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Tara Annie 16 kids; Illinois 96 posts
9th Jul '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting gloria11:</b>" I've never had an abortion.... but I was advised to because my baby was also very sick... I took it into ... [snip!] ... those moments for anything. My baby died in november of 2011. And I am now 29 weeks pregnant today. Good luck and God Bless!!!!"</blockquote>




Congrats on your new baby...we lost ours in nov of 11 as well....we have been ttc and it's annoying me cause I'm not pregnant yet lol....the doctors said a lot of the problems he had could have been from me having a folic acid defencency..I know I spelled that wrong...so now I have to take 4000 mg of folic acid a day cause they say when I do get pregnant again...which right now feels like its never gonna happen cause I'm so impatience lol....it should help with having a healthy baby that is if his problems wasn't from abnormal genes

gloria11 Due September 23 (girl); Villa Rica, Georgia 5 posts
10th Jul '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tara Annie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting gloria11:</b>" I've never had an abortion.... but I was advised ... [snip!] ... cause I'm so impatience lol....it should help with having a healthy baby that is if his problems wasn't from abnormal genes"</blockquote>



After the loss of our daughter I too wanted another baby. I cried everyday. I asked how and when I could get pregnant again. All I wanted was to have a baby. So here's what the Dr. Told me. Take iron and folic acid pills... no caffiene. Including coffee. Don't try for about a month until you have done all these things. Plan according to your ovulation cycle.Meaning only have sex on the the days you are ovulating. They have free websites for ovulation and getting pregnant. Try looking it up if you haven't done so already. Eat right and stay healthy. When asked what the risks of having an unhealthy baby again he replied...you have (at the time) 4 children 1 who was unhealthy. 3 perfect children that's your chance you have more good then bad. And he was right. You have to have faith and pray about it. More importantly. Don't stress about it. because that also hurts you. Relax it will happen. Good luck.

MariahLTate USA 161 posts
10th Jul '12

Listen all u girls why does everyone on this freaking site always have to think the worst in what people are saying . If u read and actually think about the hell I I was saying u don't need to jump right at me with a problem. People on here are always talking crap and starting fights and I'm sick of it I joined this site to meet people conversation and get advice Not to freaking hear people make everything out to be a big deAl. Anyways if u read and thought about what I was saying yES it did go with the topic of what she said. My cousin went through what she was talking about! And I was trying to say that if she does get pregnant again and if there is medical problems to still go through with it anyways... Because my baby cousin was a surviver in that same problem. That's all. I'm not trying to hammer u in any type of way. And I'm extremely sorry if I came off like that in my first comment. But always have faith in everything u do. Because there is miracles that happen everyday and if u believe the best.... Then the best will happen:) thank you for reading this if u did. And May God bless u on having abeautiful heathy baby:)

user banned 17 kids; Boston, MA, United States 9473 posts
10th Jul '12
Quoting MariahLTate:"


this was in AS and we know what you were saying.
its against the rules, and very disrespectful. just because your cousin did alright....well im sure you know how much of a "miracle" that is. not every case turns out so well. some people cant deal with that stress, heartbreak some people dont want their children to suffer for the hours they might have. the op's situation im sure was quite different from your cousins, there is no survival...maybe a couple days. even if the hydrocephaly werent there the childs life would still be painful and handicapped due to the spina bifida.



living with that as a mother isnt for everyone. your cousin was lucky.

MariahLTate USA 161 posts
10th Jul '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting cunning cuniculi:</b>" this was in AS and we know what you were saying. its against the rules, and very disrespectful. just ... [snip!] ... be painful and handicapped due to the spina bifida. living with that as a mother isnt for everyone. your cousin was lucky."</blockquote>




I know he was!! He still has some back problems today but he's healthy. It's so sad what woman go through and I'm so sorry to hear that. But hopefully the next time if she does get pregnant like she was saying .... There won't be complications. My aunt went through a lot with the pregnancy but it was worth it in the end. God bless all those mothers that go through the pain and the struggles of that. I don't kno how it feels to lose and hopefully I never will. I'm sorry lady's

Tara Annie 16 kids; Illinois 96 posts
11th Jul '12

I hope you don't either it's the worst pain in the world and everyday I remeber the pain of the surgery. To think of having to put my feet back into stir ups for any reason now scares me. I was very traumatized by the whole experience. I wouldn't wish what I went thru to anyone not even my worst enemy. I pray one day I will heal enough to move on and have a healthy baby.

Plum flippers 17 kids; Tulsa, Oklahoma 68 posts
22nd Jul '12

I've just seen this feed and I am currently 30 weeks pregnant. I wanted an abortion because my daughter has bilateral renal agenesis and won't survive. My doctors knew she had this at 16 weeks but waited until I was about 20 weeks to tell me. I could have paid for it then but by the time I knew the price just kept going up and up until it was unrealistic for me to do it. Every day is a struggle and I have only recently found some organizations that would have helped me. Something that was kept from me. I hate how my decision was taken from me and hope no woman has to go thru this without it being their decision

*karlees mommy* 17 kids; Mooresville, North Carolina 638 posts
22nd Jul '12
Quoting Hanah Jones:" I've just seen this feed and I am currently 30 weeks pregnant. I wanted an abortion because my daughter ... [snip!] ... kept from me. I hate how my decision was taken from me and hope no woman has to go thru this without it being their decision"



Damn i googled this
im so sorry mamma
i hope you were misdignosed i really do that is so sad. you have a hard road ahead of you i feel horrible for you it makes my heart hurt and my stomach turn
if you need some one to talk to i am here for you!



FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27267 posts
22nd Jul '12
Quoting Hanah Jones:" I've just seen this feed and I am currently 30 weeks pregnant. I wanted an abortion because my daughter ... [snip!] ... kept from me. I hate how my decision was taken from me and hope no woman has to go thru this without it being their decision"


I'm so sorry hun :(



Yeah, there are organizations to help you fund an abortion. They are great, and I'm sorry you didn't know about it. I'm even more sorry your asshole doctors didnt inform you until late :(

gloria11 Due September 23 (girl); Villa Rica, Georgia 5 posts
23rd Jul '12

I completely agree... I am so sorry the choice was taken from you. I don't want to sound like one of those people but maybe this is Gods way of helping you. I had a stillborn who from the the beginning of my pregnancy I knew she was going to die... it killed me everyday wondering when the day would come.I chose to carry her until she died. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I know you are hurting and I pray God eases your pain. Only you can make the right decision for yourself. Good luck to you and your sweet baby.

Plum flippers 17 kids; Tulsa, Oklahoma 68 posts
26th Jul '12

I am glad for the support I'm getting from all of you. I've never thought this would be a decision I couldn't make and I want all woman who have a fatal prognosis for their baby's to be able to decide because this is getting even harder for my body and my baby's. It's a hard decision and I am praying/hoping for a miracle nonstop.

Tara Annie 16 kids; Illinois 96 posts
29th Jul '12

Thoughts and prayers to you Hanah...you are much more stronger by doing what ur doing even though you don't think you are....god bless you sweetie

Mrs cree Due November 23; 33 kids; Ontario 1907 posts
29th Aug '12

I did it was my jest pregnancy my baby had trisomy 18 and not chance of survival it was heartbreaking all the vital organs were in the chest and the lungs did not develop there is a good book that was recommended to me from the genetic councilor it's a heartbreaking choice I will write to you you or you can write to me if you want to talk sorry I have to go to work

Plum flippers 17 kids; Tulsa, Oklahoma 68 posts
29th Aug '12

I'd be interested in the name of the book. I have a few more weeks left so I would like to know there's some kinda relief or something to help ease this even just a little.

Mrs cree Due November 23; 33 kids; Ontario 1907 posts
29th Aug '12

The name of the book is a heartbreaking choice it's nice to know other people have had to make such a difficult decision as well and there's hope we had a miscarriage after this ang we got a surprise in febuary we are expecting I'm 28 weeks with a healthy baby but you can see a genetist they told us it was just a fluke it just happens sometimes the book is available for e readers as well on amazon don't feel bad with your choice I know how hard it is and and to have to give up something so loved and wanted if you need anything I'm here just ask I will not post anything we can keep it private