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deleted ~Proud mommy of 3~ 3 kids; Somewhere in, NY, United States 2602 posts
20th Jun '12

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speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 45005 posts
20th Jun '12

This is a support forum, anyone who posts anything that is deemed inappropriate will be modded. This is a safe space.



I'm not in the U.S., so I will answer the questions I can.



2. I was thinking of getting the surgery 1, which 1 is the best?
- I chose to have the surgery because the recovery time is far less and I didn't have to go through it at home. Once it was finished, it was finished.



5. Does it hurt really bad during the procedure and/or after?
- It didn't hurt very badly. During the procedure, it was more uncomfortable...like a pap. After, there was very little pain, it was more like period cramps....and I was tired. Other then that, I had nothing after two days.



6. How many apointments do you have to go through before they actually do the procedure? I would like to avoid as many as possible because I would like it to be done early.
- I had one appointment...they did everything, and it was over and done with.



7. How long did it take to recover physically?
- I was much better after 2 days. After that, there was no more cramping and very little bleeding.



8. How did you cope with it emotionally? Thats going to be the hardest part for me!
- It is great if you have someone to help support you through this. If you don't have anyone IRL that you can talk to, you can always come here. There are some pretty amazing women on here who can help you though this.



9. Do they give you birth control after?
- I was given birth control afterward...in fact, they are pretty insistent that you figure out what type of BC is best for you.



10. I believe they do an ultrasound before the procedure?
- On the intake form at the clinic I went to, there was a check box about seeing the ultrasound, you have the option to say yes....otherwise, it is no. However, every clinic is different.



Good luck and stay strong.

★Date311161.69 TTC since Sep 2012; 33 kids; Pennsylvania 4000 posts
20th Jun '12

So sorry you're going through this. I've gone through this 8 years ago. I was young and at a bad place. I do not regret my decision. You need to do what you feel is right and don't be ashamed.



1. I google searched places in the area. When I found a place that was the closest, I called and made an appt.
2. I had the vacuum procedure done.
3. No
4. It was roughly $300.. I can't remember exactly. And yes, they do want full amount at time of procedure. I do not believe you can make a payment plan.
5. I opted for the valium in a IV. I did not have any pain during or after. The procedure was quick.
6. I only had the 1. When I called and booked an appt. I went in, they preformed an ultrasound to verify pregnancy and then I was sent into another room where they did the procedure.
7. It was like having my period. I bleed for about a week, and that was all. Light crampy. That was about it.
8. I was fine emotionally. Because I knew I made the right decision.
9. They are not responsible for giving you birth control. You would need to see your OBGYN for that.
10. Yes they do. And no, you do not have to see it. He/she will ask if you do. You can decline.
11. Like I said before, I Googled places. I suppose you could call your local planned parenthood and ask. You don't have to explain your situation over the phone or give your name.
12. I'm not sure. Like I said before, I had valium in my IV to take the edge off because I was scared. It wasn't bad at all. It just felt like I was getting a pelvic exam. That did cost more for me. Of course anesthesia and medicine would be an extra cost.

Justine's Mama Due November 28; 1 child; Boynton Beach, Florida 1939 posts
20th Jun '12

first off yeah people will judge you, you have to be careful who you talk to it about, i had friends who judged me but it wasnt really my choice, i had one when i was 16 year olds my parents and boyfriend all wanted me to do it and basically my parents sayed i had no choice i was under 18 and i had to do it they sayed so they pretty much made me & i regretted it not that i could have a kid at that time but still was a ruff thing for me to go through



1. to go about doing it you call clinic's and set up an appointment
2. i would reccomend the surgery one i think its personally easier on the person,i did the surgery one and i have read about girls on here taking the pill to do if you do that you bleed and you see everything and quite frankly the surgery one gets it over and done much quicker and you dont see crap basically like having your period afterwards
3. no you dont have to go to planned parenthood, you get on google and find a clinic near by
4. it cost me i think 300 i believe it is some were around there
5. i got a IV so i was knocked out i didnt feel anything after you wake up you just feel like you have bad cramps from a period and thats how you feel for the next 3 days
6. its one appointment for the surgicial one i know, you call the clinic set a appointment and its all done that day take a few hours to get through the process though
7. personally they tell you 3 days after to stay in your bed and rest dont walk much and dont go to work take 3 days and rest
8. how you feel about it depends on you i would have to say, personally everyones differnt i know of girls who had it done and it doesnt bother them they talk about it like its nothing dont want to scare you but for me it personally affected me for years i was feeling weird over it i was very emotional i couldnt talk about it to anyone or i would just cry and not even be able to say a word i was like that and very upset for like 3 years i just now can talk about it and not cry
9. about birth control yes they will ask you if you would like birth control they can give you a first dose after that you need to get a appointment with your gyno to continue you, i do believe you have to pay more for it maybe not shure this was 6 years ago for me
10. as far as the ultrasound yes they do a ultrasound usually they have the screen so you cant see it they dont purposely try to let you see it but they dont make it so you cant see it either they look at it print a picture so they know were it is located i just looked the opposite way of the ultrasound machine i didnt want to see it i felt it would make it harder on me
11. usually you can google it or phone books, it wont say abortion clinic it will be called a womans center or something along the lines of that
12. yeah if you get the IV basically your asleep they give you the IV then start the procedure you dont know anything that is going on



and its okay to have questions if you want to talk about it or have more questions you can talk to me i dont mind helping others, i had no one to talk to at the time all i did was get on google and see what a abortion really was and that was that never had anyone to tell me what it was like or what went on, i would just recommend advice of saying do what you want to do never get it done unless its what you want and feel is right dont do it if a boyfriend or parents want you to that is how you will feel weird afterwards. hope i helped you in some ways

Squawbaby Due June 16; 17 kids; California 125 posts
20th Jun '12

I had one 5 yrs ago at 6 weeks, don't regret it as it was the best choice at the time. I declined pain medication as I wanted/ felt like I deserved to feel the pain.




1. How do you go about doing this?



I called planned parenthood, explained what was going on. They made the appointment right away and were very nice.

2. I was thinking of getting the surgery 1, which 1 is the best?



It really isn't true surgery, it was quick, very uncomfortable but then it was over. I wouldn't do the pill I would rather it be controlled by a doc



3. Do you have to go to a planned parenthood to get it? Im not even sure there is 1 around me.



You don't have to go to pp, I know I could of gotten one through kaiser but tbh I love pp.



4. How much does it cost? Do you have to pay in full amount? Im not sure we can afford this right now "/



it was $300 since I had other health insurance, ask about options!



5. Does it hurt really bad during the procedure and/or after?



It wasn't painless by any means but again I declined the meds, after you are very crampy like a bad period.



6. How many apointments do you have to go through before they actually do the procedure? I would like to avoid as many as possible because I would like it to be done early.



I just had to follow up with my ob a few weeks later. They will offer to send you home with bc most likely.




7. How long did it take to recover physically?



I was back to work the next day, like I said its like a bad period after.



8. How did you cope with it emotionally? Thats going to be the hardest part for me!



Not gonna lie, it's hard. My so(nowdh) was very supportive so that made it better. I find it healing to share my experience and talking about it, I know that's not for everyone though.



9. Do they give you birth control after?



Yes a few different options



10. I believe they do an ultrasound before the procedure? If they do, do you have to see it?



Yes they do an ultrasound, no you don't have to see it. They may ask if you want to know if it was twins or not




11. How do I find clinics around here that will do the procedure? I tried looking online & didnt find much yet.



Call a low/no cost women's clinic and ask for resources



12. Can you be put to sleep during the procedure? If so does it cost more?



Not 100% sure but I don't think so. Usually they offer a muscle relaxer and high dose pain med




Hope I answered those well enough, feel free to pt me and ask any questions!

~Proud mommy of 3~ 3 kids; Somewhere in, NY, United States 2602 posts
20th Jun '12

Thanks mamas! I think I am going to go through with it as of right now. I found aplace 2 hours away that sounds pretty decent. It costs $300 there. I wanted to go this Saturday but my husband & I cant really afford it right now until he gets his next paycheck at last which is on the 1st then I would have to wait until Friday or Saturday to go so that would be the 6 or 7 so I dont know what to do :(

~Proud mommy of 3~ 3 kids; Somewhere in, NY, United States 2602 posts
20th Jun '12

Did any of you tell your mom or dad before your decision? Im not sure if I should I feel like they will be pissed that I got pregnant

Justine's Mama Due November 28; 1 child; Boynton Beach, Florida 1939 posts
20th Jun '12

well i was underage so they knew but you dont have to my friend was 20 and never told her mom she did it, also you usually cant make a appoitnment until you are atleast 6 weeks they have to be able to see it or theyll make you come back so schedule it around that time

~Proud mommy of 3~ 3 kids; Somewhere in, NY, United States 2602 posts
20th Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting sarmento baby:</b>" well i was underage so they knew but you dont have to my friend was 20 and never told her mom she did ... [snip!] ... until you are atleast 6 weeks they have to be able to see it or theyll make you come back so schedule it around that time"</blockquote>



No I know I don't have to lol I'm 22 but I was thinking of telling her to have someone to talk to about it. I guess I'm 5 weeks & 3 days. They said you could start at 5 weeks. I think if I waited I would be around 7 weeks. I just dobt want to wait long because I will feel worse & ill have more time to thin about ti. Plus I have a lot of stuff to do around that time ill have to start packing n stuff. Also I don't want to start getting sick.

Squawbaby Due June 16; 17 kids; California 125 posts
20th Jun '12

I told my mom.... Know what I found out? She went through the exact same thing! It really bonded us together and made me realize that it was the right choice. My dad came to see me after(he knew) and brought me a stuffed animal. He left for Alaska that night and I didn't see him for 2 years. As I am getting older with so many friends that have kids, when I share my story I get nothing but support. Even from my grandma who founded the fertility clinic here in the bay area for planned parenthood! She told me that she would of made the same decision if she was in my shoes, this coming from someone born in '26!



Maybe I am lucky I haven't run into anyone that had anything negative to say, but you know what if they did that's their choice and I would not allow it to affect me.

~Proud mommy of 3~ 3 kids; Somewhere in, NY, United States 2602 posts
20th Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squawbaby:</b>" I told my mom.... Know what I found out? She went through the exact same thing! It really bonded us together ... [snip!] ... that had anything negative to say, but you know what if they did that's their choice and I would not allow it to affect me."</blockquote>




Yeah I know she would be supportive because she was for my little sister who went through it. But I feel like she will be pissed at the same time because I got pregnant. I have a few close friends who I know won't judge me because they went through it too. But I'm still so nervous. I'm supposed totalk to my best friend tonight about it she borrowed her geandmas phone to talk to Mr tonight. I'm nervous I won't have the money though

user banned Due February 13; 17 kids; Florence, Alabama 191 posts
21st Jun '12

have a question n im sorry that its personal n i have never been n this situation bfore, im just wandering if ur married then y do u want an abortion? im not tryna b rude or anything like that im just curious

~Proud mommy of 3~ 3 kids; Somewhere in, NY, United States 2602 posts
21st Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting AshTray Dawn:</b>" have a question n im sorry that its personal n i have never been n this situation bfore, im just wandering ... [snip!] ... bfore, im just wandering if ur married then y do u want an abortion? im not tryna b rude or anything like that im just curious"</blockquote>



People don't just do that because they are single. I had a baby when I was single & her dad still doesn't take care of her. Right now its just the best option for all of us.

★Date311161.69 TTC since Sep 2012; 33 kids; Pennsylvania 4000 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting AshTray Dawn:" have a question n im sorry that its personal n i have never been n this situation bfore, im just wandering ... [snip!] ... bfore, im just wandering if ur married then y do u want an abortion? im not tryna b rude or anything like that im just curious"


I don't think that's any of your business.

★Date311161.69 TTC since Sep 2012; 33 kids; Pennsylvania 4000 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Proud mom & USMC wife:" Did any of you tell your mom or dad before your decision? Im not sure if I should I feel like they will be pissed that I got pregnant"


No, I didn't. I wouldn't say anything to your parents if you're afraid they might get mad.