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......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
Jun 22nd '12
Quoting Satan:" "the other woman" is NEVER the homewrecker. No matter if she went after the husband with intent..no ... [snip!] ... if he cheated. HE broke the promise. (The same goes for the wife..the dude she cheats with isn't the homewrecker....SHE is)"


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Lanni 16 kids; New Hampshire 748 posts
Jun 22nd '12

I don't believe the other person is the home wrecker. Sure, they probably knew that the person is in a relationship, but that person holds no commitment to you like your partner does. I'm sure if my SO cheated on me, I wouldn't be fond of the person he cheated with, but he would be getting the blame, not her. He was the one who chose to cheat, and he was the one who made a commitment to me.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
Jun 22nd '12
Quoting Remembering Cortnie:" Unless the other woman had no idea about his other family, I think she is also at fault, if only slightly. ... [snip!] ... just wait until either party at least files for divorce ? What a shitty argument. The guy is mostly at fault thiugh FOR SURE"


Exactly.

cfxfdfdfdsfdafdsf Vacaville, California 71166 posts
Jun 22nd '12
Quoting MommyRust:" My grandmother used to tell us, "A marriage can only be broken from within." I believe that. In the ... [snip!] ... that I would think highly of the woman/man on the otherside of the fold. However, they aren't the ones that broke the marriage."



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This, exactly.

Mama C~ TTA since Nov 2010; 10 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 11667 posts
Jun 22nd '12
Quoting ✩BG Addict✩:" i think it dpeends on the situation. while in some cases i do think that the marraige is already broken, there are cases of women "luring" the man out of the relationship."


I dont think you can be lured unless you want to be. I think people try to give a million excuses on why it happends but ultimately you always have a choice, you can try to fix what you have at home or you can walk away but you should always be honest to the person you took vows with to always be commited.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
Jun 22nd '12

I think both parties are responsible/guilty, especially the husband.

KH. Due November 11; 1 child; Texas 4965 posts
Jun 22nd '12

I was almost a "homewrecker" once. I was told by a man that he was divorced and what not and not until I creeped through his phone did I learn his wife was deployed in Afghan and they were still married and they were having a good old fine and dandy conversation. I RAN from that situation. You never know what knowledge the other woman has and what he is telling her.

Mama C~ TTA since Nov 2010; 10 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 11667 posts
Jun 22nd '12
Quoting * Sara *:" Yeah, she makes me sick. And his poor wife having to battle a disease and deal with her p***e o* s**t husband and his loud mouthed mistress. SMH"


Yeah I really do feel bad for her, you have to deal with such a dirt bag and then a terminal disease that took her life.:(
Then the mistress trying to talk about her in a negative way too, it's like really? You got some nerve lady.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
Jun 22nd '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I was a teenager and with a much older man. He said he was divorced. I was heartbroken when I found ... [snip!] ... one of the hardest things I ever did because I loved him... but I wouldn't be the mistress. He was the homewrecker, not me! "


He was also, by American standards, a pedo if you were under eighteen.

Mama C~ TTA since Nov 2010; 10 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 11667 posts
Jun 22nd '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" People don't want to be blamed for things... that sucks! So they will make excuses for anything and ... [snip!] ... that you stop and think, "this isn't a good idea" or "I should walk away right now", it's all about listening to that warning."


:!: I agree! I think so many more people should stop and listen to that warning and say this is not the place for me, get up and walk away but alot dont and I cant understand how some cheaters still dont think it was there fault:? Really:? You are unhappy or want to be with other people then be honest with your spouse and leave the right way. It will hurt the person but it hurts more being lied and cheated on in your marriage by someone you trusted and loved.



Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
Jun 22nd '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" No I was 19! hahaha But, I was very immature when it came to relationships and sex.... Seriously, I ... [snip!] ... what sex was (except that it made babies) until I was 17 and watched a porno :oops: My first relationship was when I was 18. "


Right there with you. I didn't even get my first "real" kiss until in college. I was eighteen as well. :oops:

Mama C~ TTA since Nov 2010; 10 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 11667 posts
Jun 22nd '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I was a teenager and with a much older man. He said he was divorced. I was heartbroken when I found ... [snip!] ... one of the hardest things I ever did because I loved him... but I wouldn't be the mistress. He was the homewrecker, not me! "

You did the right thing, someone who cant be fully commited to you doesnt deserve you. I dont think the people who are with the cheaters (other party) dont get that you are also being cheated on if the person is still married.:lol:

user banned Due September 9 (boy); 1 child; Zimbabwe 42927 posts
Jun 22nd '12

I wouldn't associate with someone who could hold a relationship with a married man/woman period. The spouse is the only one accountable to there wife/husband but the other person should be judged by there friends and family...

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
Jun 22nd '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I disagree. I was with a married man and I swear I had no idea he was married. I would hate if my friends ... [snip!] ... with married women too... he doesn't rape them, they give themselves to him... so why should he be hated and shunned by me?? "


I don't think anyone should be hated but being a shitty person has consequences and I couldn't pretend to like someone who was a shitty person. Your situation is sad. You didn't know and the liar just kept lying.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
Jun 22nd '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I don't think he is a shitty person at all. He is honest with these women, he doesn't lead them on ... [snip!] ... come to him when they want some. Like a free hooker! hahaha But, he never lied to any of the women to get them into bed. "


I don't know the guy but we will have to agree to disagree. Glad he is good in bed though, haha.