Quoting Raptor Jesus (TTC):" If it makes you feel any better I didn't even realize why it's necessary to not quote modded posters ... [snip!] ... about 18 months. Some things just don't pop up on my radar. It doesn't make me stupid or a newb or whatever, it just happens."
Yeah I know what you mean. I have been here almost a year and there is still things I don't know but continue to learn. Maybe if I lived on here 24/7, quit my job and neglect my children then I'll know everything on BG, but since I am not gonna do that , guess I am lame&stupid....OhFuckingWell.
I like the other mam's suggestion that you ask her about it.She's still pretty young, but it'll help to see where her head would be about it.
And your husband saying you're "only" leaving behind a child is a douche move,regardless of if she lives with you or not.