My Lil' Monsters 5 kids; 3 angel babies; Surprise, Arizona 4144 posts
14th Jun '12

I personally have never felt this way however I had a friend who did (had...is the word) She became so depressed and refused to get help she ended up committing suicide killing her and her unborn baby. I suggest getting some counseling and talk to your OB ASAP about your feelings.

VioletMarie Due July 19 (girl); Anaheim, California 220 posts
14th Jun '12

That's how I felt with my last pregnancy down to the T! I would feel and say the most horrible things and I had considered adoption, but I didn't want to risk ruining my body for a child I didn't want to even carry or keep, so I had an abortion. I didn't feel bad about it. I looked at it like this.... I sent the baby straight bacc from where it came from, Heaven.

Sweet lullaby Dearborn Heights, Michigan 30436 posts
14th Jun '12
Quoting Loka Lokita:" Both of those things."



Oh hun, Im sorry. I can only think ( due to what i have seen with my own eyes) that if your pregnacy is making you feel like this already, You may end up hurting the baby once he/she is here. you have two other kids you need to worrie about. You don't need anymore stress. Is the dad a dad by force? Or did he just leave.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
14th Jun '12

I felt the same way when I was pregnant with my youngest.
I remember just crying, hating her, wishing God would take her. It was horrible.



I ended up on anti depressants, and doing MUCH better.
and I absolutely adore her now, she's wonderful.



I was just having really bad depression issues.



Maybe as a first step, talk to your doctor about how you're feeling.
Im sorry you're going through this.

Sweet lullaby Dearborn Heights, Michigan 30436 posts
14th Jun '12

I think abortion may be a good idea. :(

user banned Nassau, BA, Bahamas 5125 posts
14th Jun '12

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Rob's Living Dead Girl Royersford, Pennsylvania 3256 posts
14th Jun '12
Quoting Loka Lokita:" I don't need negativity & I will not get an abortion. Although this is the hardest decision I have ... [snip!] ... my words sound horrible, trust me. Imagine feeling them. It's so hard and scary. I hate this baby, and I don't know what to do."


Nahh, I don't think you hate your baby. I'm sure that what you're feeling is..well, perhaps if not perfectly normal; very ordinary and a common occurrence for women during pregnancy. My best suggestion to you is to take the following symptoms, events, and stages of your pregnancy at a time and with as much solace as possible. Try not to stress yourself out or anything of the sort.



Also, think hard about whether or not your feelings are based on a valid reason or foundation; are you and/or your hubby ready for another child? Is your financial and home situation suitable for another baby? Basically, I'd advise you to ask yourself if there's something worrying you about the arrival of a third newborn child that might be causing these feelings to exist and gradually progress.



If you feel that they're becoming more overwhelming, maybe it's best if you talk to someone close like a hubby or a friend that understands. Or discuss them like you've done now on BG, so other ladies could give you advice on how to handle them on an occasional or perhaps frequent occurrence. 'Cause I'm sure other women have experienced what you're going through with this.



And if you feel that this is getting worse, perhaps you could look into speaking with a counselor of some sort?.....although I do kinda doubt your situation would become that serious.



Hope my advice helps to some extent.



Wish you the best! :) < 3

Khristian McLemore Due July 26 (boy); Hartselle, Alabama 589 posts
14th Jun '12

"My current dude fucked a fart out of me last week. Needless to say, he slept on the other side of the bed that night.

And, go!"

That was your topic from yesterday on embarrassing sex stories. What's changed since then? And you also have another topic from yesterday about how your DH finally let you put your finger in his butt while giving him head and how he liked it. Sounds like you two both enjoy sex very much, how could you classify him as raping you when you two are having such enjoyable sex so often while Married? Sorry, its just not all clicking. Not trying to sound like a dick or anything...

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
14th Jun '12
Quoting Khristian McLemore:" "My current dude fucked a fart out of me last week. Needless to say, he slept on the other side of the ... [snip!] ... such enjoyable sex so often while Married? Sorry, its just not all clicking. Not trying to sound like a dick or anything..."


Am I missing the part where she said she was raped?



ETA: nvm found it... I agree with you then, lol

animaLibera_ 1 child; Ohio 7931 posts
14th Jun '12
Quoting Lil Dude's Mamma:" Honestly, if you're feeling like this, have an abortion."


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user banned Nassau, BA, Bahamas 5125 posts
14th Jun '12
Quoting Khristian McLemore:" "My current dude fucked a fart out of me last week. Needless to say, he slept on the other side of the ... [snip!] ... such enjoyable sex so often while Married? Sorry, its just not all clicking. Not trying to sound like a dick or anything..."


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user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
14th Jun '12
Quoting Khristian McLemore:" "My current dude fucked a fart out of me last week. Needless to say, he slept on the other side of the ... [snip!] ... such enjoyable sex so often while Married? Sorry, its just not all clicking. Not trying to sound like a dick or anything..."


eee.



maybe someone else raped her? maybe there is more to the story? but yeah, i don't think i'd be acting normal if all of these other things were going on..

animaLibera_ 1 child; Ohio 7931 posts
14th Jun '12
Quoting Sweet lullaby:" I think she she said she couldn't handle one."


She also said she didn't want to keep it or put it up for adoption. All options are out. lol

Rob's Living Dead Girl Royersford, Pennsylvania 3256 posts
14th Jun '12
Quoting annehutchins:" Nahh, I don't think you hate your baby. I'm sure that what you're feeling is..well, perhaps if not ... [snip!] ... I do kinda doubt your situation would become that serious. Hope my advice helps to some extent. Wish you the best! :) < 3 "


And to add to this, I agree to an extent with what other women here have stated. Perhaps adoption could become a considerable option if there's no positive changes or improvement with the feelings you're having?

EliciaK 4 kids; Sandersville, Georgia 665 posts
14th Jun '12

Not trying to sound harsh or anything but you NEED to talk to a professional! I really had not planned my 3rd child and during the pregnancy I wished that it would just go away. I never felt hate for my child and when I was 10 weeks I had a wreck and my feelings changed towards my baby when I thought that he was in danger. I would def talk to someone. If your feelings do not change toward the end I would start looking at adoption. Good luck I hope your feelings towards your little one changes!