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so distraught :/ ☀chelx0 ☮ Due October 8; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 4678 posts
16th Jul '12

So me and my boyfriend have only dating for 3 months. We got together pretty much when i ended my 4 year relationship of my first love...Which i am still not over....But any way... Here i am, about 5 weeks pregnant....At first i thought i was going to be okay...But now he wants to get a house and eventually marry me. Did i mention we have only been dating 3 months? I have a ton of debt. I have one child already. I am totally not ready for another. Im scared. Im just lost. Im not in love with him and i cant picture making another "family" with him. I only wanted a family with my Ex. Who i still care about dearly and he feels the same. I am deciding whether i should get an abortion or go thru with this pregnancy. If i have it ill probably never have a chance with my ex to make things right for our family. He said it would be too weird. And i would just be another single mother with 2 children. I can barely take care of my self. Living with my parents still...Not going to be enough room in my house for another child....If i terminate this pregnancy, my boyfriend and his family will hate me forever...They dont believe in abortion...Im just lost here. Everything went so fast.....This is too much for me...Im also bipolar and depressed which makes it 10 times harder....I even think about suicide because i just feel like ive made way too many mistakes and it would be so much easier....This is probably the hardest decision of my life......Another thing is my boyfriend is so good to me and my daughter and would def. be there for the baby ....I just dont kno :( Help?

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
16th Jul '12

It it up to you. Dont make a decision on something that MIGHT happen. Make a choice because you want to.

slayera 4 kids; 3 angel babies; nowhere, ca, United States 705 posts
16th Jul '12

you need counseling to sort out your life & make the best decisions for u & your children. thats alot of major life changes to go through so quickly, i would go to some counseling.

Megan 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Prince Frederick, Maryland 2550 posts
16th Jul '12

Just take some time for yourself, think things over. Think about what's best for you and your child right now. Don't let maybe and what if's get in the way of figuring out what's truly the best thing for you in this situation. Good luck.

☮live Due January 23; 2 kids; Nampa, Idaho 14721 posts
16th Jul '12

I think if this pregnancy is making you contemplate suicide then you need to seriously weigh your options and do what is best for you and your daughter. Put the men in your life aside and think about whats best for YOU! Do consider your new boyfriends feelings though and probably call it quits until your heart can handle another relationship. It's not fair to him to want to give you his all if you're not over your Ex. Best of luck!!!

APmama 2 kids; Maryland 283 posts
16th Jul '12

All good advice here...I'd just add something for you to consider...If you were completely honest with yourself, how would you feel if you go through with the abortion, you get together with your ex and then...things don't work out? Also do you think you would resent your ex eventually because he was unwilling to try a relationship while pregnant, thus influencing you to make a decision you might not have otherwise made?

☀chelx0 ☮ Due October 8; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 4678 posts
16th Jul '12
Quoting APmama:" All good advice here...I'd just add something for you to consider...If you were completely honest with ... [snip!] ... was unwilling to try a relationship while pregnant, thus influencing you to make a decision you might not have otherwise made? "


Well i told him today if i have this baby ill still be there waiting for him if he decides other wise, cause right now i dont want to be with anyone until my heart heals if it ever does. Im start counseling friday so hopefully that will help! I told him if he really truly loves me he should be able to love me even if i had another child thats not his...

APmama 2 kids; Maryland 283 posts
16th Jul '12
Quoting ☀chelx0 ☮ TJB:" Well i told him today if i have this baby ill still be there waiting for him if he decides other wise, ... [snip!] ... will help! I told him if he really truly loves me he should be able to love me even if i had another child thats not his..."


I agree! and I can see how the thought of it might make him uncomfortable but he could make it work. He could bond with this baby. Counseling will be a huge help, I'm sure!

tatooed_mommy Due August 30; 2 kids; Alabama 33474 posts
16th Jul '12

so sorry your feeling like suicide is the answer.
that would not solve anything but yet make things so much worse for the people who love you and need you, like Mia.



I hope you get some immediate relief from your counseling friday! let me know how it goes <3

2nd Chance at Mommyhood Due January 28; 16 kids; Matteson, Illinois 16 posts
18th Jul '12

i hope you dont base your choice mainly around whether or not you and your ex would ever be able to work it out....say you guys never get back together but you aborted just to keep the possiblity there...i think it'd make your regret much deeper.

☀chelx0 ☮ Due October 8; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 4678 posts
18th Jul '12

I decided to keep the baby!

~Valentines mommy~ Due August 7; 1 child; Lakeside, California 1091 posts
18th Jul '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☀chelx0 ☮ TJB:</b>" I decided to keep the baby!"</blockquote>




Awe congrats mama, im so happy to hear you made a choice based on what YOU wanted, and what you knew was right for you in your heart. Good luck!

APmama 2 kids; Maryland 283 posts
18th Jul '12
Quoting ☀chelx0 ☮ TJB:" I decided to keep the baby!"


I'm glad things worked out! :D