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I'm really worried... Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
22nd Aug '12

Tomorrow my daughter has a visit with her dad..



He got awarded 18 hours a week of visitation back in June.. Since then hes only seen her 4 times (including tomorrow), 2-3 hours each.
Last visit, he came to my house because of an 'injury' and wasnt capable of 'taking care of her on his own'. My daughter hadn't seen him in like 2 months and she wanted nothing to do with him. Hiding behind me, when i went to take the trash out, she ran outside crying, saying 'please dont leave me'...
He asked that he have her because his girlfriend had tomorrow off and would be able to help. I told him thats fine but that he would be the ONLY one to change her.
I told her tonight she'd be seeing her dad tomorrow. She told me she didnt want to and that she wanted to stay with me and hang out with my boyfriend (she absolutely LOVES him)
I just worry she'll freak out when i drop her off or cry.
It just breaks my heart that she doesnt want to see him or that she doesnt have any connection with him.. and now shes being punished by being 'forced' to see him when its his fault he doesnt come around consistently.

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
22nd Aug '12

Hi :) sounds like a tough situation..
Im not a mum yet, my lovely is on its way.. but I was in a similar situation to your LO when I was just a LO myself.



My grandparents were awarded sole custody of me when I was 6 months but my mother had visitation rights.. so I was made to go with her when she chose to show up according to the court order.. I hated my mother so much and everytime I had to leave nan and pop's i would cry scream and be hysterically.. even though I was only 2.. I knew what was going on..



Its a tough decision to make, but do whats best for HER and YOU :)
goodluck!

S. 17 kids; California 240 posts
22nd Aug '12

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EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
22nd Aug '12
Quoting S.:" I
S. 17 kids; California 240 posts
22nd Aug '12
Quoting Scared & Excited:" Sometimes it works our perfectly like your situation :) If its one thing i've learnt so far, just because ... [snip!] ... more then just blood :) Who we chose to love and form a bond with is what means the most. This will trump blood every time."


Exactly! You said it perfectly!