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torn.... TNMOMMA1006 3 kids; Tennessee 586 posts
23rd May '12

I am preg with my ex bf baby, hubby and i have decided to get back to gether.... It has been huge drama between hubby and ex.. they wanna kill each other pretty much! I have no excitement towards this pregnancy and really dont need all this stress and drama that is coming with it... i have 2 kids already.... i have read about a pill you can take that ends the pregnancy.... I dont know if i could go through with it.... this child doesnt deserve the type of life that awaits him... my ex wont even consider me letting someone adopt the baby... they could give him a wonderful home!!! I am one of those people who has always been dead against the A word..... but i have actually been thinking alot about that pill.. not the actual procedure..... will the guilt and what ifs ever go away? is it the right decision? No decision i feel i am going to make is gonna be the right one :(

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
23rd May '12

I'm sorry your going through this. *hugs*

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6913 posts
23rd May '12

how far along are you? the pill is only for early stages.

GetItGirl 2 kids; Virginia 2201 posts
23rd May '12

you can only do the pill until 8 weeks too just FYI

☠Dawn[+Cambria] 1 child; New Jersey 2159 posts
23rd May '12

I'm not so sure about a pill that will end pregnancy... I know there is a pill out there called "Plan B" but you have to take that right after you have sex, it won't work if you're already pregnant. If you are completely against abortion, have you considered adoption? I know both are an extremely tough choice but if you really don't have any good feeling towards keeping the baby I would deeply consider your options but I don't think the pill you're thinking of is one :/

Mama Crash ☮ Due April 2; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Ocoee, Florida 15509 posts
23rd May '12

My suggestion is take more time to think about it. Don't do anything when you still feel bad about it. If you really don't feel like you can go through with it, don't. How far along are you?



And by the way, your ex has no say over whether you abort or adopt the baby. Only you can decide what to do next.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
23rd May '12

Don't do anything you will regret. But think of how that child's life would be, the possibility of thinking of your ex every time you see the child.



My mom has had an abortion and has no regrets because she knew that it was best.

Punky's mommie 1 child; Tennessee 425 posts
23rd May '12

how far along are you? did you just find out? I would talk to someone other then the BD and husband.. but whatever you do make sure you feel it is the right choice in your heart!! Don't do something to please someone else. If you know someone that woukd give the baby a good home and healthy enviorment I would do that spite what the 2 men in your life say. Think of the baby as you make your choice. good luck momma.

☠Dawn[+Cambria] 1 child; New Jersey 2159 posts
23rd May '12
Quoting Mama Crash ☮:" My suggestion is take more time to think about it. Don't do anything when you still feel bad about it. ... [snip!] ... are you? And by the way, your ex has no say over whether you abort or adopt the baby. Only you can decide what to do next. "

:!: I completely agree with this too.

Lotus Mama Due January 19; 1 child; British Columbia 1501 posts
23rd May '12

If you have had unprotected sex withing the last 72 hours then you can take plan B to make sure that you don't get pregnant.

I don't think there is any pill you can take after the fact that will do anything.

If you think you are pregnant go see your family doctor and discuss your options. If you are getting back together with your husband then take him with you so you can discus it together.

Either way, you have to decide what is best for the whole family including you, your husband, and your two children. Everyone makes mistakes, do you really want a permanent tie to your ex bf? How would a child feel being raised by a father who hates his bio-dad? I think that there are many cases when abortion is the best answer for the whole family. Only you, with the support of your husband, can decide if it is the best choice for you.

Lotus Mama Due January 19; 1 child; British Columbia 1501 posts
23rd May '12
Quoting KaityBoo:" you can only do the pill until 8 weeks too just FYI"


Okay, I guess there is a pill for after conception. That is awesome!

(Your situation is NOT awesome, it is difficult - I just mean that it is awesome that there are more choices available to women when an ooops happens)

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
23rd May '12
Quoting ☠Dawn[+Cambria]:" I'm not so sure about a pill that will end pregnancy... I know there is a pill out there called "Plan ... [snip!] ... feeling towards keeping the baby I would deeply consider your options but I don't think the pill you're thinking of is one :/"

Yes it is an option, it is an abortion.

TNMOMMA1006 3 kids; Tennessee 586 posts
23rd May '12

I am 6wks today. I was hoping i would just have a miscarriage since my progesterone dropped from 20 to 11 then back up to 13. They want me to take prometrium but i will not. I know deep down this pill i ahve read about may be the best option. I have an attorney looking into adoption for me on what i can do without bd. My husband said he would even sign the birth certificate. i am moving out of state in a few weeks and i can easily tell bd i lost the baby..... The couple who would take this baby would give him a life i could never imagine! He would be so spoiled and so very well taken care of!

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
23rd May '12
Quoting KaityBoo:" you can only do the pill until 8 weeks too just FYI"

Here it is 12 or 14 weeks. I can't remember but I think it varies from state to state.

Mama Crash ☮ Due April 2; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Ocoee, Florida 15509 posts
23rd May '12
Quoting TNmarriedmomma:" I am 6wks today. I was hoping i would just have a miscarriage since my progesterone dropped from 20 to ... [snip!] ... who would take this baby would give him a life i could never imagine! He would be so spoiled and so very well taken care of!"


Honey, I think honestly, in your heart, you've already made your decision. You want to give this baby a good home, from what I'm gathering, so do that. The father has absolutely NOTHING to do with any of this. You don't even have to tell him when or if the child is born, nor do you have to give him ANY details about anything. Best of luck to you, honey.