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Amelia [27 wks] Due July 20 (boy); 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14387 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting NurseLindsey:" Thanks. I think I'd handle another loss because I really don't have a choice... that's the way I look ... [snip!] ... from Him of whether or not this is "correct" or "right" but I do know that there is a baby for us, somewhere in the future. "


That's exactly how I feel.

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
8th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting brodyzmom:</b>" That's a hard question... One obviously only the 2 of you can answer. I'm so sorry. All of that being ... [snip!] ... don't think you could possibly handle another loss, that is quite another bridge to cross. HUGS sweetie! I'm praying for you!"</blockquote>




This!



Personally for me, the fear of never having a child outweighs the fear of a loss. Everyone is different but that's how I feel. It's a risk we take in a sense. Am I afraid of a loss again? Absolutely. I think a lot of people are but I try to remind myself that it wouldn't stop my dreams of coming true. I hope the appointment helped your grieving process! Thinking of you!

LindseyLou+2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Washington 6600 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting NOVA Mom:" "


Thanks :) I know there's a baby some how for us... but I don't really know yet. Adoption comes with it's own set of struggles and we've already been through a failed adoption. Either way, there's struggles and pain.

LindseyLou+2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Washington 6600 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" My husband did that when we lost Hope. It helped him a lot. And it helped me to see what he was going through."


Aw... DH won't open up at all about anything. He just said it was upsetting. I was thinking of suggesting this idea to him (writing to the baby) but I think he's pretty much done grieving or he's just done talking about it.

LindseyLou+2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Washington 6600 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting brodyzmom:</b>" That's a hard question... One obviously only ... [snip!] ... myself that it wouldn't stop my dreams of coming true. I hope the appointment helped your grieving process! Thinking of you!"


I guess I'm just different. This ectopic was really traumatic for me. I took it way harder than the initial news of a m/c.
I really don't want to ever have to have this surgery again. I can't get over the fact that I was cut open and my baby was taken out. I'm sure that going forward, my doctor and I will be a little more receptive of the signs of an EP and we'll be able to avoid that...
I guess the fact that I'm at a much higher risk for a repeat, scares me. I wish there was nothing wrong with me or DH and we could just have a baby the normal way.
That's something else my counselor suggested... play the "wouldn't it be nice if..." and finish the sentence. It just makes me mad because there's a lot of things I could say "It would be nice if..." to.

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
8th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting NOVA Mom:</b>" Not yet, I guess I will! "</blockquote>




Yes join us!!!! :) congrats!!!!!

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
8th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting NurseLindsey:</b>" I guess I'm just different. This ectopic was really traumatic for me. I took it way harder than the ... [snip!] ... if..." and finish the sentence. It just makes me mad because there's a lot of things I could say "It would be nice if..." to. "</blockquote>




I hope you know in no way was I trying to insult you or anything. I was just saying that's how I look at it and how people have different views on the subject. I hope you can grieve and find peace before moving on with the process. Wishing you lots of luck!!

LindseyLou+2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Washington 6600 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting NurseLindsey:</b>" I guess I'm just different. This ectopic ... [snip!] ... views on the subject. I hope you can grieve and find peace before moving on with the process. Wishing you lots of luck!!"


I didn't take it as an insult. I know you want me to succeed... lol succeed in conceiving.

LindseyLou+2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Washington 6600 posts
8th Apr '13

So DH and I had one of our "talks" (ever so brief)... he does not want us to go to court... which just sucks for Jace. He says he wants to avoid the drama. I can't say that it wouldn't be easier.
Pretty sure he wants to go ahead and do IUI again as soon as we're allowed with an hsg first.
Sorry for being such a downer... I needed to get some of these thoughts out. You ladies are amazing for putting up with me.

Amelia [27 wks] Due July 20 (boy); 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14387 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting NurseLindsey:" So DH and I had one of our "talks" (ever so brief)... he does not want us to go to court... which just ... [snip!] ... Sorry for being such a downer... I needed to get some of these thoughts out. You ladies are amazing for putting up with me. "


:( Maybe it will all work out and Jace's bio dad won't be a douche bag. But glad to hear he's on board with IUI.

Praying4twins TTC since Nov 2008; 4 angel babies; East London, South Africa 111 posts
9th Apr '13

ok so it turns out that im starting ttc from next Monday 15 April 2013 instead of 1 September 2013... This is all wonderful because I've wanted a January / December baby became Im born in January and DH is born February. I cant wait and Im praying that the baby dust sticks this month, Im not sure if im ovulating already or not but my cm has the eggwhite thingy and just clear the next minute but no pains like other months. here is my circle prediction:
Last Period
March 25, 2013

Next Period
April 28, 2013

Next Ovulation
April 14, 2013
Im really confused with the cm changing before time and im not going to babydance till Sunday or Monday when DH is back :(... Im just praying we get the bean in time to conceive our barbie doll.
How are you ladies doing???

Teri-ann TTC since Aug 2008; New London, Connecticut 3 posts
9th Apr '13

Hello everyone!
I'm on my 2nd IUI cycle 10 dpo. I had a bfn last night it still maybe too early. Hoping to make it to Monday for a blood test.



My 1st cycle was a little rough it took 34 days for my body to respond to Follistim then unexpectedly I surged on my own. Rushed in for IUI and only made it to 8 do before having a cycle. Took a few months off before trying again.



2nd cycle I used follistim and ganerilex and had 2 follicles 20mm each. Praying it works!



I'm here to help anyone with questions!!

LindseyLou+2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Washington 6600 posts
9th Apr '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" :( Maybe it will all work out and Jace's bio dad won't be a douche bag. But glad to hear he's on board with IUI."


One can hope... we've been seperated for a little over 4 years and nothings changed yet. Karma will come his way eventually. Now we have to make a decision on what to do with his schooling next year.

[Mrs. C] Due November 23; TTC since Dec 2010; Massachusetts 651 posts
9th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting NurseLindsey:</b>" So DH and I had one of our "talks" (ever so brief)... he does not want us to go to court... which just ... [snip!] ... Sorry for being such a downer... I needed to get some of these thoughts out. You ladies are amazing for putting up with me. "</blockquote>



I feel for you. I know our ups and downs are different, but I can relate to the fear and uneasiness you are talking about. I try to take this journey day by day and block out the "what ifs" as best I can. Otherwise, I'd drive myself crazy. I'm going into our next IVF with the mindset that this is a brand new cycle.. clean slate, thinking positive! I hope you can do the same. Also give yourself credit for how far you've come. It takes a hell of a lot of strength and courage to go through infertility. Thinking of you!

LindseyLou+2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Washington 6600 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting [Mrs. C]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting NurseLindsey:</b>" So DH and I had one of our "talks" (ever ... [snip!] ... credit for how far you've come. It takes a hell of a lot of strength and courage to go through infertility. Thinking of you!"


Thank you so much for your words of encouragement :) I'm feeling a little more positive after I got some things out. I just wish time would go by more quickly.
We're going on a trip to visit my parents at the end of May, which is right when AF will be due. I'm hoping we can do my hsg shortly after we come home (very early June) if all works out with my RE and scheduling. IUI will be only a week or so after that. I'm really looking forward to the end of next month!