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family question... momma of an angel Due July 5 (girl); Arkansas 762 posts
16th Jun '12

So my SO's grandmother was talking awhile back saying she would be over everyday for the first year after my daughter is born well i had laughed it off until now... now i think she really thinks she can come over everyday... is that normal... and is it wrong that i really rather her not cause of several reasons... ? Somebody help me please! I get the fact its the first grandchild for both our parents and the first grant-grandchild for our grandparents and i know new babys are exciting but not to where every single day our privacy can be invaded and any plans we make go out the door... i dont know if im coming off as a brat or if this makes sence but i really dont know what to do...

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
16th Jun '12

Tell her she needs to call before dropping by and make sure you aren't busy.

His Wife & Her Mommy :-) Due April 10 (boy); 1 child; Brentwood, New York 600 posts
16th Jun '12

Tell her nicely she can come over when you are settled at home with the baby. And that you need space and privacy. And that she can come over once or twice a week for an hour or 2. My sister came over everyday when my daughter was born for about a week. Then I told her I need space and she started coming once a week. She understood and was just happy to see her once a week for a few hours, and plus it helps you get some sleep when they come over lol.

Sarah Curtsinger 1 child; Spring, Texas 752 posts
16th Jun '12

i wouldnt want someone over every day after having my baby...i know i loved having my time with my newborn...well when she was one..lol...maybe lay down some rules...and since she is SO's grandmother maybe have him say something...or talk to SO

Super Mommy! Costa Mesa, CA, United States 12636 posts
16th Jun '12

I live in a different country than my family. I wish they could pop over at any time to come and see our children. If it hasn't happened yet, I wouldn't say anything, you don't know for sure that she'll be coming over every day, and you also do not know for sure that you won't need her help.

momma of an angel Due July 5 (girl); Arkansas 762 posts
16th Jun '12

I dont know i mean i want both of our familys to see her but i also dont just want people dropping in...i live with my parents and with everybody there is 7 people living here so like it is gonna be hard to be alone and have some privacy for just me, So and our newborn as is but i just dont know i think he should talk to her about it and let her know we thought it was all a joke but i guess we will see what happens and hopefully she will respect our wishes... but i also feel bad she does alot like today she went out and bought a bunch of diapers and wipes and also bought us food and gave us her car with gas money. I dont want to be mean just also dont want to get walked on and have her thinking she is gonna tell me how to mother my child

October2011 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6787 posts
16th Jun '12

I'd be annoyed too. Just be like "well tomorrow we have these plans.blah blah blah...I was thinking about maybe you could come over every wednesday (or whatever day) so you can spend time with the baby." maybe she;ll get the hint? ugh sorry that sucks.

momma of an angel Due July 5 (girl); Arkansas 762 posts
16th Jun '12

I wouldnt mind sometimes but like i said everyday... alittle much isnt it? But like even today while yes she did alot comments like" we are brainwashing him( SO) sohe can actually be a good parent." My SO is so great with kids like i am so blessed to have him but his family wants it their way...i am just so confussed! Yes i want their help to a point and yes i want them to see her but with some respect for me and SO... does this make me a bad person...?