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Mama Charli Due August 8; 6 kids; Texas 6387 posts
16th May '12
Quoting WeenieMachine:" Is that a common side effect? Mine are blocked, not tied and I don't have any between period bleeding."


Mine were tied, cut and burned. I dunno. I've been trying to find a new Gyno because mine shut down her office. I've posted about it twice but no answers about it other than they didn't go through it. just giving it some time to find a dr and imma find out ASAP

user banned 3 kids; Florence, South Carolina 39499 posts
16th May '12
Quoting Crystal Mom of 4:" I'm still coming to terms with that. It's very strange that I feel that way even though I know I don't ... [snip!] ... kids. My SO doesn't understand at all. When I tried to explain it to him he seemed to think that it meant I wanted more kids. "


I kinda still am too. I've accepted that it is how it is, but if given the chance to do it again, I would have made my husband get a vasectomy.

Crystal Mom of 4 4 kids; New York 6309 posts
16th May '12
Quoting Baby Big Head TM:" I kinda still am too. I've accepted that it is how it is, but if given the chance to do it again, I would have made my husband get a vasectomy. "


My ex-husband had a vasectomy. My SO was a huge baby about the thought of having it done. Our mutual child wasn't planned and I needed a permanent solution. Let me tell you I was jealous of my ex's recovery time after I had my tubal done. He walked in and out and had to ice himself for about a day. And my ex was a wuss about pain.



I don't quite understand why the loss of fertility bothers me since I don't want more kids. It makes it hard to explain it to anyone else. Strangely enough someone that I know said that she felt the same way when she went through menopause. I think I still feel a little resentful too because I felt like I had to have it done.

WeenieMachine 3 kids; Japan 27915 posts
16th May '12
Quoting Crystal Mom of 4:" My ex-husband had a vasectomy. My SO was a huge baby about the thought of having it done. Our mutual ... [snip!] ... way when she went through menopause. I think I still feel a little resentful too because I felt like I had to have it done."


Those are the emotions I went through before I could go through with it. I felt like I was breaking my body- taking something it was designed to do and irreparably damaging that. It felt odd to say that least to imagine not being able to get pregnant again when it's such a basic biological function.

user banned 3 kids; Florence, South Carolina 39499 posts
16th May '12
Quoting Crystal Mom of 4:" My ex-husband had a vasectomy. My SO was a huge baby about the thought of having it done. Our mutual ... [snip!] ... way when she went through menopause. I think I still feel a little resentful too because I felt like I had to have it done."


me too. i went through 2 c-sections and he couldn't even go have a tiny little operation done? :?



I talked to my mom about how I felt about it. She said she felt the same thing after her hysterectomy. I guess this is common, but people just don't really talk about it a lot.

Crystal Mom of 4 4 kids; New York 6309 posts
16th May '12
Quoting Baby Big Head TM:" me too. i went through 2 c-sections and he couldn't even go have a tiny little operation done? :? ... [snip!] ... said she felt the same thing after her hysterectomy. I guess this is common, but people just don't really talk about it a lot."


I can relate to that. I went through natural childbirth and then had the tubal at 6 weeks right after I had recovered. I'm terrified of needles. I had to go under general anesthesia (because I was way to freaked about being awake for surgery) and be away from my baby while breastfeeding. Then I ended up taking Tylenol for pain relief because what they prescribed me wasn't breastfeeding friendly. All of that could have been avoided with one simple in-office procedure on my SO's part.



Do you think men go through any of this after a vasectomy? It never seemed to bother my ex any but maybe he just didn't say anything about it.

amiyah has my heart 1 child; Houston, Texas 178 posts
25th Apr '13

I only have 1 I want mine done but can't! I guess for some women 1 is enough for others I guess more than 1 everbodys different