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Don't like my boyfriends kids! Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
28th May '12

I used to get along with my boyfriends kids until last week. Graduation was the week before and out of the blue my boyfriends ex wife said said dont bring your girlfriend or your baby daughter to the graduation. She just wanted it to be the two of them and the kids. Keep in my I was previously invited by the daughter that was graduating the week before. So this caught me off guard. Well I went anyways and of course his ex was mad and had mean remarks to say about me and my daughter. The graduation ended and I was sure the drama was left behind as well...but I was wrong. Apparently my boyfriends son went through my phone and seen where I said his mom was acting like a
Stupid b***h and told her and got his sisters and the mother back against me. I was getting harassing text messages talking about all three of them were gonna jump me. They said both of my kids are mistakes and I should have had an abortion. So yesterday i was surprised when all three just popped up at my apartment and were talking a bunch of crap about me to their father in my apartment . I came up front and said if you are gonna be in my apartment you can't talk shit about me or you have to go. That's when all three tried to jump me. My boyfriend held them back and pushed everybody outside while I called the police. The police got them removed but I am just nervous bc I know this is not Over. I don't know what to do since these are my boyfriends kids. I need advice. I know I shouldn't feel like this but I don't want my boyfriend around them since the mother has got them against me for no reason.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 21465 posts
status 28th May '12

Is your boyfriend not a good father? He needs to be the one handling this situation, they are his kids.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
28th May '12

Are your children his?
That's a scary situation to be in. I gotta say at first when I read the title of the post I was going to jump to comclusions and think that you were at fault but after reading that... I think they all need to grow up and mind their own business. If they don't like you (or if their mother is persuading them to not like you) then that is their issue, but they have NO right to try and lay their hands on you. That's immature as hell. You were absolutely right in calling the police.

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
28th May '12

You all need to get together. Try to make amends with the mother first. You guys are a family unit, and you will all have to deal with each other for the rest of your lives because you have children involved.

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
28th May '12

Well that's a really crappy situation. I suggest you all look into family counseling or third party mediation.
At this point, I'd tell your DH that the older children aren't welcome in your home for awhile. You can't keep him from his kids. If I was him though, I'd be mightly upset with those kids.
As for the Mom...she's got serious issues.

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
28th May '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Colt's mommy:</b>" Is your boyfriend not a good father? He needs to be the one handling this situation, they are his kids. "</blockquote>




He is a great father and was a very active part of their life until the mother of the kids plotted them against me. It's hard for him now bc I have done nothing wrong. I don't want him to choose between me and his kids but before they can ever come back they need to realize their mom is wrong for what she did and need an apology. Which will never happen. They are not my kids btw. My boyfriend and I have a 10 month old.

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
28th May '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting NIC☮LE:</b>" Are your children his? That's a scary situation to be in. I gotta say at first when I read the title ... [snip!] ... they have NO right to try and lay their hands on you. That's immature as hell. You were absolutely right in calling the police."</blockquote>



No not my kids.. And thanks

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
28th May '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Blissful Six:</b>" Well that's a really crappy situation. I suggest you all look into family counseling or third party mediation. ... [snip!] ... keep him from his kids. If I was him though, I'd be mightly upset with those kids. As for the Mom...she's got serious issues."</blockquote>




The kids won't do counseling with us bc the mother likes to be in charge of everything and every situation.

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
28th May '12

I think that you shouldn't have gone to the graduation, I can understand his ex wanting it to be more private. It's a big things having a child graduate. The son shouldn't have gone through the phone but I can also understand him feeling like he needs to defend his mom. I don't think the lengths they are going to are acceptable AT ALL though. You need to protect yourself and your boyfriend needs to get his kids in order. You can't expect him to not be around them and I actually feel like the mother has a good reason to be upset with you.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 21465 posts
status 28th May '12
Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Colt's mommy:</b>" Is your boyfriend not a good father? He needs ... [snip!] ... what she did and need an apology. Which will never happen. They are not my kids btw. My boyfriend and I have a 10 month old."


If he's a great father then I don't understand why there's such a big problem. They obviously don't respect him if they can come in to his home, talk shit about his girlfriend and other child and then try and beat her up right in front of him, right?

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
28th May '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:</b>" You all need to get together. Try to make amends with the mother first. You guys are a family unit, and ... [snip!] ... a family unit, and you will all have to deal with each other for the rest of your lives because you have children involved. "</blockquote>




Wish it was that easy but I know that me as the mother will never get along. She is a control freak and thinks she is always right.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 21465 posts
status 28th May '12
Quoting 3 little monsters:" I think that you shouldn't have gone to the graduation, I can understand his ex wanting it to be more ... [snip!] ... order. You can't expect him to not be around them and I actually feel like the mother has a good reason to be upset with you. "


I definitely would have gone to the graduation. Yeah it caused an issue but it was dumb. It's her boyfriends child graduating, whom she was getting along with before, she wanted to be there for support! Now, maybe if there was a graduation party afterwards at the mothers house she could have just gone back home and leave it at that.

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
28th May '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting 3 little monsters:</b>" I think that you shouldn't have gone to the graduation, I can understand his ex wanting it to be more ... [snip!] ... order. You can't expect him to not be around them and I actually feel like the mother has a good reason to be upset with you. "</blockquote>



The daughter invited me to her graduation. She is 18 an adult. Also when he got their she had her boyfriend and the daughter had a bunch of friends.

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
28th May '12
Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 3 little monsters:</b>" I think that you shouldn't have gone ... [snip!] ... me to her graduation. She is 18 an adult. Also when he got their she had her boyfriend and the daughter had a bunch of friends."


Well you said in the OP that she only wanted it to be them and the kids so of course I'm going to assume she wanted a private party. I probably would have called the daughter and talked to her first, asked who all was coming and if she still wanted me to come.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
28th May '12
Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:" <blockquote><b>Quoting NIC☮LE:</b>" Are your children his? That's a scary situation ... [snip!] ... That's immature as hell. You were absolutely right in calling the police."</blockquote> No not my kids.. And thanks"


So the two of you do not have any children together? If you haven't been seeing eachother for very long, have no children and you can't see yourself and his children/their mother ever getting along then I would seriously have a sit down and see where the relationship is headed. If you guys are serious, that's great! But if not.. I would consider cutting ties. I know that is a lot to do but if you guys stay together and you and the children can never get along, that is not a good situation for anyone.