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My 3 month old throws a tantrum when someone else holds her Natalietaylor Due March 15; Arizona 3 posts
7th Jun '12

I don't know what to do about it. It's not a small cry either, she wails. It even takes her a long time to calm down even after they give her back to me. Is there something I can do? Everywhere I read it says that 3 months is too young to start acting like this.

andthesenights 1 child; Virginia 4358 posts
7th Jun '12

It isn't a tantrum. It's anxiety, she's scared, she doesn't know these people. It's perfectly normal for her to be scared about strangers, YOU are her world. Right now she thinks she is connected to you, like you're the same person. She will eventually outgrow this. Do not try to 'correct' or 'punish' this behavior.

andthesenights 1 child; Virginia 4358 posts
7th Jun '12

Double post.

WeenieMachine 3 kids; Japan 27915 posts
7th Jun '12
Quoting andthesenights:" It isn't a tantrum. It's anxiety, she's scared, she doesn't know these people. It's perfectly normal ... [snip!] ... to you, like you're the same person. She will eventually outgrow this. Do not try to 'correct' or 'punish' this behavior. "



This exactly. She's having massive separation anxiety.

Pretty ♥ face Japan 1225 posts
7th Jun '12

A 3 month old is not capable of throwing tantrums.

. Way, MA, United States 73772 posts
7th Jun '12

It's not a tantrum, it's crying. That's how the communicate and if she's crying that hard then she's saying she isn't comfortable with other people right now.

Deborah Stechschulte 3 kids; Ohio 2565 posts
7th Jun '12

Try staying very close to her when you hand her to someone else, so she can still see you maybe?



Then again when my kids were little they met people they just DID NOT like -- I made reasonable excuses for my kids but it happened with both kids, same people, same reaction



although ANYONE? no...my kids had favorite people; just keep reassuring her and stay close so she can see you while others hold her

Gir is a Slytherin TTC since May 2012; 3 kids; Iowa 3307 posts
7th Jun '12
Quoting andthesenights:" It isn't a tantrum. It's anxiety, she's scared, she doesn't know these people. It's perfectly normal ... [snip!] ... to you, like you're the same person. She will eventually outgrow this. Do not try to 'correct' or 'punish' this behavior. "


What she said ^^

furrbabiesmommy 18 kids; California 16570 posts
7th Jun '12
Quoting andthesenights:" It isn't a tantrum. It's anxiety, she's scared, she doesn't know these people. It's perfectly normal ... [snip!] ... to you, like you're the same person. She will eventually outgrow this. Do not try to 'correct' or 'punish' this behavior. "

This.
babies really think you and them are the same person for about a year and half-2 years depending on the child. At least that s what the head nurse was telling us.
My daughter never had those fits. she pretty much likes everyone. I just handed her to people ( fam, friends, not strangers) all the time when she was little. I never made a big deal about it.