I feel like i've spent the first half of my pregnancy convincing people (my parents & BD) that I made the right decision & trying to be confident in that decision.
But here I am, with 7 weeks to go and I am sooooo sooo scared.
I don't wanna sound selfish but I'm terrified about the sacrifice of time &money. I'm scared of doing it alone. I'm scared about not being a good mother -- struggling to juggle my professional career and time with my son. I'm scared that I will never learn balance between my son, my family, my friends, my career, & dating (Will I ever date??? or am I doomed for life?).
My whole world changed in February and I thought I was coping with it, but I feel so overwhelmed and terrified. :(
-- end whiny rant -
Believe me, it will be VERY hard at first but mothers go to extremes you would never think you had in you :-)
You literally become superwoman. ANYTHING is possible!
You will settle into a routine that works for you and everything will be fine :-)
It won't be easy, but you can do it. Everything will be changing and things may speed up and things may slow down. To the best of your ability, try and find a routine that you can stick to. Once you get used to the routine, it gets a little easier.
You can do this.
I promise in the being you will feel overwhelmed but you can do it. Don't let anyone else tell you that you can't. Parenting isn't a walk in the park but it is one of the most joyous, rewarding experiences of my life. I had my daughter at 18 and I wouldn't trade it for the world. Have confidence in yourself and things will fall into place
It won't be easy. There will be times you feel like you are about to lose your mind because you're so overwhelmed. It comes with time and practice just like everything else! Be patient and focus, focus, focus! Things will fall into place and when they do then you can focus on the other things such as dating. Use it to your advantage. You are going to turn into superwoman! Other women will wonder how you do it and be envious. I have heard so many time from other moms who are married or have a SO say they are jealous of how I do everything by myself. It's made me empowered. You will learn things you never knew about yourself or that you can do! Good luck!
Thanks you guys.... I was in a full on panic attack and feel MUCH better.
I Know I am A Bit Late Since You Posted This A Couple Weeks Ago..
But WHen I read your thread I HAD to post.
I remember when I was still pregnant with Cassidy.. & i wrote a thread very similar to yours about having a WAKE UP CALL that i was going to be a mother.. I freaked OUT.. & began to flip out LIke what the hell was I thinking How and WHy should i keep this child when i don't have a career yet to care for her the way i really want too.. I don't have the time to stay at home with her everyday like i want 2?
How is this going to work ? I filled my mind with a bunch of questions..
Took a Long Walk and realized I kept the baby for a reason and no matter what fears i have .. it was time to face the shit.
&& here I am almost 4 months PP and i still wake up every morning stare at her and say got damn i can't believe i am a mommy. It is hard, i can't lie and tell you it will be easy.. SOmetimes you'll feel yourself wanting to give up especially in the beginning ( here is your WARNING) But if you concentrate on loving your baby all those hards times will pass..
And I'm sure sometimes you'll break down and cry because I DID and probably call on your parents and they will of course tell you I told you so blah blah blah .. and that will be your motivation to take care of your baby, complete school, *& work hard! The reason you spent half of your pregnancy tying to let everyone know you made the right choice is because as parents your mom and dad know how hard it is because they cared for YOU..
Your child won't stay a baby forever and eventually YEARS and Years from now they will be adults and will be able to care for themselves and even YOU..Point is..
Focus on the positive!
G Luck I am more than sure you can do it!
Quoting Nancyznoidek:" I Know I am A Bit Late Since You Posted This A Couple Weeks Ago.. But WHen I read your thread I HAD ... [snip!] ... care for themselves and even YOU..Point is.. JUST Focus on the positive! G Luck I am more than sure you can do it! BIG HUG.. "
Thank you for this!!
As the days go by I freak out, and then feel confident in my decision.
I'm sure it will be an adjustment, and it will be hard but my DS is loved so much already, i'm sure we will make a way :D