Is getting way too personal and not doing what she should be with my son. I go back with him because of anxiety and positive separation goals. Anyway she's super chatty. And I sit there quietly and don't encourage her, but she's like using me or a counselor it feels like. And I don't want to be rude. What is a nice way to say shut the f*** up and get to work??
Here are a few things I've learned in the past couple of weeks.
1) Her family played favorites and she was the one who didn't get any love. Was left out all the time and her family is doing it to her kid.
2) She's the product of cousins getting married and when she goes to family functions it's her mothers side and DH father's side and so there is her married last name family and her maiden last name family there and she didn't really get it until she was older.
3) All about her new house, acreage, cost, concerns. Just about everything.
4) All about her old house in her old state and the type of environment of the neighborhood.
5) How her kids are doing in school
I don't need to know anything about any of that. She's not my friend. She is my son's professional teacher. I don't like to waste the time listening to her talk when she can be talking to my kid.
I don't play around when it comes to my daughter's therapy sessions or therapists. When a certain therapist isn't up to my standards for my daughter, I talk to a supervisor and ask for another therapist. Usually, I just tell them that "I don't think she is a match for our family."
Quoting ava & brandon's mommy:" I don't play around when it comes to my daughter's therapy sessions or therapists. When a certain therapist ... [snip!] ... to a supervisor and ask for another therapist. Usually, I just tell them that "I don't think she is a match for our family.""
I've tried that and I was told to talk with her and try to work it out. :? I don't want to be mean. How do I say, I want to make this work, but you gotta quit the bullshit?
Quoting Angie Mother of Boys:" I've tried that and I was told to talk with her and try to work it out. :? I don't want to be mean. How do I say, I want to make this work, but you gotta quit the bullshit?"
That's crazy that they won't respect your desire to change therapists!! Anyway, I would just flat out tell her that you need her to focus all of her attention on your son during the session. That it isn't fair to him if there is other conversation going on. The session NEEDS to be devoted to him and working on meeting his goals.
can you take an iPod or something back with you with some headphones and listen to some music (or act like you are) or try reading a book and see if that discourages her from trying to talk to you.....I never had an issue with my sons therapists so I haven't been there but maybe it would help.
My daughter's first Early Intervention therapist talked a lot..and her and I even got in a tiny dispute over the phone because my daughter was missing a lot of therapy but it was due to being sick. She got sick ALL OF THE TIME and I made a remark about never seeing her or any other therapist clean the toys between uses..they were always put back in the cabinets when we left. She acted like Bella would build up an immunity after a while of getting sick and it wasn't their fault.
She still gets sick what seems like every month with something and she has been going there for two years. She is in preschool now though and has different therapists, which I need to get with her speech therapist about sign language, she did a sign recently that I didn't know she knew lol. I think you just have to be honest hun, it might not be what they want to hear but they SHOULD understand!