Victoria(: Due November 1; Columbus, Indiana 49 posts
10th May '12

So far i've bought everything for my baby and still will

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
10th May '12
Quoting Victoria(::" I used to try as in i don't anymore and after i have my baby i am getting a job"


But babies need things before they arrive. Not just after.



How are you going to afford all of that?
You need to have a plan and your finances figured out.
Just because you get pregnant doesn't mean you can keep it. You need to make sure you can provide for it first.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
10th May '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" Oh my god, really. You aren't her Mother. Just stop already."</blockquote>




Oh shut up. Obviously her mother isn't doing what she needs to support her kid.



A lot of young girls don't get how much a baby needs. A lot of grown women don't even know.
It takes planning. How is she going to finish school and work? Who's going to care for the baby? Where is,her emotional support going to come from?
Sorry, i'm not just going to say life's rough because kids at school make fun of her.
It happens, she needs to be an adult about it if she's going to be raising a child.



She no longer has the privelage of being a child. Rumors and hurtful words at schoo, need to be ignored and she needs to start thinking about how she's going to cope when an infant needs her 24/7, because that is much more overwhelming.

Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
10th May '12

Girl I am sorry but you should not be bringing a child into a world while you have all these issues. You are still a kid yourself and from what I've heard(seen) it is going to be a long time before you grow up. Please do not put a child through having a mother who wants to kill herself. First of all, it is selfish! I don't know your mom but I'm sure if you died she would definitely give a crap. I know how teenagers are and they're dramatic. If I were you, I would consider other options such as adoption or abortion. You need to help and take care of yourself before you even THINK about taking care of a baby. It's not the fact that you're 15, it's everything else you've been saying. PLEASE rethink you keeping this child.

Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
10th May '12
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" Oh my god, really. You aren't her Mother. Just ... [snip!] ... needs to start thinking about how she's going to cope when an infant needs her 24/7, because that is much more overwhelming."


No she needs to think about the other smarter options for her situation. Have an abortion/adoption, realize her mistake of opening her legs and get her shit together. ABSOLUTELY selfish to bring a child into the world like that.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
10th May '12
Quoting Just Ames:" Well it's good she has another teen mom giving her life lessons :roll:"


:lol:
Hah, I'm barely even a teenager.



And yeah, don't you think someone who dealt with the struggles and the stress would be the best person to tell her this?
I put my big girl panties on, because it was time to be a parent. She needs to do the same.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
10th May '12
Quoting Kelly+Brandon=Blake:" No she needs to think about the other smarter options for her situation. Have an abortion/adoption, ... [snip!] ... her mistake of opening her legs and get her shit together. ABSOLUTELY selfish to bring a child into the world like that."


Or to get her shit together? And the opening the legs thing is so stupid. She could have been on birth control, been uneducated about pregnancy, used a condom.
Telling her she shouldn't have opened her legs is f**king stupid.




She needs to get her shit together, or get rid of the kid. Just because she's having a hard time right now, doesn't mean she can't straighten out before that baby comes.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
10th May '12
Quoting Just Ames:" OMG :lol:"


Oh, I had a baby right before I turned 20. What a child I am :lol:

Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
10th May '12
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Or to get her shit together? And the opening the legs thing is so stupid. She could have been on birth ... [snip!] ... rid of the kid. Just because she's having a hard time right now, doesn't mean she can't straighten out before that baby comes."


How many times has she talked about killing herself? That's great you guys are egging her on to have a baby so she gets so stressed out that she ends up hurting her or the baby? Wow! No f**king wonder this world has gone off the deep end. Yeah, sorry but I don't have sympathy for a little girl who has severe depression issues who wants to bring a child into the world just so they have to deal with the same issues I'm sure her mom put on her. SELFISH!

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 17903 posts
10th May '12
Quoting Just Ames:" Well it's good she has another teen mom giving her life lessons :roll:"


BAM!!! :lol:

Milk Monster 2 kids; Arizona 9089 posts
10th May '12
Quoting Victoria(::" I have people in my school constaly calling me a hoe cause i lost my virgenity to this guy i was with ... [snip!] ... has apparently gone around and called me a hoe and he hates me but i don't how i am or what i did i just want to cry. . .HELP"


Can you do homeschooling? Online schooling? Alternative school?



I understand this is a huge change for you, it's hard enough without the other kids saying stuff about you. But if you can't find a way to do alternative schooling, you're just going to have to deal with it hon.

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 17903 posts
10th May '12
Quoting Kelly+Brandon=Blake:" No she needs to think about the other smarter options for her situation. Have an abortion/adoption, ... [snip!] ... her mistake of opening her legs and get her shit together. ABSOLUTELY selfish to bring a child into the world like that."


Oh stfu :? It's already happened. She doesn't want to abort or adopt out so all you can do it support her. Or.... f**k off. :idea:

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29028 posts
status 10th May '12

This thread is disgusting. Yes let's tell someone clearly unstable and needing help how selfish she is. Disgusting I tell ya.




Op, go speak to your school counselor. That's what they are there for. Calling you a hoe is a form of bullying and your school needs to put a stop to it. It would also be better to have someone sitting in front of you to confide in. Please go talk to him/her. Best of luck!

Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
10th May '12
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Oh, I had a baby right before I turned 20. What a child I am :lol:"


Like i said not about her age. Her ISSUES. It's amazing how I deal with people adopting every day who are financially stable, who are ready for a child and just want to bring a child into their happy lives. But yet kids can have kids because "OMG 16 and pregnant is like the coolest show ever..." But hey, do whatcha gotta do.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
10th May '12
Quoting Kelly+Brandon=Blake:" How many times has she talked about killing herself? That's great you guys are egging her on to have ... [snip!] ... who wants to bring a child into the world just so they have to deal with the same issues I'm sure her mom put on her. SELFISH!"


That's why I said she needed to get into therapy.
There are plenty of people who overcome depression, just because someone has had depression before doesn't mean they shouldn't be able to have kids.
If you read my first comment, I said she needed to explore her options, in no way am I egging her to keep that child.
But with proper therapy and eventually medication, she could overcome her depression and give her child the emotional support it needs.