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XJS♡6.14 1 child; Panama City, Florida 379 posts
26th Aug '12

I was in the same situation as you when I was 19. I was with my boyfriend for about a year and half, and I got pregnant. We both wanted to keep it but our families were totally against it, and kept pressuring me into having an abortion. Well, I made the mistake of listening to them and got one. It was one of the hardest things I ever did, because I simply didn't want to do it. Do NOT let anyone pressure you into doing something you know you will regret in the long run. Good luck!

Tiffy Spiffy 17 kids; Saint Clair Shores, Michigan 407 posts
26th Aug '12

I had the same problem with everyone when i first got pregnant. They were rooting for abortion. I was scared and had never thought of being a parent myself so i gave abortion some thought. BUT i couldnt do it, the longer i was pregnant, the more i got used to the idea of becoming a parent. Give yourself some time to see how you feel before you make a huge decision like abortion. and if you still feel you arent ready, you do what makes you happy. But really allow yourself to be pregnant for a little longer and see how you feel about it then. I believe woman should be able to choose if they want abortion. Allthough i wouldnt ever get one for me. It can mess your chances of having more kids later. Also its not an easy thing to do, Its a little life in there, and you never realise it until you see the ultrasounds. whatever you do you will be ok. Goodluck :) If you keep the baby, i think youll do great as well, besides, WHAT parent is ever ready? my mom had me at 16. You sort of just learn and transition into being a parent. Your family will get over it and they will love that little baby. My family told my mom too abort me because she was 16... She went to do it and saw ultrasound and just couldnt. Everybody loves me so much now and are glad i wasnt aborted.

Nicole Loach Due April 28 (boy); Bonita Springs, Florida 28 posts
26th Aug '12

You are so right, and I thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I go to my first ultrasound on Tuesday, and it's funny because I keep telling the people that know of my pregnancy that I don't know what I'm going to do yet, when in the back of my mind I know for a fact that I want to keep the baby. Once I see that ultrasound I know i'm going to become much more attached. I can't wait.

1 child; United Kingdom 1719 posts
26th Aug '12
Quoting Nicole Loach:" You are so right, and I thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I go to my first ultrasound ... [snip!] ... a fact that I want to keep the baby. Once I see that ultrasound I know i'm going to become much more attached. I can't wait."

As soon as I saw the heartbeat I couldn't help but cry, I was so relieved my baby was there and ok :D

Nicole Loach Due April 28 (boy); Bonita Springs, Florida 28 posts
26th Aug '12

I won't be able to hear the heart beat my first ultrasound, right? Or will I?

1 child; United Kingdom 1719 posts
26th Aug '12

It depends how far gone you are. I couldn't hear it at the first ultrasound but i could see it beating away :)

Nicole Loach Due April 28 (boy); Bonita Springs, Florida 28 posts
26th Aug '12

I find out how far I am on Tuesday! My doctor said I could be anywhere from 3-7 weeks! I'm excited. I'm just going to try to swallow my fear.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
26th Aug '12

You can't actually hear it until 10-11 wks I believe. You can see it on U/S starting around.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49352 posts
26th Aug '12
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Tiffy Spiffy 17 kids; Saint Clair Shores, Michigan 407 posts
26th Aug '12
Quoting Nicole Loach:" You are so right, and I thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I go to my first ultrasound ... [snip!] ... a fact that I want to keep the baby. Once I see that ultrasound I know i'm going to become much more attached. I can't wait."


<3 thats exactly what they all did to me, and i was like "yeah i havent made a decision... " lol but i already knew i would keep her. one day i just told them all "ya know? i dont want an abortion.. im gonna keep the baby"... they werent mad but they tried to tell me all the pros and cons (mostly cons) of the choice i had made... i just let it go in one ear and out the other. eventaully (soon after) they were all so excited for me. just like you have to adjust when you find out youre prego for the first time, they are trying to adjust to the idea of you being pregnant lol... but in the end all that matters is how you adjust and your decision... im glad your gonna do whats best for you. you will be an awesome mommy.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
26th Aug '12
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" If they do an internal you can through that. Or at least I did at 6 weeks both times :)"


that's true. idk if they'll do that at a regular appt though? but yea!

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49352 posts
26th Aug '12
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Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
26th Aug '12
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" My doctor always did with my first appointment. But I had a history of miscarriage so I dunno. I got ultrasounds every appointment until my anatomy scan."


damn :shock:

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49352 posts
26th Aug '12
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Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
26th Aug '12
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" It was only about 5 total."



most people I know only get 2-3 the whole pregnancy! but I know if you're high risk & etc. you tend to get more