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Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55135 posts
22nd Aug '12
Quoting ♡Dulce Candy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting teenmomof3tobe:</b>" well I can't do an adoption if I could ... [snip!] ... with one."</blockquote> Are you sure? I think you can still go through with an adoption and terminate his rights."



if the father won't agree to it, the adoption won't go through

but the mother can give custody to the father if she doesn't want the baby



Jennie Anne Due October 10; Manitoba 18 posts
22nd Aug '12

I would strongly consider adoption (just because this is a protected forum for abortion survivors and not meant to condemn anyone who has had an abortion doesn't mean we SUPPORT abortion - being pro-choice means MANY choices does it not?
I'm sorry your bf is a liar and a jerk, but your baby could be a blessing to a family that cannot have any children. Just a thought.

teenmomof3tobe Due April 13; 2 kids; Henderson, Nevada 48 posts
22nd Aug '12

I can't do adoption...

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55135 posts
23rd Aug '12
Quoting teenmomof3tobe:" I can't do adoption..."


Do what YOU need to do hun, before you don't have any choices. I think you still have a few weeks left to decide, but the earlier the better.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36457 posts
23rd Aug '12
Quoting Jennie Anne:"


You can not post anti choice talk in here like that. Not everyone is strong enough for adoption.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36457 posts
23rd Aug '12
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Do what YOU need to do hun, before you don't have any choices. I think you still have a few weeks left to decide, but the earlier the better."


I agree with Kelly. I have been where you are right now. And it hurts and having to make either decision is hard as shit. But you have to do whats best for yourself and your kids that already are here. NOT THAT DOUCHE BAG! :) Like I said before, if you want to talk somemore I am here. I have a busy day today BUT I will be logging in from my phone.

teenmomof3tobe Due April 13; 2 kids; Henderson, Nevada 48 posts
23rd Aug '12

yea I guess at least I could be stuck to one really bad choice.

teenmomof3tobe Due April 13; 2 kids; Henderson, Nevada 48 posts
25th Aug '12

I actually had it done. And can't help but hate everyone involved as I knew I would. But I guess the alternative wasn't going to be better. So that's that. I won't be having anymore ever because I'm going to get my tubes tied so this never happens again. I hate what it came to though...

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55135 posts
25th Aug '12
Quoting teenmomof3tobe:" I actually had it done. And can't help but hate everyone involved as I knew I would. But I guess the ... [snip!] ... be having anymore ever because I'm going to get my tubes tied so this never happens again. I hate what it came to though..."


I'm sorry you've had to go through this. No decision would have been an easy decision. I hope you heal up quick



Can you get some kind of counseling or therapy?




And I wouldn't rush to get the tubes tied. You are so young.

teenmomof3tobe Due April 13; 2 kids; Henderson, Nevada 48 posts
25th Aug '12
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" I'm sorry you've had to go through this. No decision would have been an easy decision. I hope you ... [snip!] ... heal up quick Can you get some kind of counseling or therapy? And I wouldn't rush to get the tubes tied. You are so young."


yeah I'm getting counseling... And yea but I have 2 kids already that's enough for me. Plus I tried bc and it didn't help any. I have cah so it'll be easy to get this done as it could cause a less than ideal pregnancy to begin with...

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36457 posts
25th Aug '12
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" I'm sorry you've had to go through this. No decision would have been an easy decision. I hope you ... [snip!] ... heal up quick Can you get some kind of counseling or therapy? And I wouldn't rush to get the tubes tied. You are so young."


I completely agree..



I have been thinking about getting ensure done so I cant have anymore kids. I think you should talk it over with a therapist. because one day you might be in that stable place that you would want to add another baby in.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36457 posts
25th Aug '12

OP I am glad that you did what you thought was the lesser of the 2 evils. If you still need help and someone to talk to, you can come here and talk. I am always on.

Lexrex TTC since Nov 2013; 32 kids; 3 angel babies; Nebraska 4295 posts
25th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting teenmomof3tobe:</b>" yeah I'm getting counseling... And yea but I have 2 kids already that's enough for me. Plus I tried ... [snip!] ... it didn't help any. I have cah so it'll be easy to get this done as it could cause a less than ideal pregnancy to begin with..."</blockquote>




I wouldnt do that.
And since you are young i know that obgyns here will not tie tubes when your so young unless its medically needed.
Also my mom has a friend who had her tubes tied and she ended up pregnant

teenmomof3tobe Due April 13; 2 kids; Henderson, Nevada 48 posts
25th Aug '12

I have cah that's a medical condition.

Lexrex TTC since Nov 2013; 32 kids; 3 angel babies; Nebraska 4295 posts
25th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting teenmomof3tobe:</b>" I have cah that's a medical condition."</blockquote>




What is cah