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Mommy Cow Due October 2 (boy); 2 kids; Somerset, Kentucky 450 posts
25th May '12

It doesn't make you a slut to have two kids at 17. I had my second child when i was 17. I was with their dad for almost five years. If you can support a child in the right ways and make sure their taken care of and not neglected. Age don't make the momma IMO. I'm 20 now and looking back it was hard , and it taught me alot of lessons. But i wouldn't change it for the world

Chrissy Horsfield Due December 6 (girl); 2 kids; United Kingdom 4 posts
26th May '12

im 19 and im pregnant with my thrid..



i dont think people should judge when they dont know anything i had my 1st (son) when i was 17 i was 16 when i got caught i then went on the pill and it obviously didnt work and i got caught with my daughter when my son was just 3 months old my children are now nearly 3 and 18 months old.. im 12 weeks pregnant obviously not planned.. but people like to judge me too saying im a slut ect even though all of my babies dad (including the one im expecting) i am married too we have been married nearly 2 year and have been together 4 years.. people shouldnt judge before they know full facts as long as mum baby and daddy are happy then whatever anyone else thinks doesnt matter!

Amber Villagran Ramirez Due August 13 (girl); 2 kids; Fort Atkinson, Wisconsin 51 posts
27th May '12

its her life...all you can do is support her and be a good friend..it dont matter what anyone says or thinks...its not their life

A M B E R Due October 25 (girl); 1 child; Windsor, Ontario 128 posts
27th May '12

My friend had baby # 1 with BD #1 when she was just barely 17, a planned pregnancy. Second baby there was no precaution taken, I think she wanted to get pregnant she had baby fever really bad!




She completed highschool during her second pregnancy and is now enrolled at our local college and is attending in september & her and new BD are together.
But one thing is that she expected to have an easy baby like her first son, but he's not. He cries a lot doesn't like his swing or his chair he barely takes a soother and he stays up all night. She's exhausted and BD works all day so she gets little help from him even though when he does help he's wonderful.



She's struggling but she knows things will get a bit better. I wouldn't ever call her a slut, not exactly wise of her to have two children so young, but if she can support her children and be a good mom then to hell what everyone else thinks!

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
27th May '12

Better her than me.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
28th May '12

It always gets to me when a young mother gets called a "slut" simply because she has 1+ kids. I personally would have never put myself in a situation like that, having just one child at any age is hard enough. I can only imagine having two, not to mention a lot of jobs now a days require high school diplomas. In my opinion having a child so young may have been a mistake, having two + is just being stupid. However, I think that worrying about what people are saying about her is the last thing she should be doing. People are always going to judge, if she spends her time worrying about that she shouldn't be having kids in the first place.

A M B E R Due October 25 (girl); 1 child; Windsor, Ontario 128 posts
28th May '12
Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" It always gets to me when a young mother gets called a "slut" simply because she has 1+ kids. I personally ... [snip!] ... People are always going to judge, if she spends her time worrying about that she shouldn't be having kids in the first place. "


Most people in general worry about what other people think, especially in a small town it's gotta be hard. I just don't think its fair to say that some one with insecurities shouldn't have children. She can think about what other people are gonna say she just needs to focus on how to prove them wrong .

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
28th May '12
Quoting A M B E R:" Most people in general worry about what other people think, especially in a small town it's gotta be hard. I just don't think its fair to say that some one with insecurities shouldn't have children. She can think about what other people are gonna say she just needs to focus on how to prove them wrong."


Thank God I live in a big city. We all have different opinions and I'm sorry but I think having insecurities has nothing to do with being a teenage mother of two and worrying about what people say.



I think she got an idea that people talk down on teenage mothers when she got pregnant the first time. She's the one who choose to have sex and get pregnant again.

A M B E R Due October 25 (girl); 1 child; Windsor, Ontario 128 posts
29th May '12
Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" Thank God I live in a big city. We all have different opinions and I'm sorry but I think having insecurities ... [snip!] ... down on teenage mothers when she got pregnant the first time. She's the one who choose to have sex and get pregnant again. "


Well when people worry about judgement it's because of insecurities, that's how human behavior works. I agree on the fact that she should have been prepared for the judgement, she knew it was coming.
But when I was pregnant I worried about people judging me a lot, I just proved them all wrong.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
29th May '12
Quoting A M B E R:" Well when people worry about judgement it's because of insecurities, that's how human behavior works. ... [snip!] ... she knew it was coming. But when I was pregnant I worried about people judging me a lot, I just proved them all wrong. "


I'm sorry but I fail to see how a teenager having two kids, worrying about what other people may think has anything to do with insecurities.

She should've known from the first time she got pregnant. She was the one who made a stupid decision and got her self in that situation all over again.



Like I said, a teenager having a kid might have been a mistake having 2+ is being plain stupid so no I don't feel pity for them.

Your situation is understandable because you only have one kid so yes you may worry about what other people say. Every teen does. Then again, this is OP's friend 2nd child at 17. :roll:

Love what it is.. 1 child; Vidalia, Louisiana 1415 posts
1st Jun '12

Thanks everyone! Alot of that made her feel good!! May 30th around 8pm she had a healthy 7lb 10oz baby girl,Grace Anne!(: she is so precious!! And her big brother loves her to death! And I can already tell Hannah is gonna be a really good mommy to 2!