hi i thought id just write a comment saying that i am also doing it all on my own i have 4 weeks to go before my son is born i am 20 years old and, i have done it alone with no father in the picture since day one ... I wont lie there are times when you just wish you had the father there or you want Someone there , but all in all i have loved every single moment yes its been a little tougher than what it would be having someone around ! but it makes you stronger of the body mind and soul doing it on your own =]
take one day at a time and just enjoy every moment , and think of things positively ... like the way i looked at things is i get to have my son all to myself , i get to choose his name his last name , i make all the rules ... no having to share him or send him away one week then get him back another his all mine ! and its going to make me 10x stronger doing it on my own ! even tho i will have support from my family !
and as i said things get easier as times go on , at first it was really hard really devostating too that he didnt even want to be there , but now i stand tall and proud that i did it without him i did it all on my own , i created this little human being and i get to watch him grow n the father will miss out on everything !
Honestly love , its the fathers loss ..
You will do fine i am sure of it
Quoting mybubbah:" hi i thought id just write a comment saying that i am also doing it all on my own i have 4 weeks to go ... [snip!] ... him grow n the father will miss out on everything ! Honestly love , its the fathers loss .. You will do fine i am sure of it"
Exactly. It's the father's loss. And our kids make everything we do for them totally worth it.
I wish you both the best of luck, and if either of you need any extra emotional or mental support, absolutely feel free to PM me. We all have rough days. And days that we question if we're doing the right thing. It's worth it in the end.
<blockquote><b>Quoting RayneNAutumn's Mama:</b>" Exactly. It's the father's loss. And our kids make everything we do for them totally worth it. I wish ... [snip!] ... feel free to PM me. We all have rough days. And days that we question if we're doing the right thing. It's worth it in the end."</blockquote>
I couldnt agree with u more :) n thank u im going to need all the luck i can get :) i know just how hard it will get but i cant wait :) ill definatly inbox u thank u for your reply also
Quoting mybubbah:" <blockquote><b>Quoting RayneNAutumn's Mama:</b>" Exactly. It's the father's loss. ... [snip!] ... all the luck i can get :) i know just how hard it will get but i cant wait :) ill definatly inbox u thank u for your reply also"
Absolutely it will be hard. We were not meant to raise children by ourselves. Heck, I don't even do it fully on my own as I live with my parents and they take my 6 year old for me sometimes (though I wish they'd take my infant and let me have my 6 year old at times too lol). But still, there's really nobody else to get up with the baby at night. There's nobody to make store runs when you run out of stuff. There's nobody to take the baby from you when they've been screaming for the last 3 hours. Not that I'm trying to scare you! Just being truthful. The only reason I agreed to trying for a baby this time around was because I NEVER expected my ex to walk out on me right before she was born. And now he hits ME up for money even though he makes more money than me and has less bills than I do. Let me tell you, I cannot WAIT for his child support case to get moving. If I can't get him to be a father to his child and help me take care of her, he can foot his half of her expenses.
So let me give you that one piece of advice. FILE FOR CHILD SUPPORT. Don't settle for any amount of money out of court because it could stop at any time and he would have no obligations to pay you anymore. He wanted to make this baby with you, he should pay for this baby with you. I was dumb and didn't go after my son's father for child support and he disappeared. He has 4 kids by 3 different women and has skipped out on child support for all of them.
Anyway, enough rambling from me!
its difficult but worth it, have some family members in there with you the relax and you will be fine hun.
I have been single throughout my whole pregnancy. I am 37 weeks and the way I kept sane was keeping my mind busy, working, going out with friends (the ones who don't drink all the time), play guitar, PINTEREST projects lol, listen to music, lots and lots of naps and eating! You just have to keep busy. It's going to be hard but weirdly enough my pregnancy has flown by!