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BD side of the family. The New Mrs. 2 kids; Lima, OH, United States 1301 posts
27th Aug '12

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heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
27th Aug '12

If I got that text, yeah... My kid would never be going over for visits.

The New Mrs. 2 kids; Lima, OH, United States 1301 posts
27th Aug '12
Quoting heygirlheyyy♥:" If I got that text, yeah... My kid would never be going over for visits."

She doesn't understand, it's not that I don't want them involved.. I just don't approve of their way of living.
I ask for the same respect I give them.
My child does not need to be around that.

[♥Permanent♥] 50 kids; Georgia 2956 posts
27th Aug '12

Nope call me a b***h but if you can't respect me i don't trust you with my kids

✰ johnna ✰ 3 kids; Michigan 6065 posts
27th Aug '12

I would write a letter or email or something like that (easier than talking on phone or in person because they can't interrupt me to start drama)... and I'd explain in that message that I am really not trying to keep the child away from them, and that I'm sorry if it appears that way..



I'd say that I'm more than happy to let them see the child any time they want if they call and ask in advance (at least a day? two days? be specific), so that we can plan for when its convenient for both families.



I would also probably end the message with a request for respectful communication on both sides to make things easier for everyone.. I'd probably say something like, "things will go a lot smoother if we all try to speak to each other respectfully. I will do so from here on out and hope that you can do the same." (I'd say that even if I had never done otherwise, just to make it seem like I'm not accusing or attacking but am including myself in the new rule).



Once I had done this, I would feel that I had made every reasonable and respectful effort to rectify and improve the situation.. and if they were still jackasses, I'd feel completely comfortable blowing them off knowing fully well that I had done all I could. :)

heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
27th Aug '12
Quoting CourtyyBugg:" She doesn't understand, it's not that I don't want them involved.. I just don't approve of their way of living. I ask for the same respect I give them. My child does not need to be around that."

:!:
That's what you should tell them and your SO if they ask why your LO can't go over.

The New Mrs. 2 kids; Lima, OH, United States 1301 posts
27th Aug '12
Quoting ✰ johnna ✰:" I would write a letter or email or something like that (easier than talking on phone or in person because ... [snip!] ... they were still jackasses, I'd feel completely comfortable blowing them off knowing fully well that I had done all I could. :)"


I've done that once before, after a fight at a holiday event.
It only changed until the next holiday.

Kylie's👣Mommy. 1 child; 1 angel baby; Texas 3414 posts
27th Aug '12

I dont get along with my in laws (mil & his grandma). They're horrible to me and talk bad about me. They never get to see DD. Whats awesome, is my husband agrees with me & backs me up 100%. I dont blame you, I wouldnt let my son go over there either.

Momma +2 Girls 2 kids; Indiana 3612 posts
27th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting CourtyyBugg:</b>" BD and I have been on&off since 2006. We recently got back together. (it's been a year straight ... [snip!] ... his bed time. I'm done allowing his family to run over me. Should I just avoid them all, besides BD? Please don't quote."</blockquote>




I dont feel that its your responsibility to have to take him over there. That would be your BD responsibility because its his family. Especially if they dont make an effort to try to see your son.

✰ johnna ✰ 3 kids; Michigan 6065 posts
27th Aug '12
Quoting Momma+2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting CourtyyBugg:</b>" BD and I have been on&off since 2006. ... [snip!] ... That would be your BD responsibility because its his family. Especially if they dont make an effort to try to see your son."


This is a good point too.. so you could just wipe your hands of the whole situation.. and say.. whatever.. I want nothing to do with them myself.. and if they want anything to do with the kid, then they can talk to bd about that..

The New Mrs. 2 kids; Lima, OH, United States 1301 posts
27th Aug '12
Quoting Momma+2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting CourtyyBugg:</b>" BD and I have been on&off since 2006. ... [snip!] ... That would be your BD responsibility because its his family. Especially if they dont make an effort to try to see your son."

The problem is, no one is his house drives.
Which is why BD always comes here to see him.. and stays for a few days.

The New Mrs. 2 kids; Lima, OH, United States 1301 posts
27th Aug '12

Oh and he understands why my son doesn't go there, and it's not a problem.
He is more than happy to see him here.

Momma +2 Girls 2 kids; Indiana 3612 posts
27th Aug '12

Its not your fault none of them drive. Its not your responsibility to drive your son back and forth to see him, they can make some kind of other arrangement to get a ride if they really want to see him so bad.

mamarama Due February 27; Denver, Colorado 57 posts
27th Aug '12

The only responsibility you have to these people is to protect your child from toxic people by keeping him away! Do not allow him over there or in their presence again. By doing so you are setting up a case for them to file grandparents rights. Document and record everything, better to have it if it comes down to the wire. And if harassment ensues file a cease and desist followed by a restraining order.

The New Mrs. 2 kids; Lima, OH, United States 1301 posts
27th Aug '12
Quoting mamarama:" The only responsibility you have to these people is to protect your child from toxic people by keeping ... [snip!] ... to have it if it comes down to the wire. And if harassment ensues file a cease and desist followed by a restraining order."

We do not have grandparents rights in Ohio.