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advice ? jessica.lynn Due August 9 (girl); New Martinsville, West Virginia 20 posts
12th Jul '12

I'm 17, & expecting a baby girl on September 2nd.. the baby daddy and I broke up about 2 months ago because he cheated. He called me saying he wanted me back because he loves me, and he didnt mean to mess everything up, and that hes sorry. Should I take him back and have a family, or should I be a single parent? considering he did cheat, and i dont fully trust him.. I really dont know what to do...

Squeaky McGee [16 wks] Due May 7; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65886 posts
12th Jul '12

If you do take him back, take things slow and maybe look into couple's counseling. Most importantly, follow your heart. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. Good luck, hun.

αuτumnαl ~, FL, United States 67799 posts
status 12th Jul '12

Just because he cheated doesn't mean he'll be a bad dad. Let him be a dad. I wouldn't take him back.

deleted 2 kids; Fort Wayne, Indiana 6874 posts
12th Jul '12

Give it time. DO NOT rush into anything, he has to prove a lot of love to you. He shouldn't think he can have you whenever he wants you.

jessica.lynn Due August 9 (girl); New Martinsville, West Virginia 20 posts
12th Jul '12
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Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36693 posts
12th Jul '12

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jessica.lynn Due August 9 (girl); New Martinsville, West Virginia 20 posts
12th Jul '12
Quoting Squeaky McGee:" If you do take him back, take things slow and maybe look into couple's counseling. Most importantly, follow your heart. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. Good luck, hun."


I want to be with him, but i dont want to be hurt again, thanks for the idea about couples counseling!

jessica.lynn Due August 9 (girl); New Martinsville, West Virginia 20 posts
12th Jul '12
Quoting ❥Rae:" Give it time. DO NOT rush into anything, he has to prove a lot of love to you. He shouldn't think he can have you whenever he wants you. "


thats a really good point because if i just cave in and take him back then he will think he can come and go whenever he wants too, and i will take him back whenever..

Jersies Mommy 1 child; Iowa 109 posts
12th Jul '12

My daughter's father did that.. but I gave him a second chance because he'd never cheated on me before and we've been together 6 years...he's wonderful now but I still think about it...you can forgive just not forget. I think everyone deserves a 2nd chance depending on the circumstances...just not a 3rd.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
13th Jul '12
Quoting jessica.lynn:" I'm 17, & expecting a baby girl on September 2nd.. the baby daddy and I broke up about 2 months ago ... [snip!] ... family, or should I be a single parent? considering he did cheat, and i dont fully trust him.. I really dont know what to do..."


How long after he cheated did he call and apologize? Personally, I wouldn't take him back soon after being cheated on. I would wait till my daughter was born and see how much effort he puts into showing me he truly loves me.

jessica.lynn Due August 9 (girl); New Martinsville, West Virginia 20 posts
13th Jul '12
Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" How long after he cheated did he call and apologize? Personally, I wouldn't take him back soon after ... [snip!] ... being cheated on. I would wait till my daughter was born and see how much effort he puts into showing me he truly loves me. "


its been about 2 months.

Canadian-momma 1 child; Ontario 134 posts
16th Jul '12

Did he tell you he cheated or did you find out? If he wasn't up front and you found out about it yourself, that says a lot. Do what's best for your baby. She'll need a mother who is strong and confident and if you are in a relationship with someone who lies to you, it will affect you negatively.
Speaking from experience, it doesn't matter how much you want your family together and how badly you to try to make it work, if he only cares about himself, it's a waste of your time and energy. I know it's a scary thought of doing it on your own, but don't settle for less than what you and your baby deserve.