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Malaki's Mommy! 17 kids; Marianna, Florida 27 posts
28th Jun '12

Having him understand my reasoning is a little hard, but I think once he sees that it's the best thing for Ke and Ki he'll come around. Once we get custody of Ke, Sarah (the mother) will NOT be in the picture (she's on drugs, picks her boy toy over him, and we've heard had another kid..) and so far, my child's father has not been in the picture thus far (his girfriend has two girls that he's taking care of) so that shouldn't be a problem but I'd rather he be "Kris" to mine and I be "Jen" to his, but wouldn't that confuse the children with one calling me "Mommy" and the other calling him "Daddy" because if everything pans out, we'll all be living together.

RickysMommy1112 1 child; New York 112 posts
28th Jun '12

I think that you should just tell him you dont feel comfortable with it yet, but say it nicely. and when the kids feel comfortable enough to call you or him mommy or daddy they will.

Bethy-Poodles Due November 14 (boy); 2 kids; Prosser, Washington 5867 posts
28th Jun '12
Quoting Malaki's Mommy!:" Having him understand my reasoning is a little hard, but I think once he sees that it's the best thing ... [snip!] ... with one calling me "Mommy" and the other calling him "Daddy" because if everything pans out, we'll all be living together."

I thought you said the mom had full custody?

Malaki's Mommy! 17 kids; Marianna, Florida 27 posts
28th Jun '12
Quoting Bethy-poodles:" I thought you said the mom had full custody? "


Atm, the Baby Mama's mother has full custody. We're trying to fight it and get him, but don't want to start with that until he graduates.

Bethy-Poodles Due November 14 (boy); 2 kids; Prosser, Washington 5867 posts
28th Jun '12
Quoting Malaki's Mommy!:" Atm, the Baby Mama's mother has full custody. We're trying to fight it and get him, but don't want to start with that until he graduates."

Until your SO graduates? Or the boy?

Malaki's Mommy! 17 kids; Marianna, Florida 27 posts
28th Jun '12

Until Kris graduates, he's a senior in high school right now and didn't want to do the custody battle (being that we live in Florida and Keshawn lives in Kansas) during the school year.

Bethy-Poodles Due November 14 (boy); 2 kids; Prosser, Washington 5867 posts
28th Jun '12
Quoting Malaki's Mommy!:" Until Kris graduates, he's a senior in high school right now and didn't want to do the custody battle (being that we live in Florida and Keshawn lives in Kansas) during the school year."

Ooooh okay. Lol, got a wee bit confused. I would wait until the mom is out of the picture completely before you start having the kid call you mom. And wait until your LO is comfortable with doing it naturally, calling your SO dad I mean. It will happen, shouldn't be forced though.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
28th Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Malaki's Mommy!:</b>" Having him understand my reasoning is a little hard, but I think once he sees that it's the best thing ... [snip!] ... with one calling me "Mommy" and the other calling him "Daddy" because if everything pans out, we'll all be living together."</blockquote>




what does having another kid have to do with anything regarding custody?

Malaki's Mommy! 17 kids; Marianna, Florida 27 posts
28th Jun '12

Lol, yeah it was confusing once I went back and read it, hopefully, we can work this all out before we got the other "son!" It's been presenting arguments because he's constantly "Daddy this" and "Daddy that.." but I've been able to tone it down a bit and remind him that Malaki's still young and will get confused.

Malaki's Mommy! 17 kids; Marianna, Florida 27 posts
28th Jun '12
Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Malaki's Mommy!:</b>" Having him understand my reasoning is ... [snip!] ... we'll all be living together."</blockquote> what does having another kid have to do with anything regarding custody?"


He has a son, and I have one. I don't want the kids to be confused because mine will be calling me "Mommy" and him "Kris" and his will be calling him "Daddy" and me "Jen".

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
28th Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Malaki's Mommy!:</b>" He has a son, and I have one. I don't want the kids to be confused because mine will be calling me "Mommy" and him "Kris" and his will be calling him "Daddy" and me "Jen"."</blockquote>




oh ok. i thought that the mom had another kid and you were basing it off of that.



i would say to him. your boyfriend. that you dont feel right. the kids wont get confused. your son will call you mom; and his will call him dad and each others son will call them by your first name.



my son was 3 and a half when his father told him that his now wife was going to become his step mom; i dont believe that forf a second because my son came home telling me i wasnt his mom; his dad rarely sees him since he left me for her. i got him straight and told him that she will be his stepmom and i am his mommy.



i dont want to offend you but i hate when parents want to teach their kids to call their stepparents mommy and daddy. not right. if they do it on their own when they are older cool but... when they are young... no. wrong.

Dani Lynn 2 kids; North Carolina 415 posts
28th Jun '12
Quoting Malaki's Mommy!:" He has a son, and I have one. I don't want the kids to be confused because mine will be calling me "Mommy" and him "Kris" and his will be calling him "Daddy" and me "Jen"."


There are alot of integrated families. And the kids do fine with calling one parent mommy and one by name. It's what the child is comfortable calling the parent.