Reply
~Spartacus~ TTC since Dec 2012; 3 kids; Dayton, Texas 6665 posts
25th Jun '12
Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" Your post gives off the impression that your decision could be money driven. Please dont go into it with that being your only reason. Its a beautiful and thankless thing to do for someone."


thats not the big deal it is a big amount dont get me wrong but my thinking isnt money money money........its giving a gift to someone who cant do it alone to give them the experience of parents that they obviously desire and yet still be able to help my family.

Done with Drama 2 kids; California 8183 posts
25th Jun '12

It depends on if you are just carrying the baby with their egg/sperm, or if you are donating your egg with the other dude's sperm.



I would love to do it, but with my last pregnancy as hard as it was....makes me skeptical on the chance of carrying twins or more.

~Spartacus~ TTC since Dec 2012; 3 kids; Dayton, Texas 6665 posts
25th Jun '12
Quoting MakenaAndMaiyasMommy:" 50,000 is A LOT of money...especially when you don't have it. BUT knowing that that is your biological ... [snip!] ... an INSTANT connection after having them. I'd be scared to go through PPD not having the child that you carried for 9 months."


see thats my issue is the end of the pregnancy and not being able to let go. but when i think about how happy they will be when they hold that child makes me believe i can do it.

Whitnaaaaaay Due March 27; 3 kids; Maryland 2365 posts
25th Jun '12
Quoting ~Spartacus~:" see thats my issue is the end of the pregnancy and not being able to let go. but when i think about how happy they will be when they hold that child makes me believe i can do it."

That's true. I guess it's necessary to disconnect yourself from the pregnancy. If you go into it knowing that the baby isn't yours and you are giving someone else the amazing joy of being a parent it may be easier!

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36618 posts
25th Jun '12
Quoting MakenaAndMaiyasMommy:" That's true. I guess it's necessary to disconnect yourself from the pregnancy. If you go into it knowing ... [snip!] ... into it knowing that the baby isn't yours and you are giving someone else the amazing joy of being a parent it may be easier!"


I can tell you it isnt easier. This is about the same thing as adoption. I disconnected throughout my pregnancy with my youngest because I was going to give him to a family, and I kept telling myself that I would laugh
after he was born and he was in his dads arms.



It maybe different who knows.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 16162 posts
status 25th Jun '12

If they can afford to pay $50k just in compensation, then they can afford to use a separate egg donor.

☠BryBry'sMuM☠ Due March 19 (girl); 1 child; Fullerton, California 15229 posts
25th Jun '12

i actually would like to be one but after my 2nd or 3rd child. i feel for those moms! so i hope one day to bare a child for someone.

♥garrett&adalyn 2 kids; Texas 10762 posts
25th Jun '12

I would do it. I've been thinking about doing it later on down the line too maybe. The only thing stopping me is me getting attached to the child.. but it would be a pretty awesome thing to do.

Krissy Marissy 3 kids; California 2991 posts
25th Jun '12

I had considered this before I even had my first child. But three pregnancies with pre e later I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be approved to do it. I think it's a very special thing to do, however I wouldn't be able to let go knowing that it had my dna. Knowing the egg isn't mine would help me love that baby but not be upset to hand it to it's mommy later...afterall, it isn't truly mine. GL to you in whatever you decide!

Waiting on Sunshine 81 kids; Tuvalu 12346 posts
25th Jun '12

Keep in mind you will be missing work for appointments what if you are o. Bed rest? The money is helping to cover that, not just 50k it is a large commitment and I'd be sketched out if they don't want to meet you with a lawyer first

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36618 posts
25th Jun '12
Quoting Waitin on Peanut:" Keep in mind you will be missing work for appointments what if you are o. Bed rest? The money is helping ... [snip!] ... to cover that, not just 50k it is a large commitment and I'd be sketched out if they don't want to meet you with a lawyer first"


PLUS if they want an abortion for ANY REASON you have to get it..

♥garrett&adalyn 2 kids; Texas 10762 posts
25th Jun '12
Quoting Link:" PLUS if they want an abortion for ANY REASON you have to get it.. "


damn I never thought about that :/

Naturally Alternative 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 6507 posts
25th Jun '12

Link: You can have a contract saying there's to be no abortion if you'd like.



It's easy for me to say this, but I think I could do it with or without my own egg. We only want two children so any more eggs would be wasted anyway... why not use them to give someone else a child to love? If I spent time with the couple and felt they were going to be good parents, I don't think I'd have a problem with it. But again, it's easy to say and a different matter to do it.



I don't think it matters either way... I already looked into it and everyone told me there's no way anyone would want me because I'm overweight and have a history of bipolar.

♥garrett&adalyn 2 kids; Texas 10762 posts
25th Jun '12
Quoting Stephanie G.:" Link: You can have a contract saying there's to be no abortion if you'd like. It's easy for me to say ... [snip!] ... looked into it and everyone told me there's no way anyone would want me because I'm overweight and have a history of bipolar."


well that's rude.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36618 posts
25th Jun '12
Quoting Stephanie G.:" Link: You can have a contract saying there's to be no abortion if you'd like. It's easy for me to say ... [snip!] ... looked into it and everyone told me there's no way anyone would want me because I'm overweight and have a history of bipolar."


no... its not about you, it is their baby. And they can do what they like.



Well how about you get pregnant and then place it for adoption if you want to help people have baby.