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So is abortion the best choice if I don't mc? sadlife11 Due December 15; Henderson, Nevada 58 posts
12th Jun '12

I'm 18... I'm 14 weeks off my lmp. It looks about 13 weeks though. I have had bad time back in april I was worried I was pregnant I tested positive then I got what I thought was my period. So I stopped worried about it. But I've been pretty depressed since my 18th birthday... I stay online pretending I'm something I'm not that I live a great life with friends when I've been isolated all my life... I sleep. I graze on food all day anything not to really live been doing this as much as possible since 16 but completely because this way when I was 18... I used to write to escape since I was 11 maybe even 9. I haven't really felt alive since my laast interactions. My mom kept me in made me stay inside. I left at 18 but having no support system I went to a shelter. So I end up pregnant. I'm now back at my mom's and she tells me that I don't ever deserve to be a mom that I'm not staying there unless I have an abortion. I honestly have no feelings really it's all just a fog about the pregnancy itself I started bleeding again the morning of the scheduled abortion but I went to the hospital and it still has a heartbeat but I'm bleeding heavier than before... I also don't have a job or money really. Barely can afford a bus ticket myself... I don't even know emotionally if I can handle a pregnancy with this. I don't know what I think of it. I don't have any love but hate? I don't know it's like I don't feel it's presence afterall I look the same... I thought this could be good out of a very bad situation... But not if that lands me back to shelter... Advice?

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
12th Jun '12

thats up to you..

if i were you id probably abort or adopt because your lamost in your 2nd trimester

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
12th Jun '12

You're almost at the cut-off week for abortion, so you should decide quickly. But if you aren't sure, don't do it. If you end up not being able to parent farther in your pregnancy, there's always adoption. Good luck with your decision, don't let anybody decide it for you though.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
12th Jun '12
Quoting ma ♥:" You're almost at the cut-off week for abortion, so you should decide quickly. But if you aren't sure, ... [snip!] ... farther in your pregnancy, there's always adoption. Good luck with your decision, don't let anybody decide it for you though."


Agreed.

Momma x 2 18 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 1371 posts
12th Jun '12

I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time. Honestly, I'm not sure anyone can answer your question, its something you need to decide on your own. I wish you the best of luck!

sadlife11 Due December 15; Henderson, Nevada 58 posts
12th Jun '12

not in nevada there are two I could go to that go up to 18 or 24 weeks I wouldn't wait that long probably cost a ton if I got it done it would be no longer then in these 3 weeks....

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
12th Jun '12
Quoting sadlife11:" not in nevada there are two I could go to that go up to 18 or 24 weeks I wouldn't wait that long probably cost a ton if I got it done it would be no longer then in these 3 weeks...."


is there anyway you can find a program for homelss young adults and try to find a job and just get on your feet the best you can?? evem if you try to get financial aid or something progroms will help you find a place to live

sadlife11 Due December 15; Henderson, Nevada 58 posts
12th Jun '12
Quoting Momma x 2:" I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time. Honestly, I'm not sure anyone can answer your question, its something you need to decide on your own. I wish you the best of luck!"


really I guess my decision is made on a few things I guess my future just is uncertain...

sadlife11 Due December 15; Henderson, Nevada 58 posts
12th Jun '12
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" is there anyway you can find a program for homelss young adults and try to find a job and just get ... [snip!] ... on your feet the best you can?? evem if you try to get financial aid or something progroms will help you find a place to live"


I've tried several jobs they don't like that I have no referrals. But I have no one after all... I have issues with finncial aid actually that's I got to leave but it couldn't last forever... That's how I supported myself without my mom...

sadlife11 Due December 15; Henderson, Nevada 58 posts
12th Jun '12

I think right now I'm still not done looking into my choices with adoption anyhow...

Momma2Nico&Noah 2 kids; Wisconsin 188 posts
12th Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting sadlife11:</b>" I think right now I'm still not done looking into my choices with adoption anyhow..."</blockquote>




This decision is completely up to you and I'm sorry that it's such a hard one. :( All I can say is that if you contact an adoption agency, some of them have programs to help you find housing and even jobs. Whatever you decide, good luck. And I really think you need to get out of your mother's house as soon as possible and talk to a doctor about maybe taking an antidepressant because you sound depressed. Again, good luck.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36509 posts
12th Jun '12
Quoting sadlife11:" I think right now I'm still not done looking into my choices with adoption anyhow..."


Talking from experience... Adoption is WAY harder. I would honestly go with abortion. It takes someone who is really head strong on doing adoption and not getting attached to the baby in ANY WAY.



Good luck in your choice.

sadlife11 Due December 15; Henderson, Nevada 58 posts
12th Jun '12
Quoting Link:" Talking from experience... Adoption is WAY harder. I would honestly go with abortion. It takes someone ... [snip!] ... who is really head strong on doing adoption and not getting attached to the baby in ANY WAY. Good luck in your choice. "


I don't love it don't even like it. Promise I won't get attached... I don't even know if I want to ever see it... But thanks for the advice. I just don't know realizing it's living in me that it exists idk how it'll be just that I'm ok now...

proud mommy86 3 kids; Kentucky 709 posts
13th Jun '12

i wish u the best of luck and will pray that ur situation gets better..it is completly ur decision but honestly adoption would be the better choice and easier for u to live with alot of people regret abortions the rest of their lives

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21591 posts
status 13th Jun '12
Quoting happily_pregnant:"


A lot of people regret adoption too.




OP, good luck with whatever decision you make!