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user banned 3 kids; Florence, South Carolina 39499 posts
May 16th '12
Quoting Crystal Mom of 4:" I'm still coming to terms with that. It's very strange that I feel that way even though I know I don't ... [snip!] ... kids. My SO doesn't understand at all. When I tried to explain it to him he seemed to think that it meant I wanted more kids. "


I kinda still am too. I've accepted that it is how it is, but if given the chance to do it again, I would have made my husband get a vasectomy.

Crystal Mom of 4 4 kids; New York 6309 posts
May 16th '12
Quoting Baby Big Head TM:" I kinda still am too. I've accepted that it is how it is, but if given the chance to do it again, I would have made my husband get a vasectomy. "


My ex-husband had a vasectomy. My SO was a huge baby about the thought of having it done. Our mutual child wasn't planned and I needed a permanent solution. Let me tell you I was jealous of my ex's recovery time after I had my tubal done. He walked in and out and had to ice himself for about a day. And my ex was a wuss about pain.



I don't quite understand why the loss of fertility bothers me since I don't want more kids. It makes it hard to explain it to anyone else. Strangely enough someone that I know said that she felt the same way when she went through menopause. I think I still feel a little resentful too because I felt like I had to have it done.

WeenieMachine 3 kids; Japan 27915 posts
May 16th '12
Quoting Crystal Mom of 4:" My ex-husband had a vasectomy. My SO was a huge baby about the thought of having it done. Our mutual ... [snip!] ... way when she went through menopause. I think I still feel a little resentful too because I felt like I had to have it done."


Those are the emotions I went through before I could go through with it. I felt like I was breaking my body- taking something it was designed to do and irreparably damaging that. It felt odd to say that least to imagine not being able to get pregnant again when it's such a basic biological function.

user banned 3 kids; Florence, South Carolina 39499 posts
May 16th '12
Quoting Crystal Mom of 4:" My ex-husband had a vasectomy. My SO was a huge baby about the thought of having it done. Our mutual ... [snip!] ... way when she went through menopause. I think I still feel a little resentful too because I felt like I had to have it done."


me too. i went through 2 c-sections and he couldn't even go have a tiny little operation done? :?



I talked to my mom about how I felt about it. She said she felt the same thing after her hysterectomy. I guess this is common, but people just don't really talk about it a lot.

Crystal Mom of 4 4 kids; New York 6309 posts
May 16th '12
Quoting Baby Big Head TM:" me too. i went through 2 c-sections and he couldn't even go have a tiny little operation done? :? ... [snip!] ... said she felt the same thing after her hysterectomy. I guess this is common, but people just don't really talk about it a lot."


I can relate to that. I went through natural childbirth and then had the tubal at 6 weeks right after I had recovered. I'm terrified of needles. I had to go under general anesthesia (because I was way to freaked about being awake for surgery) and be away from my baby while breastfeeding. Then I ended up taking Tylenol for pain relief because what they prescribed me wasn't breastfeeding friendly. All of that could have been avoided with one simple in-office procedure on my SO's part.



Do you think men go through any of this after a vasectomy? It never seemed to bother my ex any but maybe he just didn't say anything about it.

amiyah has my heart 1 child; Houston, Texas 178 posts
Apr 25th '13

I only have 1 I want mine done but can't! I guess for some women 1 is enough for others I guess more than 1 everbodys different