I had my 1st child when i was 16 and even though it was a struggle to finish school, work, and care for a baby .....it was the most rewarding experience in the end. Where there is a will, there is away. I will be praying for you!
Re-read my comment . I forgot to add ' my moms a pastor now , and when iwas 14 she was one also .
We were against it too . Everyone is , untill they are placed in that situation .
I'd tell your mom right away. If you don't she might end up more hurt that you didn't feel like you could tell her. I know you didn't want to disappoint her, but it sounds like she's been through it all before, so it's nothing new.
If you don't feel like you can tell your mom yet, try talking to your sisters. They know how it is, most of them have been through it as well.
As for the decision to keep or abort or adopt, that's totally up to you and your family to discuss and decide.
Quoting sadelove:" Re-read my comment . I forgot to add ' my moms a pastor now , and when iwas 14 she was one also . We were against it too . Everyone is , untill they are placed in that situation ."
i have never met anyone or even heard of anyone who didnt regret having an abortion. i personally am agenst abortion but i honestly can say that u r the first person i have acual respect for after having one. i respect u bc u dont say ''yea i had one n i regret it" or "i had one n idc its w/e" or something simaler to that. no i dont agree with having an abortion just bc ur young n not ready, bc my mother had my older sister at 14 and me at 16 and my younger sister at 22, we all have the same father n they r now mairried. ik its very rare for that to happen n it was extreamly hard on her but she did it n got threw it. so what ima tryna say is no i dont agree that u had one, but i really respect that u where grown up enough to make the decicion that was best for ur situation and not regret years down the road.
Quoting .::Mommy In 2013::.:" I have a really hard life at home and school.I have 4 older sisters and im the youngest out of 5 girls. ... [snip!] ... and know that I'm pregnant. But if I do tell my family he's the father than he will lose his son. I never meant to hurt anyone!"
firstly what you did was very wrong chick... but i do understand where your coming from trust me... erm if your are kepping the baby you need to sit down with your mum first and explain to her what has happen because end of day the baby wil wanna know who the dad is... jus explain to your mum in a clam way what went on or even write a letter and maybe explain you are staying at a freind for a few days but trust me evetythink will work out in the end for the better i can promiss you that :) your sister will prbly say she hates u and everythink but she is still your sister and will forgive you sonner or later .....
I know it can feel really scary when you're that young. I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant for the first time. I was horrified to tell my mom and family. I ended up leaving her a note on her driving wheel of her car so she would see it before she left for work. She was so upset that that's how I told her, and I still regret that.
I was the youngest to get pregnant in my family and I am the oldest with 4 younger sisters and 2 brothers. Everyone was so disappointed in me, it really felt horrible. My boyfriend at the time was either 21 or 22 (i can't remember), but they were pretty pissed about that too! The only reason they got over it was because my mom knew his family for years.
The MOST IMPORTANT thing I will tell you, is stay in school. It is so important for your baby's future! I was pregnant for my entire senior year and had my baby 4 days before I walked across the stage at graduation. :)
Honestly, if your mother got pregnant at 14, she has no room to be overly disappointed with you and your pregnancy. She will no doubt feel horrible that ALL of her children chose the same life that she did, so cut her a little slack if she freaks out when you tell her.
I now have 3 beautiful girls. They all had the same dad. Unfortunately, he commited suicide in 2010. We really struggled with 3 kids though. He didn't always hold down a job, and money was always tight. Luckily, I met a great man last year and we fell in love and got married. I have the most wonderful life now, the one I dreamed about years ago.
Please keep in mind that you have options. Adoption...Abortion? If you are positive that the baby's father will never be a part of it's life, then things will always be hard for you. I'm not trying to be negative... i promise. I am just hoping that you will take what I'm telling you into consideration.
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tell your mom!
i got pregnant at 17, and didnt find out until after my 18th birthday. already 4 months along. i got morning sickness. i didnt tell my mom. a few weeks later she took me to the doctor because she noticed that i was getting sick off and on. the doc said i was pregnant and my mom was in shock but i knew already. i told her me and SO planned on an abortion and she got upset. more about the abortion than i was pregnant. we decided against it in the end and now we have a beautiful 2 month old girl. abortion might be the right way to go for you, it just wasn't for me. it all depends on whats best for you and the baby. you should definitely tell your mom though. you shouldnt have to be alone in this. even if you dont get a lot of support just telling your mom will make you feel so much better. too much stress isnt good for you or the baby.
best of luck!
Anytime you have sex, protected or not you should always be worried because there is ALWAYS a chance.. this is why, if you dont want to get pregnant at a young age, then dont have sex at one.. if youre not mature enough to take care of a child then youre not mature enough to have sex. Your mom was right to lose all hope in you and your sister because you were proving her right by having sex. I dont feel bad for you like everyone else on here, you made the mistake by having sex, you will have to live with the consequences. All i can say is before you fuck up your life even more, give that poor child up for adoption and give it a good chance at life with a family that can provide for it before it grows up and makes the same mistakes you did.
You might aswell just go tell your mom right now, she wont treat you any different than she did your sisters, to her youll just be another pregnant daughter. Im sure shes used to it. Your mom made the same mistake, and all her kids followed in her footsteps. Be the smarter child and give your baby to a real couple so it wont do this to and can have a chance at a full, happy, accomplished life.
<blockquote><b>Quoting .::Mommy In 2013::.:</b>" But do I tell my mom that He's the father? Because my friends have other ideas on that. Like telling ... [snip!] ... TOO young. I just turned 15 a month ago and all this stress is causing me pain that I'm just not strong enough to handle..."</blockquote>
I would tell the whole truth. You wouldn't want that guilt hanging over your head. Good luck.
Quoting Candace Holmes:" You might aswell just go tell your mom right now, she wont treat you any different than she did your ... [snip!] ... child and give your baby to a real couple so it wont do this to and can have a chance at a full, happy, accomplished life."
i think about that ever day. and everyday im even more convinced to give my baby up for adoption. im 15 and i know that when the baby is born it wont get easier in fact it gets way harder than this. i dont want to drop out of school and i want to graduate and go to college to be a tattoo artist. or go to stanford univ. or the art institute of houston. theres so much more i want for my life and yes i love my baby to death even though it doesnt even have arms or legs yet. but i want the best.... not just for me but for my baby. i refuse for my baby to grow up in the same house and in the same way that i did and just be okay with it. becuz when i look at me now, i hate who i am and how i feel becuz i dont have my father in my life. i dont want to be the reason my child has to survive instead of live...
Quoting .::Mommy In 2013::.:" i think about that ever day. and everyday im even more convinced to give my baby up for adoption. im ... [snip!] ... and how i feel becuz i dont have my father in my life. i dont want to be the reason my child has to survive instead of live..."
This made me smile. It seems like you know what's right. Finish school and follow your dreams girl! Then you will meet a wonderful man that spoils you, you guys will get married, and have a happy baby! :)
poor babydoll...idk what to tell ya but best of luck and wishes to ya...i hope ur family will be easy on ya and if they didnt want this to happen then they shouldve taught u a lil bit more bout safe sex but then again u shouldve worn a raincoat...