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~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting .::Mommy In 2013::.:" I have a really hard life at home and school.I have 4 older sisters and im the youngest out of 5 girls. ... [snip!] ... and know that I'm pregnant. But if I do tell my family he's the father than he will lose his son. I never meant to hurt anyone!"

aww I'm so sorry you got in this situation. It has got to be very difficult. My advice to you, is when youre ready, you sit down or even write a letter to your family (i texted my mom and then called her because it was easier for me) and tell them your pregnant and very scared and need the support not someone to judge you. Do it when your ready but do it soon, because its going to be very noticeable soon... you can PM me anytime. Good luck

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36631 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting .::Mommy In 2013::.:" But do I tell my mom that He's the father? Because my friends have other ideas on that. Like telling ... [snip!] ... TOO young. I just turned 15 a month ago and all this stress is causing me pain that I'm just not strong enough to handle..."


yeah tell your mom that your sisters boyfriend is the dad.



You can get an abortion if you dont think yo ucan handle it.



I dont recommend adoption.

Bawse Litchfield, NY, United States 70858 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting Link:" I did read again... and I stand by what I said. Tell your mom. Tell your "best friend" that he will be a father. "


Yup. I agree.

Account Deleted101 Texas 14 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting Ninja Shahinda:" So, your child and your sister's child are going to be half brothers and cousins? Are you sure you're going to follow through with the pregnancy? I mean, are you open to other options?"

I'm scared like hell... And I have considered ONE other option.. but I'm afraid that when it comes down to it... I wont be able to let go. But this woman at my step moms church said that this is God's blessing and adoption may be the choice and she thanks God that abortion is not even an option for me..!

Amber Herr Due September 22; Spring, Texas 14 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting .::Mommy In 2013::.:" But do I tell my mom that He's the father? Because my friends have other ideas on that. Like telling ... [snip!] ... TOO young. I just turned 15 a month ago and all this stress is causing me pain that I'm just not strong enough to handle..."

Maybe Im just not seeing your logic to this....but how is creating more lies going to help when telling your mom?

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36631 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting .::Mommy In 2013::.:" I'm scared like hell... And I have considered ONE other option.. but I'm afraid that when it comes down ... [snip!] ... that this is God's blessing and adoption may be the choice and she thanks God that abortion is not even an option for me..!"

Why is abortion not an option? Your baby will grow up with his half sibling / cousin...



And adoption isnt all that great.

NinjaSAPIOSEXUALShahinda 5 kids; Strongsville, Ohio 34460 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting Link:" Why is abortion not an option? Your baby will grow up with his half sibling / cousin... And adoption isnt all that great. "


I agree. OP if my daughter was in this position, I would hope that she'd abort, fast.

~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting Link:" Why is abortion not an option? Your baby will grow up with his half sibling / cousin... And adoption isnt all that great. "

I know someone that had that happen to them. Doesnt mean they have to kill their baby because of it...

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36631 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting ~***MoMMy.tO.Be***~:" I know someone that had that happen to them. Doesnt mean they have to kill their baby because of it..."


it is not a baby yet...



is adoption so much better than abortion? Dont give me "at least its living, has a good life" blah blah blah.....

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting Link:" Why is abortion not an option? Your baby will grow up with his half sibling / cousin... And adoption isnt all that great. "


I guess she's pro-life. But adoption isn't bad in this case.....the baby would be in a much better situation.
OP I would tell your mom ASAP but tell her something like, I'm pregnant but I'm considering.....and ask her opinion. She has been in the same exact position as you so chances are she'll give you the best advice. If you decide to keep the baby you will need assistance for you and the baby for a long, long time.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting .::Mommy In 2013::.:" I'm scared like hell... And I have considered ONE other option.. but I'm afraid that when it comes down ... [snip!] ... that this is God's blessing and adoption may be the choice and she thanks God that abortion is not even an option for me..!"

Good can come out of any situation but you need to be truthful. If you want to keep your baby there r resourses to help u finish school , get a job & care for your child. If you want to bless another couple by allowing them 2 adopt your baby thats great also but you need to be honest with everyone invovled. Lying always causes distruction.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36631 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting Just Call Me Mommy:" I guess she's pro-life. But adoption isn't bad in this case.....the baby would be in a much better situation. ... [snip!] ... give you the best advice. If you decide to keep the baby you will need assistance for you and the baby for a long, long time."


Really?
Why is it ALL ABOUT THE BABY? Why isnt it about what the mom will go thru for her entire LIFE?
:roll:

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting Link:" Why is abortion not an option? Your baby will grow up with his half sibling / cousin... And adoption isnt all that great. "


if women dont have to defend their choice to abort then they shouldnt have to defend their choice not too.......

Amber Herr Due September 22; Spring, Texas 14 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting Link:" Why is abortion not an option? Your baby will grow up with his half sibling / cousin... And adoption isnt all that great. "


Just because you think adoption isnt right for you or isnt all that great for you, (maybe you had a bad adoption experience) doesnt mean it might not be the right choice for her. If the baby was adopted, it wouldnt grow up with half sibling/cousin. While yes, its a stickly situation, doesnt mean abortion is the answer either. OP please seek the advice from a professional regarding your feelings and choices as what to do, after you speak to your mother.

NinjaSAPIOSEXUALShahinda 5 kids; Strongsville, Ohio 34460 posts
13th Jun '12
Quoting Link:" Really? Why is it ALL ABOUT THE BABY? Why isnt it about what the mom will go thru for her entire LIFE? :roll: "


It should be about the baby, the one having the baby herself, you're so right!
This thread makes me so sad.