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Abortion pro/con list .BAM bitch. 2 kids; St George, Utah 6056 posts
11th Aug '12

Did you make a list to help your decision? What was on your list? It's looking like this is going to be my better option :/ :(

Klaus 2 kids; Mississippi 24186 posts
status 11th Aug '12

I haven't personally for this kind of situation, but I do make pro/con lists. Usually I find that after, I already knew what my choice would be and I was really just using the lists as a way to convince myself that it was the right decision (sometimes it was true and sometimes it wasn't). It couldn't hurt to make one, and it might make you feel better. Best of luck!

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
11th Aug '12
Quoting .BAM bitch.:" Did you make a list to help your decision? What was on your list? It's looking like this is going to be my better option :/ :("



I didn't make a pro and cons list. But I knew it was best for my family.
It's been over a year and I'm still really upset about it. I just posted about it yesterday :cry:.



Good luck on your decision, if you have questions you can PM me.

Andrea's Momma 1 child; Louisville, Kentucky 1558 posts
11th Aug '12

Pros:
Don't have to spend money on a baby
or get fat
or get Stretchies
or buy maternity clothes
or start a college fund
or worry about vaccinating or circumcising
or worry about being a single mom
You can continue school/working
Idk i can't think of anymore but abortion is an extremely smart option to consider



Cons:
It's a really emotional thing..
It can be painful
People may judge you




Best of luck to you.

Prttymommy3 3 kids; Savannah, Georgia 642 posts
11th Aug '12
Quoting Kimber-Lily:" I didn't make a pro and cons list. But I knew it was best for my family. It's been over a year and ... [snip!] ... upset about it. I just posted about it yesterday :cry:. Good luck on your decision, if you have questions you can PM me."


It's been a year for me as well and I still am not over it. I hope that it gets better though as it has with time but it's something I will never forget. Good luck!

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32450 posts
11th Aug '12

I would not personally have an abortion in my given circumstances. However, if it ever came to such a point, these are things I'd consider:



Pro:



My current living children's livelyhood comes first.



Ability to provide for my current children and self increased while I am not physically impaired. (Taking care of the house, bringing home income, performance at work, fully taking care of my child, house etc.)



Ability to continue bringing in income after what would have been 6 weeks + postpartum and security in my job that I wouldn't had to have left or lost hours at



Freed of the emotional tie down to carrying a child I couldn't have/didn't want



Ability to continue my career without interruption and better myself and my current child(ren)



Ability to not have to be dependent on others because of my inability (In cases such as high risk pregnancy etc.)



No risking having a high risk pregnancy where I could lose income/job/ability to care for my child(ren)



Ability to plan a better time when I'm more stable and would be better for all the child(ren)



Cons:
Emotional Burden and remorse



Wondering "What if"



Judgmental people



Depending on how far the abortion is performed, the chance of a doctor scarring your uterus/tubes.



PTSD/Depression

.BAM bitch. 2 kids; St George, Utah 6056 posts
11th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squid Kid:</b>" I would not personally have an abortion in my given circumstances. However, if it ever came to such a ... [snip!] ... people Depending on how far the abortion is performed, the chance of a doctor scarring your uterus/tubes. PTSD/Depression"</blockquote>




Perfect. Thank you

.BAM bitch. 2 kids; St George, Utah 6056 posts
11th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-Lily:</b>" I didn't make a pro and cons list. But I knew it was best for my family. It's been over a year and ... [snip!] ... upset about it. I just posted about it yesterday :cry:. Good luck on your decision, if you have questions you can PM me."</blockquote>




Do you regret it?

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
11th Aug '12
Quoting .BAM bitch.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-Lily:</b>" I didn't make a pro and cons list. But ... [snip!] ... yesterday :cry:. Good luck on your decision, if you have questions you can PM me."</blockquote> Do you regret it?"


I'm confused about it. I haven't forgiven myself. But I know that if I had another baby we wouldn't be able to support the 2 we have, and that wouldn't have been fair to them.

.BAM bitch. 2 kids; St George, Utah 6056 posts
11th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-Lily:</b>" I'm confused about it. I haven't forgiven myself. But I know that if I had another baby we wouldn't be able to support the 2 we have, and that wouldn't have been fair to them."</blockquote>




Confused is a good word for it. I haven't heard anyone describe it like that.

Gone 12345.... 2 kids; Houston, Texas 16000 posts
11th Aug '12

I had an abortion almost a yr ago....I do not regret it...I get to continue on with the life that I have now with my 2 kids...focus on them and them only...I graduated college and immediately started working with my degree which owuld not of been possible if I was pregnant...I am not spending money on a thrid kid, my 2 kids are already older so I'm not dealing with a baby at this point..



I was a bit emotional wondeirng what if..but that goes both ways and it's a pointless game to play with yourself...end of the day, it was the best decision and I do not regret it

.BAM bitch. 2 kids; St George, Utah 6056 posts
11th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Erica! Jake & Abby's mom!:</b>" I had an abortion almost a yr ago....I do not regret it...I get to continue on with the life that I have ... [snip!] ... both ways and it's a pointless game to play with yourself...end of the day, it was the best decision and I do not regret it"</blockquote>




Thank you!

Mrs.O! 18 kids; your moms ass, HI, United States 21706 posts
11th Aug '12

awe. I'm sorry, we were gonna be due date buddies again:cry:



but if this is the best thing for you and Madden then I think you should do what works for your family...



I would think the only cons of getting one would be the fear of regret...I know that when we found out the first time I was pregnant after I had Zeke, DH definitely wanted me to get an abortion and although I knew it was for the best I was so scared of the idea of regretting it but I had a miscarriage before I could make the choice and realized it was the saddest thing



and pros would be that life with a newborn and a father who is in and out of my childs life would hurt me , I'd feel horrible for my child and myself.
like I said earlier its a hard decision but sometimes it's the best one.

.BAM bitch. 2 kids; St George, Utah 6056 posts
11th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.O!:</b>" awe. I'm sorry, we were gonna be due date buddies again:cry: but if this is the best thing for you and ... [snip!] ... hurt me , I'd feel horrible for my child and myself. like I said earlier its a hard decision but sometimes it's the best one."</blockquote>




<3

Mrs.O! 18 kids; your moms ass, HI, United States 21706 posts
11th Aug '12
Quoting .BAM bitch.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.O!:</b>" awe. I'm sorry, we were gonna be due date buddies ... [snip!] ... for my child and myself. like I said earlier its a hard decision but sometimes it's the best one."</blockquote> <3"


and if you need someone to talk to you have my number!!!!