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Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20915 posts
22nd Jul '12
Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" OP, I think you are probably just thinking a lot more about motherhood, which is normal. You want to ... [snip!] ... able to come to terms with your decision. Maybe look into some counseling if it starts to interfere with the rest of your life."


it was @ 9 wks :oops:

Mer is a Douchebag TTC since Dec 1999; 1 child; Bald Knob, Arkansas 72418 posts
22nd Jul '12

I think you are having a pretty normal reaction. It's not that you didn't want a baby, you just didn't want a baby that would be a living reminder of a nightmare.



I do think it might be a good idea to seek out a grief counselor, maybe the clinic or doctor you went to can refer you to someone. Good luck.

user banned Colorado 21030 posts
22nd Jul '12
Quoting Legendary BAMF:" it was @ 9 wks :oops:"


Oh.. :-\
6 and 9 is still just a lot different than going term, kwim?
Not trying to invalidate anyone's feelings here... but it's a normal emotion to be going through and abortion isn't necessarily a bad thing.



Then again, I've always been pretty pro-choice and liberal about the whole thing so maybe that's why it's easier for me to see past.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20915 posts
22nd Jul '12
Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" Oh.. :-\ 6 and 9 is still just a lot different than going term, kwim? Not trying to invalidate ... [snip!] ... again, I've always been pretty pro-choice and liberal about the whole thing so maybe that's why it's easier for me to see past."


yea I don't think it's much of a difference, just that she corrected me so... :oops:

user banned Colorado 21030 posts
22nd Jul '12
Quoting Legendary BAMF:" yea I don't think it's much of a difference, just that she corrected me so... :oops:"


Woops. Yeah I should probably start reading faster and stuff

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 57425 posts
22nd Jul '12
Quoting La Reggaetonista:" I got my abortion around 6 weeks ago and just feel like I really want to be pregnant. I am so conflicted ... [snip!] ... all of these feelings that go against eachother in my head in constant conflict make me feel like I'm slowly losing my sanity."

I don't know if it's considered baby blues, I think it's just guilt and remorse.



It's normal to want what you don't/can't have. It will pass and when the time is right you'll have a baby.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20915 posts
22nd Jul '12
Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" Woops. Yeah I should probably start reading faster and stuff"



lol :lol:

La Reggaetonista Due July 16; 18 kids; Peru 1211 posts
22nd Jul '12

Thanks for all the advice.

AlexHS Due September 15; Japan 3 posts
22nd Jul '12

I am so sorry you had to go through a rap and now an abortion. That is two very tramatic things. I think you should see a counselor. If you made the abortion decision in one day then maybe you werent ready and didnt think it all the way through. I am also sorry that you have to go through the loss of your baby. As I am pregnant, a mommy, and pro life, I feel so very sad for you. So many emotions. I think a therapist or counselor would be your best bet. So many people think abortions are easy, you go in and get it done, and then you are free. There is a lot of guilt that can be involved when aborting your own child, getting help dealing with that could be very beneficial, it is a huge thing in your life. I hope you find someone you feel comfortable talking to and can come to terms with what has happened in your life. I am so sorry you are going through this

AlexHS Due September 15; Japan 3 posts
22nd Jul '12

I am so sorry you had to go through a rap and now an abortion. That is two very tramatic things. I think you should see a counselor. If you made the abortion decision in one day then maybe you werent ready and didnt think it all the way through. I am also sorry that you have to go through the loss of your baby. As I am pregnant, a mommy, and pro life, I feel so very sad for you. So many emotions. I think a therapist or counselor would be your best bet. So many people think abortions are easy, you go in and get it done, and then you are free. There is a lot of guilt that can be involved when aborting your own child, getting help dealing with that could be very beneficial, it is a huge thing in your life. I hope you find someone you feel comfortable talking to and can come to terms with what has happened in your life. I am so sorry you are going through this

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6263 posts
24th Jul '12

I'm not quite sure if it was exactly 'baby blues' but from the time I had my abortion until I had DD I was SO jealous anytime someone I know got pregnant and had babies... I wanted one so badly.

La Reggaetonista Due July 16; 18 kids; Peru 1211 posts
24th Jul '12
Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" I'm not quite sure if it was exactly 'baby blues' but from the time I had my abortion until I had DD I was SO jealous anytime someone I know got pregnant and had babies... I wanted one so badly."

I know how you feel. A lady came through my line at work 4 months pregnant with her first and I just wanted to die. I want so badly to have a baby but it just doesn't feel right.