Parents Kylees Mom Due April 11; Nampa, Idaho 11 posts4th Jun '12
Does anyone elses mothers drive them crazy with there babies?? And everytime im around her she NEVER lets me have her even when my baby is throwing a big fit. everytime I try taking her "cuz she has her mom cry and im what she wants" my mom gets all but hurt and says im fine I have her!! How do you deal with it? Most people have problems with mother in laws but mine is with my mom? Any ideas on how to not let this bug me? Sorry for it being so long!!
.nnnb British Columbia 18155 posts4th Jun '12
Quoting Kylees Mom:" Does anyone elses mothers drive them crazy with there babies?? And everytime im around her she NEVER ... [snip!] ... problems with mother in laws but mine is with my mom? Any ideas on how to not let this bug me? Sorry for it being so long!!"
thats not very long actually lol.
My mom thinks she is the worlds best parent becuase my daughter is obsessed with her. But its actually becasue my mom is incapable of saying no and thinks you can "negotiate" with toddlers and preschoolers. WRONG. All it does is make me look like the bad guy for sticking to my guns about limits. Very annoying.
karenanne 2 kids; Cornwall, Ontario 3826 posts4th Jun '12
i dont have that problem with my parents, but i do with a friend. every time she is here she tries to take over my job as mommy. its really annoying. cassidy as having a fit in her chair yesterday so i took her out and she hold out her arms and tries to take her from me. i was like...umm no thats ok i can handle this
Traci Powell 2 kids; South Carolina 2019 posts4th Jun '12
I just deal with it..oneday moms not gonna be here and ill wish I had another day of stuff like that so I just leave it alone and enjoy the time I have with her.
usernametx Texas 19748 posts4th Jun '12
Quoting SmashleynSmallyPants:" thats not very long actually lol. My mom thinks she is the worlds best parent becuase my daughter ... [snip!] ... and preschoolers. WRONG. All it does is make me look like the bad guy for sticking to my guns about limits. Very annoying. "
I agree with your mom. Non violent communication means communicating rather than just talking at someone and negotiation is an important principle. It means articulating your needs and responding without accusation or blame and understanding both view points. It accepts that we all have ultimately the same basic needs and there can be mutual compassion in reaching them. Negotiation does not mean that one person wins and one losses. It's not a power struggle or setting a limit that only takes into account one persons needs. Negotiation means working together for the benefit of both people. It encourages free thinking and is centered on respect and compassion, which ideally is what most people would like to model and teach their children. So they can grow up understanding their needs and knowing how to effectively communicate and get what they want respectfully, whilst also not causing others to have unmet needs. Sticking to your guns is generally inflexible and causes power struggles, does not respect or even consider the other persons needs behind their want and is generally the opposite of all the positive benefits of NVCC.
Wana swap moms? i think you'd like mine, and i'd get along with yours :lol: