user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" i couldn't imagine dating, or sleeping with a married man, even. there's something wrong in people's heads that do these things."


An amazing sense of low self esteem mixed in with some BIG time selfishness.



What drives me nuts...is they ALL fall for the 'he's going to divorce her' line. Seriously?

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Shannonsfirst:" An amazing sense of low self esteem mixed in with some BIG time selfishness. What drives me nuts...is they ALL fall for the 'he's going to divorce her' line. Seriously? "


i know right. even if he WAS, say "okay, give me a call when you DO/have proof"

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" i know right. even if he WAS, say "okay, give me a call when you DO/have proof""


EXACTLY. I dont want to be stuck with some man who doesnt know how to be on his own. Men who go from one womens home to anothers is just not 'man enough' for me.

Mrs. Brightside 2 kids; Lichtensteig, Switzerland 11733 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting * Sara *:" I would never do it. I was raised to have more self respect or not. If I had three kids and one on the ... [snip!] ... three kids and one on the way, I would be focusing all my energy on my children, not fake validation from a loser babydaddy."


:!:

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Shannonsfirst:" An amazing sense of low self esteem mixed in with some BIG time selfishness. What drives me nuts...is they ALL fall for the 'he's going to divorce her' line. Seriously? "


I would bet, Op's mom was the other woman, or never had a stable relationship.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting A❤T=P[Bun in th Ov:" I would bet, Op's mom was the other woman, or never had a stable relationship."


that would have a lot of impact on things, i bet.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36553 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" i couldn't imagine dating, or sleeping with a married man, even. there's something wrong in people's heads that do these things."

I know right!!!



My ex wanted to sleep with my the night before my sons [well ours but he is mine lol] bday party that he wasnt invited to. And he is married. There is no way I would touch that shit again, even with a 10 foot pole.. EW.. nope I dont want that drama.. and shit on my hands.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Link:" I know right!!! My ex wanted to sleep with my the night before my sons [well ours but he is mine lol] ... [snip!] ... is no way I would touch that shit again, even with a 10 foot pole.. EW.. nope I dont want that drama.. and shit on my hands. "


did you tell his wife?

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36553 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" did you tell his wife?"


lol.. like the bitch would believe me?



he cheated on her twice with me when I was feeling really shitty and a couple months after he left me... he told me that if I ever tried to tell her he would tell her its not true...



I dont want that drama. I have enough with him.. so its unneeded. so I siad fuck it and left it alone.



even though it did fuck meup for a good 10 minutes because he said that he missed me.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Link:" lol.. like the bitch would believe me? he cheated on her twice with me when I was feeling really ... [snip!] ... so I siad fuck it and left it alone. even though it did fuck meup for a good 10 minutes because he said that he missed me. "


yep, i know what you mean.



BD told me "it's a shame you aren't single, too bad you can't sleep with me so court can go your way" fucker, you aren't single either, learn some respect.



SO wants to strangle him.

♡ Dana ♡ Due July 21; 3 kids; Japan 114 posts
21st Jun '12

I just want to say this last thing in my defense:



I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I was I'm 50% to blame for whatever happened between him and his wife. I'm not perfect and was raised in a way that I wish on nobody. My mother always treated me second best, I got hand me downs, never got to go to college like my sisters, or do anything that they got to do. they got the looks, the husband, the house, the job, the love, I got none of that. It's hard to grow up for most of your life not having that love and to find it or what you think is it. I don't want to be second choice but can it be as bad as being nobody's choice ever? I don't regret what I did because I got my 3 beautiful girls out of it.



His wife knew and has known since I was pregnant with my 1st child. She chose to stay and by staying she became my children's stepmother and has treated them like dirt. I feel for her with the loss of her daughter and her marriage but I have some resentment for the way she handled my children so she is not all innocent in this. If she didn't want my kids she could have left but she didn't.



My kids come first and I would never compromise their health for a man. My daughters' are only aware that me and their dad love them and each other, I don't know if my oldest knows anymore than that, I doubt it. I'm just trying to do what I think is right for them and myself. I never said I was going to marry him and I never said I was going to leave him. My mind is all over the place and will continue to be until I make up my mind. I won't be able to make up my mind by being a part of this website so that's my reason for leaving. I only wanted to say that and explain myself. Thanks for the feedback and I feel I owed that explanation to anyone who has given me a helping hand through my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Bye..Deleted...:" I just want to say this last thing in my defense: I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I ... [snip!] ... my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye."


Stop trying to use your childhood as an excuse. Pathetic.
You have no right to be angry with a woman for not wanting a relationship with your chrilden. You ruined her family, with little regard for her CHILD!
Get yourself into some counseling.

♡ Dana ♡ Due July 21; 3 kids; Japan 114 posts
21st Jun '12

If anybody would like to continue being friends you can e-mail me at dana_momof3@yahoo.com and from there I can give you my e-mail for facebook.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Bye..Deleted...:" I just want to say this last thing in my defense: I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I ... [snip!] ... my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye."


Your childhood isn't an excuse. and jesus christ, you said "i didn't get a husband" CAUSE YOU WERE 18 when you GAVE UP looking because you found this FUCKING GEM.



the ONLY reasonable advice ANYONE could give you is LEAVE. NOW. FAST. IN A FUCKING HURRY. do not let this man anywhere NEAR your life. IF he so CHOOSES to be a dad to these kids, that's it. there should be no sexual relationship between the two of you, until there IS a DIVORCE AND YOU SEE THE PROOF. you can't take this "man's" words for shit. he wouldn't know the fucking truth if it bit him on the ass.

user banned Beverly Hills, California 36921 posts
21st Jun '12
Quoting Bye..Deleted...:" I just want to say this last thing in my defense: I'm not innocent and have never indicated that I ... [snip!] ... my posts or through private messages. I really appreciated all of the good advice and really that's it. Thanks again. Bye."


YOU put your kids in the position for them to be treated poorly, by having them with a married man. dont blame her for that. Come on now..... what do you expect her to do, really? Welcome them with open, loving arms?



When he cheats on you, and has a kid with a new chick, are you going to be excited, or hurt? Chances are, youll feel as hurt as she does/did.