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venting :'( lindsey_nikole Due January 31; Chattanooga, Tennessee 37 posts
11th Jul '12

I'm 16 and expecting a baby in February.. My boyfriend and I got jobs, and are saving up all the money we can until the baby comes.. My parents are far from supportive they say mean things to me, and said once the baby comes I cant stay there unless i pay rent, so My boyfriends parents are allowing us to stay there after the baby is here... its hard without my parents, and my sisters.. I want the best for my baby, and it really upsets me that my parents are being so hard on me.... and advice? or anything...

Bambi78 1 child; United Kingdom 1596 posts
11th Jul '12
Quoting lindsey_nikole:" I'm 16 and expecting a baby in February.. My boyfriend and I got jobs, and are saving up all the money ... [snip!] ... I want the best for my baby, and it really upsets me that my parents are being so hard on me.... and advice? or anything..."

You are adult enough to start a family, I dont think it is unreasonable to be paying your parents some money to stay there. Sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear.

AngelGabriel'sMama 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 2103 posts
11th Jul '12

They may change their minds when the baby actually comes. Sometimes parents in that situation just have to get over their anger.
If not though it'll suck but it's not the end of the world. You'll just have to be strong and learn how to do things differently.
Good luck. :)

lindsey_nikole Due January 31; Chattanooga, Tennessee 37 posts
11th Jul '12
Quoting AngelGabriel'sMama:" They may change their minds when the baby actually comes. Sometimes parents in that situation just have ... [snip!] ... suck but it's not the end of the world. You'll just have to be strong and learn how to do things differently. Good luck. :)"

thanks :) and I'm hoping thats the case.. I have a twin sister, and my parents have shut me off from her...and its just sad...

Daryl Dixon 2 kids; North Carolina 1544 posts
11th Jul '12

Well, you are going to have to be an adult now. You should be paying rent, no one lives for free. That nice of his parents though. I'm sure your family will come around. Your 16, they're probably just trying to force you to face the reality. Being a young mom is hard!

anonymom + 1.5 2 kids; West Virginia 10774 posts
11th Jul '12

Are you still in school?



Paying rent is part of being an adult and providing a place for your child to live.

Mummy :) 1 child; 1 angel baby; United Kingdom 997 posts
11th Jul '12

Making you pay rent isnt harsh, I live with my mum and have to pay rent

lindsey_nikole Due January 31; Chattanooga, Tennessee 37 posts
11th Jul '12
Quoting Bambi78:" You are adult enough to start a family, I dont think it is unreasonable to be paying your parents some money to stay there. Sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear."


I agree, but the problem is I cant afford what they are asking for...

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18293 posts
11th Jul '12

Sounds fair. You made an adult choice, so they're treating you like an adult. Bringing a newborn into their home is reason enough for you to pay rent. I know it's not what you want to here, but it's true.

lindsey_nikole Due January 31; Chattanooga, Tennessee 37 posts
11th Jul '12
Quoting Mummy :):" Making you pay rent isnt harsh, I live with my mum and have to pay rent"


I'm not complaining about that, I just cant afford what they are asking for.

anonymom + 1.5 2 kids; West Virginia 10774 posts
11th Jul '12
Quoting lindsey_nikole:" I agree, but the problem is I cant afford what they are asking for..."


Then move in with your boyfriend. I know it sucks to have to leave family but your baby having a place to live that is stable is more important than anything else. Would you be living like in your boyfriends room or what would the plan be there?

Mummy :) 1 child; 1 angel baby; United Kingdom 997 posts
11th Jul '12
Quoting lindsey_nikole:" I'm not complaining about that, I just cant afford what they are asking for."


Well explain you can't afford what they are asking and come to a price which you both agree on.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18293 posts
11th Jul '12
Quoting lindsey_nikole:" I'm not complaining about that, I just cant afford what they are asking for."


Well, you have another option. Move in with your boyfriend. Your family won't disappear forever just because you move out.

lindsey_nikole Due January 31; Chattanooga, Tennessee 37 posts
11th Jul '12
Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" Are you still in school? Paying rent is part of being an adult and providing a place for your child to live."


Yes I am in school, well its summer vacation now...but when school starts i can only work weekends, and that isnt enough to buy everything for the baby and the amount of rent they are asking for.

lindsey_nikole Due January 31; Chattanooga, Tennessee 37 posts
11th Jul '12
Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" Then move in with your boyfriend. I know it sucks to have to leave family but your baby having a place ... [snip!] ... stable is more important than anything else. Would you be living like in your boyfriends room or what would the plan be there? "

the agreement with them is that I will staying in the guest bedroom downstairs, which is totally understandable...