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Wanted: #2 Due August 26 (boy); 33 kids; Illinois 4726 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" I'm going to try to keep up and respond to everyone as often as I can, it's just really hard right now, ... [snip!] ... had that were truly DHs and I didn't realize it would be this hard to cope. I wish I was having more strong times than sad ...."


I am so sorry for what you are going through. I can totally understand how you feel. You are grieving a baby right now. I felt the same way when I had an early misscarriage. You have hope and anticipation, you have dreams and even though this baby never excisted it dies in the moment of negative news. I truly do think you can compare the early loss of a baby with what you are going through right now. It is a horrible thing to have to go through. You have any right to be feeling like you are feeling right now and I do hope you will allow yourself to feel the pain and griev however long you will have to griev. I am not going to say anything "smart" in the hope to make you feel better right now, because I know it won't help at this moment anyways. However, as Amelia said...it will get better with time and as you move along becoming parents. I hope you know that we are always here!!!

Wanted: #2 Due August 26 (boy); 33 kids; Illinois 4726 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting CuteExplodenKitties:" A friend just told me she is pregnant with her 4th unplanned child and wants advice on where to get an abortion. She knows we are trying for a baby and out of everyone she knows she asks me."


Some people are so incredibly insensitive!

Wanted: #2 Due August 26 (boy); 33 kids; Illinois 4726 posts
30th Nov '12

As to me...I got the call back from the nurse and they are very happy with how my follicles look. I have 15 measurable follicles in between 10 and 18mm. They want me on the meds for another 2 days and than I have to go back for ultrasound and bloodwork on Sunday morning. They are estimating retrieval for Tuesday, Wednesday at the latest. Now, I just have one problem. My husband and in-laws will be out of town starting Thursday. I have a nanny for Thursday, but if they want to do transfer on Friday or Saturday I am in trouble. I won't have anybody to watch my 3 year old.....Truly not sure what to do!

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 16472 posts
status 30th Nov '12
Quoting Wanted: #2:" As to me...I got the call back from the nurse and they are very happy with how my follicles look. I have ... [snip!] ... do transfer on Friday or Saturday I am in trouble. I won't have anybody to watch my 3 year old.....Truly not sure what to do!"


OMG I can't wait for the ER. Too bad you're not close to me, I'd watch your kiddo in heartbeat!

Dr.Clandestine 1 angel baby; Stockholm, Sweden 1220 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Amelia [13 Weeks]:" I went straight to Femara plus injectibles based on my absurdly low AMH. Usually the standard way to ... [snip!] ... moving on to IVF. IUI is certainly cheaper but you might want to try some timed cycles too. Do you have to pay for those?"


Everything is out of pocket, which makes this tough.



Meds for a timed cycled are 60ish for Femara and 10,000 HCG since Ovidrel doesnt work for me.
Scans he can cover under PCOS which takes the burden off, but the actual IUI would be 100% out of pocket and based on the paper work is around 1000.



I will be ordering more Preseed and starting guaifenesin the second to last day of me taking Femara.



Just concerned about jumping from Birthcontrol to fertility meds like they do for IVF, wouldnt that screw me up?

Dr.Clandestine 1 angel baby; Stockholm, Sweden 1220 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" I'm going to try to keep up and respond to everyone as often as I can, it's just really hard right now, ... [snip!] ... had that were truly DHs and I didn't realize it would be this hard to cope. I wish I was having more strong times than sad ...."


I am so sorry for everything that is happening to you, I hope you get through this quickly, I can imagine the first few days of this being the hardest. This will make you stronger and clearer for going forward if you decide to.



From the experience with PCOS and trying for 3 years, I would look into solo therapy and heal from this yourself, then as a couple or do both at the same time.



Praying that you heal quick and yourself and your DH come out the other end of this strong.



IF is unfair, the people who deserve children the most are given the most heartbreak.

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2749 posts
30th Nov '12

I'm tired of fertile people who get pregnant on their own wanting to take Clomid just to have twins.. :roll:



If I had a choice I wouldn't take Clomid.

Dr.Clandestine 1 angel baby; Stockholm, Sweden 1220 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:" I'm tired of fertile people who get pregnant on their own wanting to take Clomid just to have twins.. :roll: If I had a choice I wouldn't take Clomid. "


Your brave for even taking Clomid.



I was a mess on it.



I agree BTW with you and want to add, I dont think OB-GYNs should be able to prescribe it, it is really abused.

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2749 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Hugger-Mugger:" Your brave for even taking Clomid. I was a mess on it. I agree BTW with you and want to add, I dont think OB-GYNs should be able to prescribe it, it is really abused."


The cancer risk scares me. I guess i'm just desperate, so that's why I take it. I'd rather be on Femara. I took Femara in March, I had no side effects.



I agree that Clomid is abused! I had an ex friend whose doctor gave her 6 months worth of Clomid. She had no insurance and was homeless when she got pregnant. Both her and her husband are druggies who mooch off the government. Most OBs don't monitor the patient on Clomid, I think everybody should be monitored.

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2749 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Hugger-Mugger:" I am so sorry for everything that is happening to you, I hope you get through this quickly, I can imagine ... [snip!] ... come out the other end of this strong. IF is unfair, the people who deserve children the most are given the most heartbreak."


Seeing a therapist is a good idea! My ex therapist deals with infertility issues.

Dr.Clandestine 1 angel baby; Stockholm, Sweden 1220 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:" The cancer risk scares me. I guess i'm just desperate, so that's why I take it. I'd rather be on Femara. ... [snip!] ... druggies who mooch off the government. Most OBs don't monitor the patient on Clomid, I think everybody should be monitored. "


I think this entire system is abused on both sides, I know of Women who do boutique IVF and do gender selection, and have no issues getting pregnant.



I feel the cost of alot of this is inflated to reflect it as well, I think it is ridiculous that IVF is on average 15k per try. Then again I have a hard time paying above 3.00 for gas, and 110 a week on groceries for 2 adults, just to eat healthy.




The cancer risk to all these treatments scared me, I have a strong family history of it on both sides, and fear that I will get breast or girl part cancer at some point, because My Grandmother and Aunt have. I just push it to another place till I have something questionable come up. Sorta out of sight, out of mind?

Dr.Clandestine 1 angel baby; Stockholm, Sweden 1220 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:" Seeing a therapist is a good idea! My ex therapist deals with infertility issues."


I am seeing one now that helped me past my M/C and seeing him now for stress issues.

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
30th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Hugger-Mugger:</b>" I am so sorry for everything that is happening to you, I hope you get through this quickly, I can imagine ... [snip!] ... come out the other end of this strong. IF is unfair, the people who deserve children the most are given the most heartbreak."</blockquote>



Thank you Hun I really appreciate that!! I think I may look into seeing a therapist. Thanks again!

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2749 posts
1st Dec '12

Today marks 2 years that we've been actively TTC with OPKs, charting, preseed.. :(

Dr.Clandestine 1 angel baby; Stockholm, Sweden 1220 posts
2nd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:</b>" Today marks 2 years that we've been actively TTC with OPKs, charting, preseed.. :("</blockquote>



My 3 year mark was thanksgiving.