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LindseyLou+2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Washington 6606 posts
27th Aug '12

I've been really down the last few days.
DH doesn't have his urology appointment until Friday but I feel like giving up before I even know all the answers.
A while ago, when DH and I first got together, we made the decision that I would finish nursing school then we would start TTC near the end so that I could have my career and children. I originally, a long time ago, wanted to go all the way to be a nurse practitioner (a PhD). Well now that we're having issues TTC I really want to go for it. I feel like I may as well if we wind up not being able to have biological children.

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
27th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dicey Wifey:</b>" I've been really down the last few days. DH doesn't have his urology appointment until Friday but I ... [snip!] ... issues TTC I really want to go for it. I feel like I may as well if we wind up not being able to have biological children."</blockquote>




I hear you! I have been an emotional wreck and feeling defeated, and we don't even have answes yet. Sometimes it's really hard to stay positive all the time. I think its okay to be sad, Its a greiving process in itself. Hope friday comes quick for you girl! I think you should hear out the doctor before making any more steps forward considering more school, but regardless you can do it either way I have faith in you. You have gone this far you can achieve it all!

Her mama his wife TTC since Nov 2010; 1 child; Puerto Rico 6237 posts
28th Aug '12
Quoting Vicarious★:" DH was diagnosed with a low sperm count in 09 when we were TTC my daughter. His count ranged from 10-18 ... [snip!] ... been on Clomid for almost 4 months now. In September DH goes back for another S/A to determine if IUI or IVF is best for us."


My RE never even mentioned having my husband do more blood work to see what was causing the sperm motility issue. That kinda sucks (after I type this I will be researching if it can be done). I feel like they were all for just getting their nice paycheck by telling us that IUI is our only option. we applied to possibly get a loan but that didnt even get approved so we are hoping we could do this naturally.

Her mama his wife TTC since Nov 2010; 1 child; Puerto Rico 6237 posts
28th Aug '12

http://www.stanford.edu/class/siw198q/websites/reprotech/New%20Ways%20of%20Making%20Babies/treatmal.htm



Just found this online and its frustrating to see that there are things that can be done but werent suggested. I'm thinking of calling the place that was doing our testing and stuff to see if I can get my results again so I'm able to look over them and maybe have my husband go somewhere else to get more test done.

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
28th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Her mama his wife:</b>" http://www.stanford.edu/class/siw198q/websites/reprotech/New%20Ways%20of%20Making%20Babies/treatmal.htm ... [snip!] ... if I can get my results again so I'm able to look over them and maybe have my husband go somewhere else to get more test done."</blockquote>



Have they tested any of his hormone levels? I would definitely research all you can, and seek a second opinion. That's what we are doing with DHs urologist, he wasn't much help so we are going to another. I feel for you- it's so frustrating to be with out answers... My brain tends to wander to the "what ifs" if I don't know what's going on. Sometimes google is my friend and sometimes my enemy!! lol

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2748 posts
28th Aug '12
Quoting Her mama his wife:" My RE never even mentioned having my husband do more blood work to see what was causing the sperm motility ... [snip!] ... only option. we applied to possibly get a loan but that didnt even get approved so we are hoping we could do this naturally."


Has your RE done any blood work at all on your husband? I understand how you feel about being a paycheck.. My RE's office is horrible with communication, we never know what we're doing next. The only reason why I stay is because my RE is one of the best out there.. A part of me feels like because I'm 'young' they don't really care.

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
28th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vicarious★:</b>" Has your RE done any blood work at all on your husband? I understand how you feel about being a paycheck.. ... [snip!] ... why I stay is because my RE is one of the best out there.. A part of me feels like because I'm 'young' they don't really care."</blockquote>




I feel like that too sometimes, about the young thing.

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2748 posts
28th Aug '12
Quoting Her mama his wife:" http://www.stanford.edu/class/siw198q/websites/reprotech/New%20Ways%20of%20Making%20Babies/treatmal.htm ... [snip!] ... if I can get my results again so I'm able to look over them and maybe have my husband go somewhere else to get more test done."


I'd ask your RE if they can run some blood work on your husband and either give him Clomid or Femara for three months then do an S/A to see if its helped. If they don't want to do that find another place to help you!



I'm not sure how you feel about using herbs.. I know Panax Ginseng can help with motility. DH is currently taking a ton of herbs, our RE has him on vitamin E too.

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2748 posts
28th Aug '12

OP-- I hope you don't mind but in the first post in my fertility treatment support thread I'm going to link this thread so others can join.

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
28th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vicarious★:</b>" OP-- I hope you don't mind but in the first post in my fertility treatment support thread I'm going to link this thread so others can join."</blockquote>




Of course! Be my guest :)

Her mama his wife TTC since Nov 2010; 1 child; Puerto Rico 6237 posts
28th Aug '12

The extent of his blood work has been just for STD's. I on the other hand went to see an endocrinologist bc I thought maybe I had hypothyroidism. I had my levels checked out twice and they came back with signs showing that it was a possibility. finally on the 3rd time my levels checked out fine and I never went back. I'm thinking I may have to have my husband checked out more extensively.

D❤L 2 kids; Sunnydale, CA, United States 2748 posts
28th Aug '12
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vicarious★:</b>" OP-- I hope you don't mind but in the ... [snip!] ... treatment support thread I'm going to link this thread so others can join."</blockquote> Of course! Be my guest :)"


I linked the thread :D

user banned Due December 8 (boy); 16 kids; Massachusetts 6396 posts
28th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vicarious★:</b>" I linked the thread :D"</blockquote>




Thank you!

LindseyLou+2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Washington 6606 posts
28th Aug '12
Quoting Mrs.O♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dicey Wifey:</b>" I've been really down the last few days. ... [snip!] ... more school, but regardless you can do it either way I have faith in you. You have gone this far you can achieve it all!"


I think it really is a grieving process. I kinda feel like a part of me wants to give up completely so I won't get my hopes up again just to be crushed. I just don't want the heartbreak. I'm considering seeing a therapist... with or without DH. He doesn't seem as concerned about TTC as much anymore. I'm glad I got him to go to his urology appointment this week but I'm afraid of what they're going to say. I think deep down DH is concerned too.
Thanks for the encouragement. I'm excited about the possibility of persuing higher education. I think DH isn't so much. He jokingly says he'll divorce me if I apply for grad school.

LindseyLou+2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Washington 6606 posts
28th Aug '12
Quoting Her mama his wife:" My RE never even mentioned having my husband do more blood work to see what was causing the sperm motility ... [snip!] ... only option. we applied to possibly get a loan but that didnt even get approved so we are hoping we could do this naturally."


I agree about the pay check thing! I think infertility treatement is just a way to manipulate vulnerable couples as far as the cost is concerned.