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Satan 5 kids; Satans Kingdom, Vermont 114758 posts
22nd Jun '12

You people blaming the other woman...you're taking blame away from the person who's really at fault.



ONLY the cheater can break the promises he broke. He didn't have to fuck outside of his marriage. She didn't rape him. He's 100% at fault.



He has a brain. He has a mouth to say no with. His penis doesn't rule him. ....and if it does? Then you picked a shit hole of a dude.

user banned Due March 21; 1 child; Colorado 67779 posts
22nd Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyRust:</b>" My grandmother used to tell us, "A marriage can only be broken from within." I believe that. In the ... [snip!] ... that I would think highly of the woman/man on the otherside of the fold. However, they aren't the ones that broke the marriage."</blockquote>




Very true

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
22nd Jun '12
Quoting Satan:" "the other woman" is NEVER the homewrecker. No matter if she went after the husband with intent..no ... [snip!] ... if he cheated. HE broke the promise. (The same goes for the wife..the dude she cheats with isn't the homewrecker....SHE is)"


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Lanni 16 kids; New Hampshire 748 posts
22nd Jun '12

I don't believe the other person is the home wrecker. Sure, they probably knew that the person is in a relationship, but that person holds no commitment to you like your partner does. I'm sure if my SO cheated on me, I wouldn't be fond of the person he cheated with, but he would be getting the blame, not her. He was the one who chose to cheat, and he was the one who made a commitment to me.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
22nd Jun '12
Quoting Remembering Cortnie:" Unless the other woman had no idea about his other family, I think she is also at fault, if only slightly. ... [snip!] ... just wait until either party at least files for divorce ? What a shitty argument. The guy is mostly at fault thiugh FOR SURE"


Exactly.

cfxfdfdfdsfdafdsf Vacaville, California 71166 posts
22nd Jun '12
Quoting MommyRust:" My grandmother used to tell us, "A marriage can only be broken from within." I believe that. In the ... [snip!] ... that I would think highly of the woman/man on the otherside of the fold. However, they aren't the ones that broke the marriage."



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This, exactly.

Mama C~ TTA since Nov 2010; 10 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 11665 posts
22nd Jun '12
Quoting ✩BG Addict✩:" i think it dpeends on the situation. while in some cases i do think that the marraige is already broken, there are cases of women "luring" the man out of the relationship."


I dont think you can be lured unless you want to be. I think people try to give a million excuses on why it happends but ultimately you always have a choice, you can try to fix what you have at home or you can walk away but you should always be honest to the person you took vows with to always be commited.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
22nd Jun '12

I think both parties are responsible/guilty, especially the husband.

KH. 1 child; Texas 4186 posts
status 22nd Jun '12

I was almost a "homewrecker" once. I was told by a man that he was divorced and what not and not until I creeped through his phone did I learn his wife was deployed in Afghan and they were still married and they were having a good old fine and dandy conversation. I RAN from that situation. You never know what knowledge the other woman has and what he is telling her.

Mama C~ TTA since Nov 2010; 10 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 11665 posts
22nd Jun '12
Quoting * Sara *:" Yeah, she makes me sick. And his poor wife having to battle a disease and deal with her piece of shit husband and his loud mouthed mistress. SMH"


Yeah I really do feel bad for her, you have to deal with such a dirt bag and then a terminal disease that took her life.:(
Then the mistress trying to talk about her in a negative way too, it's like really? You got some nerve lady.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
22nd Jun '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I was a teenager and with a much older man. He said he was divorced. I was heartbroken when I found ... [snip!] ... one of the hardest things I ever did because I loved him... but I wouldn't be the mistress. He was the homewrecker, not me! "


He was also, by American standards, a pedo if you were under eighteen.

Mama C~ TTA since Nov 2010; 10 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 11665 posts
22nd Jun '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" People don't want to be blamed for things... that sucks! So they will make excuses for anything and ... [snip!] ... that you stop and think, "this isn't a good idea" or "I should walk away right now", it's all about listening to that warning."


:!: I agree! I think so many more people should stop and listen to that warning and say this is not the place for me, get up and walk away but alot dont and I cant understand how some cheaters still dont think it was there fault:? Really:? You are unhappy or want to be with other people then be honest with your spouse and leave the right way. It will hurt the person but it hurts more being lied and cheated on in your marriage by someone you trusted and loved.



Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
22nd Jun '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" No I was 19! hahaha But, I was very immature when it came to relationships and sex.... Seriously, I ... [snip!] ... what sex was (except that it made babies) until I was 17 and watched a porno :oops: My first relationship was when I was 18. "


Right there with you. I didn't even get my first "real" kiss until in college. I was eighteen as well. :oops:

Mama C~ TTA since Nov 2010; 10 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 11665 posts
22nd Jun '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I was a teenager and with a much older man. He said he was divorced. I was heartbroken when I found ... [snip!] ... one of the hardest things I ever did because I loved him... but I wouldn't be the mistress. He was the homewrecker, not me! "

You did the right thing, someone who cant be fully commited to you doesnt deserve you. I dont think the people who are with the cheaters (other party) dont get that you are also being cheated on if the person is still married.:lol:

Abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxy Due September 9 (boy); 1 child; Zimbabwe 42927 posts
22nd Jun '12

I wouldn't associate with someone who could hold a relationship with a married man/woman period. The spouse is the only one accountable to there wife/husband but the other person should be judged by there friends and family...