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Non Verbal= extra worry vent. mama3trish 3 kids; Ontario 9524 posts
10th May '12

I just hate worrying all of the time about my son. I don't know if he has a sore throat, or rotten teeth, or just having serious issues with SPD. He doesn't eat hardly anything-we are down to peanut butter toast, and he mostly just licks the peanut butter. I made an appointment with a dentist, but the only way to check inside his mouth is to put him to sleep-he is that combative with being contained or restrained (fight or flight mentallity). I yearn for him to say "Look Mom my teeth hurt like a son of a b***h and I can't stand half of the food you offer me"-but I think I will be waiting a looooong time until I hear more than two words come out of his mouth. People say, just bring him to the doctors, but they have no clue as to the hell that incorperates. Getting through a door is sometimes hell (kicking screaming , running), let alone that I almost broke his neck once just trying to get him to take some meds (he turned his neck one way while I tried to turn it towards me to shove in some tylenol for a high fever)-I cried for an hour after I knew he was okay. The doctor seems unsure as to how to treat him, and seems releived when I tell him I had to bring him to the ER. f**k I just wish he could even sass me just once-seriously. Okay pity party over, thanks for listening and share if you can relate.

Rockmum 4 kids; Maryland 367 posts
10th May '12

I cannot even imagine how difficult this must be as a mother. I will send out good vibes to you and your little guy - all the best to you both!!!



((((mama))))

*Mrs. Varicose Veins* 5 kids; Chunky, Mississippi 22987 posts
10th May '12

My son didn't talk till 3. When he started preschool he wasn't potty trained and could only say 1 word. I was worried about what he couldn't tell me. He recently had surgery on his tonsils and adenoids and had tubes put it. I felt horrible because I am sure there were times he had a sore throat or his ears were bothering him and he couldn't tell me.

Zbornak 1 child; Moncton, New Brunswick 2688 posts
10th May '12

My two yr old is pretty resistant to dr and dentist visits too. It's tough, and all she does is cries and whines. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you. Can you bring stuff for him to play with in the waiting room? One of those portable dvd players with his favourite video, even? can you find any kids books about going to the Dr and dentist that you can read togeher every night? Just throwing some ideas out there.



Stay strong mama.

Crystal Chaffee Due October 20 (boy); 3 kids; New York 63 posts
10th May '12

Has he ever been evaluated for the condition? My son was 6 when they diagnosed him as ASD...he will be 10 this month. He isn't nonverbal and doesn't have a lot of problems...his symptoms are very mild. The only reason I ask is because he has a peanut butter obsession.

mama3trish 3 kids; Ontario 9524 posts
10th May '12
Quoting Rockmum:" I cannot even imagine how difficult this must be as a mother. I will send out good vibes to you and your little guy - all the best to you both!!! ((((mama))))"

Awe thanks so much.

mama3trish 3 kids; Ontario 9524 posts
10th May '12
Quoting *Mrs. Varicose Veins*:" My son didn't talk till 3. When he started preschool he wasn't potty trained and could only say 1 word. ... [snip!] ... felt horrible because I am sure there were times he had a sore throat or his ears were bothering him and he couldn't tell me. "

I'm happy that you found the solution. Unfortunately my son has ASD, so we have been doing speech for over a year and a half with little progression. His symptoms are fairly severe, and waiting for therapy is ridiculous. One facility we have been on the waiting list for at least a year and a half, the second is in the process of getting us into therapy but it will be another 6 months (so over a year) until they get himn in. He is eligable for intensive in home therapy. I can't friggen wait-seriously.

mama3trish 3 kids; Ontario 9524 posts
10th May '12
Quoting Zbornak:" My two yr old is pretty resistant to dr and dentist visits too. It's tough, and all she does is cries ... [snip!] ... about going to the Dr and dentist that you can read togeher every night? Just throwing some ideas out there. Stay strong mama."

Oh how I wish he had some kind of motivation or distraction toy-he has none, doesn't play with toys. He also won't sit anywhere near anyone, let alone look at a page of a book unless he is alone and viewing it by himself. But I appreciate the advice, whole heartedly.

mama3trish 3 kids; Ontario 9524 posts
10th May '12
Quoting Crystal Chaffee:" Has he ever been evaluated for the condition? My son was 6 when they diagnosed him as ASD...he will be ... [snip!] ... doesn't have a lot of problems...his symptoms are very mild. The only reason I ask is because he has a peanut butter obsession."

Yes I'm sorry I didn't include that in the OP. He has been diagnosed with Autism-he is moderate on a good day and severe on many others. I'm just glad he is licking peanut butter, at least there is a little protein in it right?lol. Thank you.

myr-a-myr 3 kids; Quebec 2280 posts
10th May '12

:cry: I hope it's nothing serious with his throat or teeth. My daughter has autism too with SPD and a severe speech delay. She barely eats anything and has phases where it's so much worse. She would refuse to eat anything!



When he screams does he open his mouth or does he scream through closed teeth? If he opens his mouth maybe you can have a quick peek? When Emily had her worse phase she creamed with her mouth opened for once and I saw white patches in her mouth and throat. She had thrush. I can also get her to open her mouth standing in front of the mirror. I look through the mirror, it's less invasive for her that way and she has fun holding a flash light pointing to her mouth.



What helps her to eat is I put a soft tooth brush on the table next to her plate. A cold wash cloth works too. After every bite she tends to scrub her tongue or bite the wash cloth but hey, she is taking bites!



If he refuses everything you can also try and give him some ensure for kids. Like chocolate or strawberry milkshakes. Emily only takes vanilla though and she thought it was too much flavor so I cut it with milk.



Hugs mama. I hope it gets better soon :(

mama3trish 3 kids; Ontario 9524 posts
10th May '12
Quoting myr-a-myr:" :cry: I hope it's nothing serious with his throat or teeth. My daughter has autism too with SPD and a ... [snip!] ... takes vanilla though and she thought it was too much flavor so I cut it with milk. Hugs mama. I hope it gets better soon :("

I try to follow him around and get a look, but usually when he is screaming he is flailing, and he won't open his mouth for anything or anyone. I've tried pediasure and he loved it for two days then looked disgusted when I offered it to him again and won't touch it since. The only good thing going into his body is a fishy gummy vitamin once a day-hopefully he won't refuse them. The wash cloth is actually a good idea since he likes to suck them in the bath-thanks I will try.I hope things get easier with your LO too.

user banned 2 kids; North Pole, Alaska 12410 posts
10th May '12

I'm going through something similar. We don't have a food issue though.