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    • Yes, go replace the toy. -- Votes: 75
    • No, don't replace it. -- Votes: 3
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Second opinon *poll* Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
10th Jul '12

I need a second opinion.



My daughter is 2.5. She's currently being tested for high functioning autism, if that factors in. She doesn't speak much or pay a huge amount of attention to many things.



So, she has a toy that she likes. It plays music, and it counts from 1 - 10 in both English and Spanish. Today, she was pushing the numbers and counting. She counted along with they toy from 1 - 7 and then when she pushed "8", it wouldn't work and she flipped out. She doesn't throw temper tantrums-- but she was really upset. Falling out on the porch and screaming and crying. She kept bringing it back to me and retrying it and then getting upset again because the 8 wouldn't play.



I went and told DH and said that I thought I'd go to Walmart and pick her up a new one. Or a similar one. Something that counts and sings anyway. He doesn't want me to and I'm just spoiling her by giving her what she wants when she gets all upset.



And yes, I do spoil them on occasion. But on the other hand, there are very few things that she's really interested in, and that get her to speak.



So. Second opinion anyone?

Juggernog-aholic 4 kids; 2 angel babies; P, AR, United States 20226 posts
10th Jul '12

I would replace it.

Fia's Mama ♥ TTC since Aug 2014; 1 child; Durham, NC, United States 3975 posts
status 10th Jul '12

yes id go get a new one

. . 1 child; 8462 posts
10th Jul '12

Replace now! I would talk to her and explain that when things break we don't throw fits or cry, we find the appropriate way to resolve the issue, and then give her another. If she is high functioning, that attachment could help her- at least it's educational.

that one girl Due March 15 (boy); 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Phoenix, Arizona 54137 posts
10th Jul '12

I would replace it./ It's not like SHE threw it and broke it, it's not her fault it stopped working :(

*Mrs Cherry* 21 kids; Colorado Springs, Colorado 10450 posts
10th Jul '12

I would if I could get it quickly and easily, like the store down the road.
I wouldn't if I ended up having to order it and wait for it to come in the mail.
This is assuming that it is in your budget right now.

I ♥ HGF&EBF! 18 kids; North Baltimore, Ohio 8543 posts
10th Jul '12

I would replace it, my daughter is 3, has a speech delay and a sensory processing disorder and her princess wand broke and she was heartbroken it was one of the only things she played with so we went and bought a new one.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46159 posts
10th Jul '12

I would replace it.

*AmberStrass* 33 kids; Panama City, Florida 7668 posts
10th Jul '12

Absolutely go and replace it. Also, since its walmart...if you bring in the broken one theyll probably just let you do an exchange!

❀Sarah❀ 2 kids; Cocking, EU, Europe 121478 posts
10th Jul '12

I would. Shes non verbal right now and she was extremely frustrated that the toy not only wouldnt work and that she couldnt tell you that it wouldnt work. She doesnt realize how to ask for help yet.



How would your husband feel in that situation if he didnt know how to communicate or there was something holding him back from being able to?

Mrs.Rachael +2.5 Due November 28 (girl); 18 kids; Shreveport, Louisiana 10326 posts
10th Jul '12

we suspect my son has an ASD and I have had to do this many times for him. Some of his "special" toys we own a few of them just in case one breaks. It's not spoiling, it's providing an outlet for their sensory overloads.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
10th Jul '12

I agree, I would replace it. its not like she intentionally broke it, and since she doesnt really have the skills to express her disappointment, she got upset, which is normal. She wasnt throwing a fit to be naughty or get her way, its just the only way she knew how to express her emotions at that time.

.Twat.Waffle. Due June 18 (girl); 65 kids; .............., AK, Antarctica 8430 posts
10th Jul '12

Replace it... swap the broken one for the new one while she's asleep and go about your business like it was never broken.

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
10th Jul '12

Okay, thank you!!



I feel like he doesn't really understand what it's like for her. She hardly speaks at all and doesn't understand reasoning yet. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being stupid by going and replacing it anyway.

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
10th Jul '12
Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" I would. Shes non verbal right now and she was extremely frustrated that the toy not only wouldnt work ... [snip!] ... husband feel in that situation if he didnt know how to communicate or there was something holding him back from being able to?"


That's a really great point. I think I'm going to mention that to him.