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hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
9th Jul '12

You are making the best decision for yourself at this time of your life. Ignore the negatives, they aren't in your shoes.
All the best, I hope you have lots of support from family and friends.

~ Ez's MoM ~ 33 kids; Zimbabwe 3436 posts
9th Jul '12
Quoting marissssa.:" WOW nevermind. Holy crap. i just needed support now i am getting a ton of PM's on what a baby "does" at 19 weeks. I didn't ask for all that. I just was wondering if anyone else has been thru it,."


thats bullshit! I am sorry you are in this position, and to all the ladies PM her, leave her be and try to be supportive or dont say anything. it is rude in incosiderate.



best wishes,

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
9th Jul '12

please have someone supportive w/u after the procedures are done to monitor your progress & your recovery when its finished......physical healing will take awhile and you may need help doing things for a few days. Read up on all the info you can so that u will recognize ''normal'' after effects of the termination and be able to distiguish is something isnt right.

Megan Marie S 1 child; Canfield, Ohio 28 posts
9th Jul '12

"Let's be very clear about this: when a woman finds herself pregnant due to violence and chooses an abortion, it is the violence that is the tragedy; the abortion is a blessing.



When a woman finds that the fetus she is carrying has anomalies incompatible with life, that it will not live and that she requires an abortion

user banned Colorado 21030 posts
9th Jul '12

Good luck mama! I have not had one that late into pregnancy but I can imagine it's a very emotional and hard time for you.



I hope your sister can make herself available to help you with whatever you need after teh procedure, it's important to have someone who loves you at a time like that. If it is truly the best thing for you, then do not worry about what others say. No one has to know but you and your support. I don't blame you for not going with adoption.



Ignore the naysayers, adoption is not worth the pain or trouble.

M4285 Ohio 65 posts
9th Jul '12

I wish you the best....And as long as you are sure what u wanna do then it is the best decision. I recently found out I was pregnant at 20 weeks... I was confused and unsure of what to do ecspecially finding out that late. So I had no time to deal or think about it..really. When I found out I made an appointment at a clinic and went for the initial appt. The initial appt consisted of u/s, blood work and paper work. They explained everything to me and I was scheduled the following week due to the Dr. being out of town and that my procedure would take 4 days. Due to various reasons (financial,medical,personal,lack of support) I did not have the procedure done. I just wanted to say I wish you the best...and stay strong...If you need to talk to anyone message me...

The Time Police 2 kids; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33400 posts
9th Jul '12

This must have been a tough decision for you, I considered abortion at 19 weeks with my first... Obviously didn't go through with it, but I had the appointment set and everything. I hope you have the support you need <3

KLawrence Due July 19; 1 child; Florida 34 posts
9th Jul '12

have u tried to consider giving ur baby for adoption? I know it will be hard, but it might be easier on u than an abortion.... Just knowing that u dd what was best for both of u.

Hayley1994 Due November 6; Illinois 103 posts
10th Jul '12

Please make sure its what you really want.. especially cause you are so far along. Make sure you have people that support you cause I know I could never do it. Good luck

Sticks N Stones 16 kids; 1 angel baby; Illinois 5100 posts
10th Jul '12

I had an abortion at 20 weeks gestation. my reasoning isn't as simple as most however. the abortion was a 2 day procedure and I almost didn't go through with it. I am glad some days that I did, other days, not so much. everyone is different though. I was also your age when I had my abortion. if you want to read my story from the day of my abortion to the reasoning behind it you're more then welcome to here. http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about639202.html good luck sweetie.

Miss Ashley +2 2 kids; New York 3790 posts
10th Jul '12
Quoting Daniee:" I am pretty positive that's illegal to get an abortion after 12 weeks. I mean 19 weeks is a formed baby... ... [snip!] ... I feel... Not trying to be rude. But it is a public forum and I'm just expressing my opinion. This actually breaks my heart..."


I agree, I COMPLETELY understand OP that being young and having so much ahead of you keeping the baby isnt a choice.



19 weeks is really far along to abort. I am only 23 weeks so I remember 19 weeks like it was yesturday & I couldn't even imagine. I guess if you can do it then you know power to you. But I look at a girl like Catelyn from Teen Mom (can never get the spelling right ) but she graduated high school in time and gave her baby up for adoption.

Ashley80sbaby Due October 30; 1 child; Tennessee 157 posts
10th Jul '12

I agree a broken hom is not the best environment and im probably going to get a lot of slack for what Im about to say but here goes: I grew up in a broken home, but I never wished my mom didnt have me. She was 18 and became a mom. I dont think the baby should be aborted just because of your home life. Someone would be more than happy to adopt them. There are a TON of parents wanting to have children that are heartbroken that they can't. And alot of them will cover your medical expenses and travel cost. You never have to see the child after the adoption. To me that baby is still a life and if you give him/her a home instead, that would be a better choice. No child deserves death before they even get to live. I know this cant be easy for anyone. But you did choose to have sex which resulted in conception and a baby.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60898 posts
10th Jul '12
Quoting Ashley80sbaby:"


You'll want to delete this now. You will be modded, this is a protected forum.

Miss Ashley +2 2 kids; New York 3790 posts
10th Jul '12
Quoting "M" is for moocow:" I had an abortion at 20 weeks gestation. my reasoning isn't as simple as most however. the abortion was ... [snip!] ... to the reasoning behind it you're more then welcome to here. http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about639202.html good luck sweetie."



I just read your story & I am so sorry that is so awful! You are a strong woman for doing that!!

slayera 4 kids; 3 angel babies; nowhere, ca, United States 705 posts
10th Jul '12
Quoting "M" is for moocow:" I had an abortion at 20 weeks gestation. my reasoning isn't as simple as most however. the abortion was ... [snip!] ... to the reasoning behind it you're more then welcome to here. http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about639202.html good luck sweetie."


i just read your story also. im so sorry that happened to you. im glad the 'sicko' got time for what he did to you.