Dr. Elliot Reid ; 1 child; New Zealand 8956 posts
5th Jun '12
Quoting wombie:" I think she's just very tired and very frustrated let her vent"

Thank you, I am tired and frustrated, but like I said I love her with all my heart so no, adoption is not an option.

princess♕peach Broken Bow, Oklahoma 963 posts
5th Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting wombie:</b>" I think she's just very tired and very frustrated let her vent"</blockquote>




well I know. I understand that. but if she thinks she's not made for it then it's still an option.

r a b b i t ™ Somewhere, US, United States 27547 posts
5th Jun '12

It gets better, hon. I remember those days very clearly, and trust me...it does get better. My youngest wouldn't sleep unless she was swaddled tight or in someone's arms until she was 10 months old, and often slept for an hour here and an hour there instead of anything straight through.

Candis♥ 34 kids; Missouri 10350 posts
5th Jun '12
Quoting ❥peαch:" :? are you serious... maybe you should put her up for adoption?"


Everyone has their moments. Some may not necessarily say they HATE being a parent, but everyone gets to a breaking point. This was uncalled for. She's obviously reaching out for help.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
5th Jun '12

I never wanted kids. Long story short ended up raped and left with a kid and psycho mother. He's almost 4 now and it's better. The grand slam was ending up with 2 (got my Mirena recently). If I by some strange miracle end up pregnant again I'm not going to keep it. I already had issues though. I never had a good childhood and I get anxious all the time about what I'm doing wrong that I can just shut down sometimes and do the bare min and hate myself for it. I never bonded with my oldest but I did with the second and he keeps me going everyday

~Carole~ Due February 12; 3 kids; Round Rock, Texas 1507 posts
5th Jun '12

All babies are different..Things will get better though. Try to nap when she does, it's the only thing that kept me sane.

user banned Beverly Hills, California 36921 posts
5th Jun '12
Quoting milo456:" Thank you, I am tired and frustrated, but like I said I love her with all my heart so no, adoption is not an option."


none of your current feelings mean that you dont love her. i promise.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
5th Jun '12
Quoting ❥peαch:" :? are you serious... maybe you should put her up for adoption?"



wtf... why do people always say this when they are having a bad day??


OP, soundsl ike your tired and stressed. Can you get a break somehow.

i know its hard, but it gets better

princess♕peach Broken Bow, Oklahoma 963 posts
5th Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting milo456:</b>" Thank you, I am tired and frustrated, but like I said I love her with all my heart so no, adoption is not an option."</blockquote>



Oh okay, we'll them neverind. I was taking it a different way, I thought that you didn't want her. but anyway, it gets better. they grow out of it, don't worry! believe it or not we. she gets bigger you will miss these times lol

jenn♥[+2] 2 kids; Sacramento, California 7599 posts
5th Jun '12

It does get better eventually.
I felt like that for awhile, DD was an awesome sleeper from day 1 then when she was like 8 months old she went through a phase where she wouldnt sleep but maybe 4 hours at night (sporadically, not all at once) and then be up the whole day. I thought I was going crazy. It DOES get better and you DO have what it takes.
Im sorry you feel this way right now though. Maybe have someone come watch her so you can get some sleep?

Mombom 4 kids; Minnesota 2588 posts
5th Jun '12

You may have Post-Partum depression, and it sounds to me like it's time for you to ask for some help.
Pregnancy and childbirth are nearly impossible to recover from, and it is impossible to enjoy life when you haven't had enough sleep. So call a friend or a relative and ask for some help.
You have what it takes to be a mother. One of the things it takes is to learn when you've hit your limits and how to take care of yourself.
Make yourself good food.
Take your vitamins. Take extra vitamin B complex. Also have your D and iron levels checked and correct that if necessary.
Get some rest.
Let the houskeeping keep for a while.
Each day, think of three things you are grateful for.
Spend time doing something you enjoy each day.

princess♕peach Broken Bow, Oklahoma 963 posts
5th Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" wtf... why do people always say this when they are having a bad day?? OP, soundsl ike your tired and stressed. Can you get a break somehow. i know its hard, but it gets better"</blockquote>




Lol shut up, I was telli f her it was an option. I wasn't kicking her.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
5th Jun '12

if you still feel that way when your LO is older, you probably should think about not having anymore, but if your LO is still littke (i didnt look to see how old) its pretty normal to feel overwhelmed, i wouldnt go as far as sayign what you did, but people need sleep, and its very hard the first few months with a baby. it does get better tho, if you feel like you need help (anti depressants, whatever) you should definatly seek it tho.

Zoe&Harper's Mom (Em) 2 kids; Alabama 16920 posts
5th Jun '12

LOL I was just venting on facebook how I feel like death. My kid got up at 2:30 then at 3:00 and was up from 4:30 to 6:30 and then cat napped for 30 mins at a time til 9. Not to mention that for several weeks wouldn't let me sleep longer than 1 hour at a time. It is killing me as well b/c I can't nap b/c I also have a 3 year old. But I promise that once my kid got to about 9 months she would sleep 12 hours straight. I hate thinking it will be that long but it did become more fun. And whoever said think about adoption needs to stop with that. Some of us moms just tell it how it is. Maybe being a mom isn't all roses to us! I love my kids but do I sometimes think about how it was before kids..YES I DO!

Mama of *3* TTC since Feb 2013; 3 kids; Wisconsin 15846 posts
5th Jun '12

I just turned 24 and have an almost 3 year old (in 4 days), a 17 month old as of yesterday and a baby due June 22nd. I still feel that way sometimes.



There are good days and bad days and REALLY bad days...on those days I just wish I hadnt had kids. I love them more than this world but its NOT easy all the time. Especially being a single parent (I am)