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Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32450 posts
10th Aug '12

I had made a post like this before, but even animals will abort when their circumstances change. It's a natural thing and a completely valid reason.



HOWEVER, you just broke up with him and need some time to think it out, not make a decision in grief and anger. I'd suggest seeking a counselor at planned parenthood and lay your emotions out to think about them. To be honest, I completely understand your feelings and motivation. Just give it time and think about it <3

кinga Due February 18 (girl); 1 child; Ontario 4606 posts
10th Aug '12
Quoting Squid Kid:" I had made a post like this before, but even animals will abort when their circumstances change. It's ... [snip!] ... about them. To be honest, I completely understand your feelings and motivation. Just give it time and think about it <3"


This.

V & E's Mom! 2 kids; Stockton, California 4782 posts
10th Aug '12
Quoting Squid Kid:" I had made a post like this before, but even animals will abort when their circumstances change. It's ... [snip!] ... about them. To be honest, I completely understand your feelings and motivation. Just give it time and think about it <3"


like i said. im definitely going to talk about it to professional, and stuff, but in all honesty, if i do choose to do it i would rather be earlier than later, and im already 9 weeks.. id rather make an informed decision asap then a rushed one now.

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32450 posts
10th Aug '12
Quoting V's Mom! [EXPECTING #2!]:" like i said. im definitely going to talk about it to professional, and stuff, but in all honesty, if ... [snip!] ... i would rather be earlier than later, and im already 9 weeks.. id rather make an informed decision asap then a rushed one now."


I completely understand.



Would you be able to be guilt free after you've already seen the fetus on an ultrasound though? The last thing you want is regret, but you are right and your current living daughter does need to come first. I know you could probably never go through with adoption since you wanted this baby in the start and would get really attached.
Set up an appointment with a counselor asap so you can try getting your thoughts layed out as quickly as possible if you need to do this early.

V & E's Mom! 2 kids; Stockton, California 4782 posts
10th Aug '12
Quoting Squid Kid:" I completely understand. Would you be able to be guilt free after you've already seen the fetus on ... [snip!] ... with a counselor asap so you can try getting your thoughts layed out as quickly as possible if you need to do this early."



I dont know if i can live with the guilt. but V is my number 1. if this one was already born i would of course make it my number 1 right up there with her, but since the situation changed so quickly and for the worse, i cant take away the things i will barely be able to provide for V for this baby, and then make them both suffer because i cant provide all they both need. i could do it with V. but i know how much babys cost, and i know how much work they will take. being single iwth no job and living with my ex until i can get a job isnt exactly what i want to put 2 kids through its not even fair V has to go through it, she deserves the world. :( idk. like i said i love this baby already, but because its not physically here, i love V more. if this baby was already born i know my love would be equal of course. but i have the option to make things better for V and myself, or me struggle to make things worse for baby, V, and me.



im not sure if my reasons make sense. and idk if its something i will go through with, but i am definitely looking out more so for V than anything and anyone else right now. :/

ƒideℓis ϟ 1 child; Cherry Hill, New Jersey 5085 posts
10th Aug '12

Good luck. I am in your situation as well kinda. Good luck with your decision as it takes a strong person either way you choose

Lynsey(: Due March 29; Holly Springs, Mississippi 118 posts
10th Aug '12
Quoting V's Mom! [EXPECTING #2!]:" to consider abortion, for a baby we tried to conceive.. god i want this baby so much. but i dont know ... [snip!] ... know if i can do this alone.. i really need help. im so hurt and heartbroken and have no where to go. no idea of what to do."

I'm in a similar situation. No, it wouldn't make you a bad person.
But you are stronger than you think. I figured out that my Bf wasn't going to be able to grow up and support me and the baby the way we deserve. I considered abortion as well. You just have to find the right support system to help you realize that you are capable of doing it alone. But of course it is ultimately up to you what you choose to do. If anyone thinks differently of you then they were never a true friend to begin with..

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
10th Aug '12

Definitely not. You TTC thinking you would not be a single mother. Circumstances are now different.

V & E's Mom! 2 kids; Stockton, California 4782 posts
11th Aug '12

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11th Aug '12
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11th Aug '12

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Stef ♥Gru41weeks Due June 23; 51 kids; United Kingdom 2095 posts
11th Aug '12

It certainly would not make you a bad person. You went into ttc in a relationship with ideas of how your future would be. Now he has flipped that right over and your circumstances have changed. It is natural to now be thinking things differently. The best thing to do is talk to your work and see if they will under exceptional circumstances scrap your 2 weeks notice. Your situation has changed, and I am sure they will much prefer to keep you as a worker than have to search for someone to replace you. Then least you will know where you stand on income right now. But definitely go and speak to a professional regarding abortion. I know you very much wanted this baby and it is understandle that you want to thoroughly go through your options before deciding. Stay strong mama. Whatever your decision, we are all here for you.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
11th Aug '12
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Mer is a Douchebag TTC since Dec 1999; 1 child; Bald Knob, Arkansas 72472 posts
11th Aug '12

Ugh what a terrible position to be put in. You are not a bad person for considering abortion, and you won't be a bad person if you go through with it, or if you decide to continue the pregnancy. You weren't aiming to be in this situation at all, you were shoved there. I wish you the best with whatever you decide to do.

Landoflala Due October 30 (girl); Wales, United Kingdom 50 posts
12th Aug '12

I went through a rough patch (very rough patch) with my bf when I found out I was pregnant... I too had very very very quick thoughts about abortion because I didn't think I could do it myself. YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH. It's your baby :) Just think when you see it's little face, you won't remember anything bad in the world.