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No regrets. Profane Rose Japan 6 posts
8th Aug '12

So I guess I'm getting a little frustrated. I was hoping to find some support from ladies that felt similarly to me, but no dice. I knew from the time I first found out I was pregnant that I didn't want this baby. At all.



The time was not right. I was severely sick, physically and mentally, suffering from a controlling and abusive boyfriend trying to force me to keep it for religious reasons I didn't agree with, calling me names and manipulating me into waiting longer then I wanted for the abortion. I was unemployed and had to drop out of school to be able to pay for this. I was depressed everyday, thinking about my life with this child. I cried all the time. I was miserable and I thought my life was over.



As soon as I finally got the courage to make the appointment it was like the black cloud was lifted from my life. I saw hope again. I saw a future. I realized I didn't have to stay with someone that treated me horribly and would fight me for custody every step of the way. I could breathe again knowing that I was secure in my decision, and that whatever future children I may have would have a loving father and a mother that could actually support them without having to rely on the government. A mother that could be proud of her independence and success, a mother that truly wanted their child.



But now was not the time. It just was not right. And I don't have any regrets about the situation, nor do I feel any sadness. Perhaps it's because I don't believe in a higher power. I don't feel judged or guilty, I had only overwhelming support in my decision from my family. Who knows. But I know that the only person that could make the right choice was myself.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
8th Aug '12

I absolutely applaud and appreciate you thinking it through, and finding the best option for you.



You are a strong lady, and you are not alone in feeling that way. There are many ladies who knew that abortion was the right choice for them, and know that they do not have to feel guilty.



<3

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
8th Aug '12

Sorry, double post.

La Reggaetonista Due July 16; 18 kids; Peru 1211 posts
8th Aug '12

I feel like I just read my own story. I had my abortion 7.5 weeks ago and was 9 weeks along. I waited too long for the wrong reasons and finally feel like I have a future again. I am sorry you had to go through that but I'm glad you seem at peace with your decision. *hugs*

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
8th Aug '12
Quoting The Doctor:" I absolutely applaud and appreciate you thinking it through, and finding the best option for you. You ... [snip!] ... are many ladies who knew that abortion was the right choice for them, and know that they do not have to feel guilty. <3"


I completely agree.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
8th Aug '12

I'm glad that you were able to make the right decision for yourself. You should not need to feel guilty or judged for making the best decision for you and your life.

Lacyyy Due December 19; Florida 71 posts
9th Aug '12
Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" I'm glad that you were able to make the right decision for yourself. You should not need to feel guilty or judged for making the best decision for you and your life."


agreed

Jerseyxo 50 kids; Chesapeake, Virginia 11226 posts
9th Aug '12

my hat goes off to you. I unfortunately had to make that same decision 3 months ago and I dont regret it at all.. May 18th will always be a day I will remember because that was one of the most hardest decisions ive had to make ever.

katiekakes 1 child; Sterling, Connecticut 12 posts
13th Aug '12

it takes a very brave women to recognize all that is needed in making such a hard decision. I wish you peace and health. ( mental and physical). When the time is right u will have a family that u can treasure....