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Just sharing... Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
18th May '12

Many of us have those "moments" where our kids are testing our patience and such. I found this webiste with these amazing free printable chore charts, behavior charts and "reward" coupons that you can print.



In preschool, they were giving my twins coupons that said "caught being good". It really encouraged them to go above and beyond in the classroom to get one of these. I figured it couldn't hurt to use them at home now that we are working on a "chore" list and such. They start at age 3. Those of us with preschool age kids know that age 3-4 is the testing period BIG TIME! lol Anyway, I thought you all might want to search out this site. It also has some great articles and tips for parenting.



http://www.freeprintablebehaviorcharts.com/chore%20charts%204-10%20pdf/chorechart%20hellokitty.pdf




Let me know what you think!

usernametx Texas 19748 posts
18th May '12

I have a strong dislike for manipulation and control through punishment and reward. This sums up some of the reasons >



http://www.alfiekohn.org/teaching/pdf/Punished%20by%20Rewards.pdf



I don't like to use the crowd control measures of a classroom in my loving home. I like the quote "Rewards, like punishments, can sometimes be effective at eliciting temporary compliance. What they can never do is help people to develop a commitment to whatever behavior they engaged in. You can

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
18th May '12

So are you saying that by rewarding a child for a good deed is a manipulation?

usernametx Texas 19748 posts
18th May '12
Quoting Not tellin:" So are you saying that by rewarding a child for a good deed is a manipulation?"


If it is preplanned and the intended outcome is to make them do it again. As opposed to randomly recognizing what they have done so they know you are interested and genuinely warmed by the action. So they feel pride in themselves rather than doing it just to please others and gain approval or rewards.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
18th May '12
Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" If it is preplanned and the intended outcome is to make them do it again. As opposed to randomly recognizing ... [snip!] ... warmed by the action. So they feel pride in themselves rather than doing it just to please others and gain approval or rewards."


It is pre-planned on my part to give them one of these coupons for sleeping in their own bed. It is also pre-planned for me to put stickers on their chore charts.



However, I don't intend on giving them a "coupon" every day just randomly. It is my FULL intent to mark off on their chore chart that they did their chores each day. Call it a check list if you will.



I ALWAYS praise my children for good behavior. Because of this I RARELY have behavior issues with them. We can go to the park and mine will always be the ones who stay in the intended area and within site. They know what is expected and are praise for doing such.



IMHO~ I would rather someone over praise their child for a job well done that beat them for not.