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MIracleLove San Diego, California 190 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" Both my REs had very reasonable prices although I can't remember how much it was for just the cycle. ... [snip!] ... and lawyer do the psych eval and contract for no cost and since my sister was the donor she didn't require compensation."

Thank you!! I was looking at the prices along with the success rates for the clinic that we've chosen. They did approximately 450 cycles last year with a success rate of 68.3% (I'm guessing 307 out of 450 isn't bad). They have the best in my area, so we're going for it.

MIracleLove San Diego, California 190 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" If it doesn't work out I sure hope they enjoy paying for months of hospital bedrest."

Just in case you wanted to take a look, the link is below:



http://www.carolinaconceptions.com/invitro/ivf-pricing/

Wanted: #2 Due August 26; 33 kids; Illinois 4726 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting MIracleLove:" Out of curiosity and for those who are paying for IVF out of pocket, how much did you spend for one cycle. ... [snip!] ... spend for one cycle. One of the nurses explained to us that one cycle will cost approx. 13k, but we can get 2 cycles for 20k."


I paid 11 k for the the cycle, plus 6 k for the meds.

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14362 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting MIracleLove:" Just in case you wanted to take a look, the link is below: http://www.carolinaconceptions.com/invitro/ivf-pricing/"


It's actually not anything to with infertility. Luckily I still have 9 great quality blasts in cryo. :)



The issue is this: I've had four miscarriages. The first three were early but with my last pregnancy I started taking baby aspirin and for the first time made it to the second trimester. But then I lost her at 15 weeks after my water broke due to incompetent cervix. We always knew I was at high risk for IC because of my previous procedures and that's why I was referred to a perinatologist. But the peri told me I couldn't be checked for dilation until I was 18 weeks. I now know that's not true, it's just that usually in most IC cases the cervix doesn't start to show problems until after 18 weeks. Of course in my case that was too late.



So the solution is to get a stitch put in my cervix, called a cerclage. There is the transvaginal cerclage (TVC) which is placed at about 13 weeks but it's only 75% effective to 24 weeks. It's also a lot less invasive and doesn't require actual surgery. I'm afraid it would be even less effective for me since I started dilating by 13 weeks (had symptoms but didn't know what they were). This type also usually requires months of bedrest, sometimes in the hospital.



The other type of cerclage is the transabdominal cerclage (TAC). It can be placed before or after pregnancy and is 98% effective to term. However, it's much more invasive requiring abdominal surgery to place and a cesarean to give birth. It's also permanent. This type usually requires no bedrest at all.



Before I can even be considered for a TAC I need to be evaluated by a perinatologist. The problem is the two peris where I live won't do it and my insurance has now denied me for seeing a peri who will. Being denied this early in the process tells me there's no way they're going to approve a TAC. They'd rather I get the TVC and pay for months of bedrest in the hospital which I will almost 100% need.

MIracleLove San Diego, California 190 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Wanted: #2:" I paid 11 k for the the cycle, plus 6 k for the meds."

Thank you and I don't think that's too bad, especially if they have a financing plan.

MIracleLove San Diego, California 190 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" It's actually not anything to with infertility. Luckily I still have 9 great quality blasts in cryo. ... [snip!] ... to approve a TAC. They'd rather I get the TVC and pay for months of bedrest in the hospital which I will almost 100% need."

I had to read that twice to understand, but I think I got it. You have issues with carrying the baby full term? I really applaud you for your courage to continue trying. It is very inspiring. My neice went into labor at 24 week and although my great nephew only weighed 2 pds and 13 oz., he's doing great.

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14362 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting MIracleLove:" I had to read that twice to understand, but I think I got it. You have issues with carrying the baby ... [snip!] ... inspiring. My neice went into labor at 24 week and although my great nephew only weighed 2 pds and 13 oz., he's doing great. "


Yep, that's the problem. I'm just stubborn. Thank you though. :)

Wanted: #2 Due August 26; 33 kids; Illinois 4726 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" It's actually not anything to with infertility. Luckily I still have 9 great quality blasts in cryo. ... [snip!] ... to approve a TAC. They'd rather I get the TVC and pay for months of bedrest in the hospital which I will almost 100% need."


This is so frustrating. What is your next plan? I love how determined you are.
If there is one thing I learned in my life...don't ever take "no" for an answer when it comes from a doctor. Its not their life they are deciding about....so they quiet frankly don't really give that much about life changing decisions....

MIracleLove San Diego, California 190 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Wanted: #2:" This is so frustrating. What is your next plan? I love how determined you are. If there is one thing ... [snip!] ... not their life they are deciding about....so they quiet frankly don't really give that much about life changing decisions...."

That's exactly how I felt yesterday when my OB suggested adoption prior to even hearing my story or taking a look at my medical history....I found and RE and had my referral changed today. No time to waste on those with no compassion.

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14362 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Wanted: #2:" This is so frustrating. What is your next plan? I love how determined you are. If there is one thing ... [snip!] ... not their life they are deciding about....so they quiet frankly don't really give that much about life changing decisions...."


We're definitely not taking no. My very next step is to wait for my OB's office to call. When the nurse called me today with the news I asked if the OB could do it, since no one else in town will. (Although I know that's not going to be what I need. I need to be seen by a peri.) But the nurse said she'd run it by Dr. W and call me back. She made it sound like it would be just a quick yes or no thing but I still haven't heard back. This makes me think maybe Dr. W wanted a bit more time to look into things. I hope maybe she has some suggestions.



As it is now I have three options: The first will be to appeal and hopefully Dr. W will help with that. I'm not too confident that will go anywhere though. OR I can stitch an pray - get pregnant, get the TVC, and pray it holds.

Wanted: #2 Due August 26; 33 kids; Illinois 4726 posts
8th Jan '13

read it! I hope you will hear from the doctor soon.

Coriann TTC since Jul 2009; 16 kids; Spokane, Washington 2196 posts
9th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.O♥:</b>" Okay, I'm annoyed. And you can call me a brat if you want but... My white trash of a cousin, who has ... [snip!] ... trials and tribulations. It's awful. I really don't mean to offend anyone, I just don't get it. It's all backwards to me!!!!"</blockquote>




Your not being mean at all. I'm so sick of seeing people who keep having kids but rely on the state to support them. Why can these people have kids and i cant ? It's something ill never understand

user banned Due December 8; 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
9th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Coriann:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.O♥:</b>" Okay, I'm annoyed. And you can call me a ... [snip!] ... kids but rely on the state to support them. Why can these people have kids and i cant ? It's something ill never understand"</blockquote>




I agree!! It's very frustrating and sad. I fear for those children though :(

seattlemama3 *NMD* Due December 16; 19 kids; Spokane, Washington 5427 posts
9th Jan '13

Hi ladies-



I have been so busy I haven't had a chance to say a thing. I have been luking an d keeping up with everyone. BG doesn't work very well from my phone. I types a a few responses before Christmas and it just erases them or doesn't allow me to post so I gave up.



First off Amelia you are so strong!!!! My heart aches for you and I just want to give you a giant hug. I'm praying that doors will be opened for you and that your journey will continue as smoothly as possible.



Good luck to everyone who is getting or got IUI this month. I'm soooooooooo excited to see every ones pink lines.



I did not get pg with my 2nd cycle of Clomid I don't even think I ovulated. I started my period the earliest it's ever started cd 26. Usually I'm like 42??? So my doc upped my dose to 150. I really struggled with whether I wanted to take it. I did take it but if this doesn't work I will be getting a hsg test. But I will not be proceeding as of now with any other medication. I can't do it. I will be going to a women's health clinic that deals with herbs and accupuncture. I believe in doing everything naturally as possible and I'm not sure why I didn't do this first. I guess I was desperate. I've also tried to change my diet and cut out alcohol. We will see.......



Good luck ladies and hello to every one new! I'm not on often but I do love this group. It's so nice because I have no one that knows what I'm going through. They all just tell me to quite trying and it will happen. I wish it were that easy!

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14362 posts
9th Jan '13
Quoting seattlemama3 *NMD*:" Hi ladies- I have been so busy I haven't had a chance to say a thing. I have been luking an d keeping ... [snip!] ... no one that knows what I'm going through. They all just tell me to quite trying and it will happen. I wish it were that easy! "


Thanks girl. :) Best of luck to you in whichever path you decide to take!