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Pinkman 1 child; Melbourne, VC, Australia 5504 posts
23rd Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting scared2keep:</b>" no i dont... but its all thats left"</blockquote>




Not at all. You have options! You need to explain exactly how you feel so we can better help you out. What do YOU want?

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
23rd Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting scared2keep:</b>" no i dont... but its all thats left"</blockquote>




If ur not 100% sure do not do it... maybe go to welfare and see what u can get from them?? Not sure because of ur age but they may be able to help u???

TCJ ♥ 1 child; Dunlap, Tennessee 3200 posts
23rd Jun '12
Quoting scared2keep:" no i dont... but its all thats left"


No, it's really not. You can carry the baby. Get put on medicare/caid to help pay for the doctor bills, etc. You don't have to have an abortion just because everyone else wants you too, no matter how young you are. You can always give it up for adoption, probably the hardest thing to do, but it's possible. You could keep it I suppose if family came around sooner or later.

user banned 2 kids; Colorado 294 posts
23rd Jun '12

I'd advise adoption. :?

user banned Due March 21; 1 child; Colorado 67779 posts
23rd Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting scared2keep:</b>" no i dont... but its all thats left"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... do it... maybe go to welfare and see what u can get from them?? Not sure because of ur age but they may be able to help u???"</blockquote>




Eh... If her parents make decent money she can't get food stamps. If they have her on insurance she can't get Medicaid either I don't think. Cash assistance is a f**king b***h & she is probably too young... Not even welfare could do a lot really...

Chals11 Racine, Ohio 62 posts
23rd Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Remembering Cortnie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... I don't think. Cash assistance is a f**king b***h & she is probably too young... Not even welfare could do a lot really..."</blockquote>



Actually if she told welfare that her parents don't buy the babies food and support it they would help her. My cousin lived with. My grandma and when she was pregnant she told them That she and the baby ate separately and cooked their own meals and they helped her. But in this case I would say that she needs to think Lon and hard about her decision and do what's best for the baby.

D-man's Momma 2 kids; USA 672 posts
23rd Jun '12

Check into all the options in your state. There are other places than pp to get help. There are places that will help you with living expenses and Dr bills no matter your age. I know some adoption agencies offer help or other pregnancy help places. If you are only doing it for your parents you will probably just regret it and resent your parents. :(

slayera Due February 2 (twins); 4 kids; 3 angel babies; nowhere, ca, United States 1231 posts
23rd Jun '12

i would not have the abortion. i was 15 when i got pregnant with my daughter, everyone said to abort. i said NO. i had friends back then that all had multiple abortions, then went on to have kids. they were emotionally messed up, always wondering about their aborted children. im glad i kept my daughter, she is a fine young woman in college now. i cant imagine life without her. you do whats best for you & consider all your options.

user banned Due March 21; 1 child; Colorado 67779 posts
23rd Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chals11:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Remembering Cortnie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... her. But in this case I would say that she needs to think Lon and hard about her decision and do what's best for the baby."</blockquote>




So yoy want her to lie...? & a cousin w/ her grandma is different. Here you have to be 21 or 22 to get FS if you live w/ your parents, or legal guardians. you can't just say they eat separately. & let's say she does get FS... So like, 200 a month in food ? That still is very little help. Babies don't even eat food until 6 months old, & very little.

Chals11 Racine, Ohio 62 posts
23rd Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Remembering Cortnie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chals11:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Remembering ... [snip!] ... So like, 200 a month in food ? That still is very little help. Babies don't even eat food until 6 months old, & very little."</blockquote>




Well seeings how she posted that her parents don't support her wont help I assumed she ment I she kept the baby, so no it wouldn't be lying. And it was no different my cousin living wih my grandma she was her legal guardian cause he mom died when she was seven so she is like her mom. By no means do I think a 14 year old should be raising a baby, but it is possible. She shouldn't have to feel that the only option is abortion. I was 16 when I had my son and I couldn't imagine being any younger, I was able to hold a job and drive my baby to the drs. It is possible for a 14 yr old but it would be hard but ppl do it everyday.

Amber Shamblin11 4 kids; Charleston, West Virginia 66 posts
23rd Jun '12

dont abort your baby becuz everybody wants u too...right now everybody jus upset cuz your soo young but once the baby gets here they will fall right in love with it and probably will be feeling pretty shitty for saying what they said..just give it time for it to sink in

user banned Due March 21; 1 child; Colorado 67779 posts
24th Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chals11:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Remembering Cortnie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... able to hold a job and drive my baby to the drs. It is possible for a 14 yr old but it would be hard but ppl do it everyday."</blockquote>




Well since she is a minor, her parents can't just kick her out, right ? Or she'd go to a foster family I guess... I would hope her family isn't that fucked up though. & I'm not trying to say it is imoossible at all, just... well it must be very hard. I was pregnant at 18 & it was pretty tough & you're a legal adult at that age. Wonder if OP will come back & update

NeverGiveUpHope 1 child; Orem, Utah 136 posts
24th Jun '12

I know someone who had a healthy son at 14years old. I'm married to that man. If she would have had an abortion i wouldn't be married with the amazing man i am with today. You can do whatever you want!(Im 99% against abortion. but that doesn't mean you shouldn't just because i am.)
You have a lot of options.
Adoption(there is always open adoptions!)
You can get help from the state until you are able to do it on your own.
You can still finish high school.
If i were you go to an adoption agency and talk with them, they have a lot of different adoption plans based on what YOU want not some one forcing you to do.
If you dont feel right in having an abortion after you have seen it. You shouldn't the guilt will eat you up for the rest of your life.
you should listen to the song "i would die for that" off of youtube. It's a very moving song.
I hope the best for you hun!

Country♥Lovin' 16 kids; Nunya, WA, United States 50 posts
25th Jun '12

I'm getting one on wednesday. I'm 19 and have a job, but I'm still not financially or emotionally stable enough to take care of another human being. Do what YOU want to do. You have so many options, and if you don't have your parents support, you will find tons of it on here <3



Feel free to message me anytime!

Ashley N Oliver Due December 11 (boy); 35 kids; Phoenix, Arizona 321 posts
26th Jun '12

I had my son at 15. I graduated at 17. Both sides of the family supported me with my decision though. My son is now 10yrs and I don't regret anything. I love him to much to have regrets. Teen parenting is not ideal but possible. Its definitely not for every one. And if u don't want the abortion don't do it! .. think abt adoption if there's no way u can financially tk care of him/her. And how far along are u? You never answered anyone. Just curious. I'm pro choice to a point but once that baby has a heart beat its a life and can even feel physical pain by 6 weeks. Whatever you do good luck. I hope it all wrks out one way or another. I know how difficult it is to be so young with mother hood on ur shoulders especially without support. :/. Do what's best for u & baby