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I think I'm convinced enough... Abortion is the right decisi sadlife11 Due December 15; Henderson, Nevada 58 posts
16th Jun '12

I think I've realized I have no business having achild whether it's through adoption or not. I wanted adoption for selfish stupid reasons I knew that but it has been hard to pass that up. Also I hate that my mom's always right but it seems it's true on a way... She's right if I can't do so much to take vare of myself idk how I could take care of it. Even if that's 6 months likely all that it's been through it's probably no good anyway... Anyway I guess I'm just accepting that as hard as that is really emotionally hurts that I can't even manage to do what every woman does but it's the truth I'm not interested in the interests of this baby I really just care about myself and that's wrong...

Buffy♥ 2 kids; Japan 3741 posts
16th Jun '12

I hope you decide on what is best for you. Good luck.

Always♥Faithful 2 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 21664 posts
16th Jun '12

I wish you the best, hun. <3

Fri'Chickeneisha Due September 2 (girl); 1 child; 5 angel babies; Ocean City, Maryland 2442 posts
16th Jun '12

DO NOT let anybody influence your decision. It must be YOURS all the way. Good luck to you, stay string.

Fri'Chickeneisha Due September 2 (girl); 1 child; 5 angel babies; Ocean City, Maryland 2442 posts
16th Jun '12

DO NOT let anybody influence your decision. It must be YOURS all the way. Good luck to you, stay string.

Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dahlgren, VA, United States 5008 posts
16th Jun '12

Whatever decision you think is best for you your mom should support you. I'm sorry you're going through this. But it's your body & your choice. However, I want to say one thing. If you go through with adoption and you don't want to be apart of the child's life that is fine. There is also open adoption and you'll be involved still. I'm not sure what make you decide adoption is selfish, but I'm sure you have your reasons.



But you need to make the decision you think is best for you. Don't let anybody pressure you into a choice you're not comfortable with.
Good luck!

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4131 posts
16th Jun '12

Make the decision that is best for you. I don't know your story, but I do wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide.

Stu Padasso 2 kids; Henderson, Nevada 14638 posts
16th Jun '12

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I wish you well in whatever you decide to do. <3
Stay strong.

sadlife11 Due December 15; Henderson, Nevada 58 posts
16th Jun '12

I decided n abortion I'm not going to go back and forth anymore... I really realize I can't use this pregnant just to get away from my mom... I have to find other avenues a lpng term plan at least...

user banned TTC since Jan 2001; Japan 107255 posts
16th Jun '12
Quoting sadlife11:" I think I've realized I have no business having achild whether it's through adoption or not. I wanted ... [snip!] ... does but it's the truth I'm not interested in the interests of this baby I really just care about myself and that's wrong..."


You're not selfish. You know you're not ready to care for another human being. In my opinion, that's being selfless. It would be selfish of you to keep it when you know you're not ready. Best of luck.

sadlife11 Due December 15; Henderson, Nevada 58 posts
16th Jun '12

thanks guys for your support. I really appreciate it...

♥ Letters to Alice 1 child; Medford, Minnesota 3788 posts
16th Jun '12

I don't feel it is selfish of you to make this decision. I think it would be selfish to have the baby and not be able to take care of it and neglect that baby. It's all about what is right for you. I commend you for being able to face what you're facing and coming to a very hard decision. I just hope you make the decision for yourself and not for others, because ultimately this is your life, not theirs.

sadlife11 Due December 15; Henderson, Nevada 58 posts
16th Jun '12

and no I'm not being pressured this is just something my mom made me realize really... I feel adoption would be selfish as it's only to get housing and away from my mom... Not for the adoption really... I guess it's a matter of what is better and what I want to do and I have to do what's right really...

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
16th Jun '12
Quoting sadlife11:" I think I've realized I have no business having achild whether it's through adoption or not. I wanted ... [snip!] ... does but it's the truth I'm not interested in the interests of this baby I really just care about myself and that's wrong..."


I am assuming that your mother is planting these ludicrous thoughts in your head. I havent gotten one selfish vibe from any of your post.....how is it logical to say its selfish to birth a baby and allow a good family to love and raise them? I agree w/everyone else....you shouldnt let anyone's opinion sway your personnal decision. Not to be rude but it just seems like your mother doesnt want the stigma that sometimes comes from a grandchild being given up for adoption (everyone will know that she was unwilling to support u and her grandchild in your time of need) This is YOUR decision and she should be supporting you no matter what you decide!

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
16th Jun '12
Quoting sadlife11:" and no I'm not being pressured this is just something my mom made me realize really... I feel adoption ... [snip!] ... the adoption really... I guess it's a matter of what is better and what I want to do and I have to do what's right really..."


Getting away from your mom seems like it would be a good thing....those agencies can provide job training and help you get stable on your own. There is nothing wrong w/bettering yourself so you dont find yourself in the same type if situation later in life while allowing soimeone else the joy of raising a child. Why is your mother trying to keep u there w/her anyway? She seems very controlling and manipulative. Please find yourself some good therapy to deal w/all this no matter what u decide because i dont see your mother being there to comfort you.