and a family to love them. I think I'd be able to relate to a foster care child because of my childhood. If they had any emotional issues, I could help them with it and I'd be understanding.



I like your photography! My pictures aren't great. I had a canon T3 but it broke so DH got me a Canon 60D. The 60D is a nice camera but I feel lost using it. I was hoping you had a canon or could give me advice. With the 60D the focus is always off, manual or auto. :(

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
11th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:</b>" I agree 100% with you.. Sperm is not what makes a father a father, it really is the person that helps ... [snip!] ... lost using it. I was hoping you had a canon or could give me advice. With the 60D the focus is always off, manual or auto. :("</blockquote>



I wish you guys so much luck. I have faith that IVF will work for you :) I never stop thinking about you and the rest of the girls on here, and I never get jealous about pregnancies on here either because we have all struggled.



Thank you for the compliment on my photography! It means a lot. I'm not the best but it helps my confidence :). You got a good camera! Wish I could help you!!!

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15356 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting aℓyssa
Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15356 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:" The 4th? That's not far away! Do you and your husband have any ideas on what the baby might be? You've ... [snip!] ... there have been trying longer than me, they had more failed IUIs and IVFs.. I remind myself how blessed I am to have Dahlia."


Scott is for sure it's a boy. I'm about 50/50 on it, haha.



So glad you're feeling a bit better. Keep looking forward!