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Screaming in public? Caitypoo ☮ Due December 14; 2 kids; Orlando, Florida 397 posts
23rd Jun '12

Hey ladies, My 3 year old has been screaming in public when I take him out, not crying just screaming. I keep telling him "no" and pull him into a bathroom for a timeout. He keeps doing it though, how can I get him to stop this behavior? Should I keep up with the timeouts?

CurlyDimpledLunatic! Due December 11 (girl); 2 kids; North Dakota 13767 posts
23rd Jun '12
Quoting Judes Mommy 7-14-09:" Hey ladies, My 3 year old has been screaming in public when I take him out, not crying just screaming. ... [snip!] ... bathroom for a timeout. He keeps doing it though, how can I get him to stop this behavior? Should I keep up with the timeouts?"


I take my kid. And then leave. It works for us though because usually when we go places all four of us go, so one of us can stay in the store or whatever and finish what we need done and the other can take the screaming child and go.

Caitypoo ☮ Due December 14; 2 kids; Orlando, Florida 397 posts
23rd Jun '12
Quoting CurlyDimpledLunatic!:" I take my kid. And then leave. It works for us though because usually when we go places all four of ... [snip!] ... so one of us can stay in the store or whatever and finish what we need done and the other can take the screaming child and go. "


I wish that was an option for me but i'm a single mommy so I have to get my shopping done haha

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
23rd Jun '12

Why is he screaming? Is he bored? Bring him some toys or coloring books to color with.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
23rd Jun '12

Duct tape. Answer for everything.




But seriously, I bribe the shit out of my kids. It's called "positive reinforcement". "Be a good boy and you can have a treat when we're done". If he screams, I'll take him to the car for a time out to reload then go back in when he's calm. And start the process all over again.

Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom 2 kids; Raleigh, North Carolina 14528 posts
23rd Jun '12

Bring a small toy to distract him with?



If Jack starts randomly screaming, I ignore him and after he realizes that idgaf that he's screaming, he stops.

♥ meow Due March 11; 1 child; Palm Bay, Florida 2360 posts
23rd Jun '12
Quoting Judes Mommy 7-14-09:" I wish that was an option for me but i'm a single mommy so I have to get my shopping done haha"


I honestly don't acknowledge them. My daughter used to do this everytime we were out and she didn't get her way, i would walk a few feet from her, like arms length and pretend I don't see her. When she realized I wasn't paying her no mind, she'd come and tell me she wants a hug, which I gave her and we bumped fists and I tell her its over, she agrees and we continue on, now the tantrums have stopped and she'll just come and bump fists with me when she's done being upset lol

HappyMom:) Due August 15 (girl); 1 child; Indiana 402 posts
23rd Jun '12

I know this may seem silly but have you tried asking him why he's screaming? Calmly having a conversation with him about it? Also, maybe you could try letting him help you shop so he's entertained.

Caitypoo ☮ Due December 14; 2 kids; Orlando, Florida 397 posts
23rd Jun '12
Quoting ma ♥:" Why is he screaming? Is he bored? Bring him some toys or coloring books to color with."

He brings a firetruck with him, but as soon as his sirens go off on the truck he screams then laughs hysterically

Caitypoo ☮ Due December 14; 2 kids; Orlando, Florida 397 posts
23rd Jun '12
Quoting HappyMom:):" I know this may seem silly but have you tried asking him why he's screaming? Calmly having a conversation with him about it? Also, maybe you could try letting him help you shop so he's entertained."


I will ask him next time he screams, haha why didn't I do this before

Stephloveslynden Due August 2 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 24423 posts
23rd Jun '12

When my children act up, I tell them that they have to stop misbehaving or we'll go in the car and wait until they are done (we've done it. I've sat in the Target parking lot for 45 minutes before.) But, I also tell them if they are good girls, I will get them something- I don't go over the top, its usually something I was going to get anyway like their favorite yogurt or a character shampoo etc. I usually let them hold the "prize" while in the store but if they act up, I take the prize away and tell them I'm not going to buy it unless they are good. At the end of the trip, if they've behaved well, I'll make a big deal and shower them with hugs and kisses and say over and over "you were such a good girl, thank you so much for being a good girl." then it encourages them to repeat the behavior.

Caitypoo ☮ Due December 14; 2 kids; Orlando, Florida 397 posts
23rd Jun '12
Quoting ♥LOCKEDnLOADED:" I honestly don't acknowledge them. My daughter used to do this everytime we were out and she didn't ... [snip!] ... and we continue on, now the tantrums have stopped and she'll just come and bump fists with me when she's done being upset lol"


Good idea, but can't help to feel a little embarrassed when his screams echo throughout the whole store, i've even had some people tell me to "shut that kid up" I know I should ignore them but it still gets on my nerves..

Caitypoo ☮ Due December 14; 2 kids; Orlando, Florida 397 posts
23rd Jun '12
Quoting Steph+Alice+Caroline:" When my children act up, I tell them that they have to stop misbehaving or we'll go in the car and wait ... [snip!] ... and over "you were such a good girl, thank you so much for being a good girl." then it encourages them to repeat the behavior. "


Do you do this everytime you act up? I can't be bribing him everytime..

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36539 posts
23rd Jun '12
Quoting Judes Mommy 7-14-09:" Good idea, but can't help to feel a little embarrassed when his screams echo throughout the whole store, ... [snip!] ... store, i've even had some people tell me to "shut that kid up" I know I should ignore them but it still gets on my nerves.."

I would tell them to shut the f**k up.



My son is the same way he will freak out, Ive gotten to the point where Idont care. I will go on about what I was doing and let my son throw his fit. Im a single mom also.

♥ meow Due March 11; 1 child; Palm Bay, Florida 2360 posts
23rd Jun '12
Quoting Judes Mommy 7-14-09:" Good idea, but can't help to feel a little embarrassed when his screams echo throughout the whole store, ... [snip!] ... store, i've even had some people tell me to "shut that kid up" I know I should ignore them but it still gets on my nerves.."


I don't care about the embarassment factor, people can stare all they want.
I have honestly tried it all-
screaming at her
time outs
rewards
taking things away
I honestly find not paying it any mind seems to work for my little one. I usually say, "I'm not even going to try to talk to you when you're like this, if you're ready to be a big girl and tell me what's wrong I'm here to listen"