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BD told me to get an abortion Haleigh Marie Due October 12 (boy); Ohio 25 posts
27th Aug '12

So my ex and I were completely fine when there was just the thought of me being pregnant. Then he told me if I wasn't pregnant he was leaving me so I didn't want him to stay only for the baby. After we found out I was pregnant, he told me to get an abortion and he left me. We would be fine for like a week then he would flip out on me and we would argue for HOURS which was terrible stress on our baby because after we argued I would have REALLLLLYYY bad pains in my lower stomach. We have not been together as a couple since February 4 he thinks we should just be friends with benefits until the baby gets here and then he will decide if he wants to be with me. I do have the support of his family and mine, I just wish he was here by my side. Has anyone been in my situation?

☮[The Mrs.] FJB Due December 4; 3 kids; North Carolina 14335 posts
27th Aug '12

No but if he is stressing you that bad stop talking to him. It doesn't sound like be is contributing anything helpful right now

Nevaeh's mommy :) 1 child; Brandon, Florida 981 posts
27th Aug '12
Quoting Haleigh Marie:" So my ex and I were completely fine when there was just the thought of me being pregnant. Then he told ... [snip!] ... be with me. I do have the support of his family and mine, I just wish he was here by my side. Has anyone been in my situation? "

been there bought the t-shirt...nothing has changed and DD is 1 now and i got a BFP yesterday but that seems to just have been a chemical pregnancy

Super Mommy! Pasadena, CA, United States 13425 posts
status 27th Aug '12

No, but that sounds extremely unstable and unhealthy, relationship wise. I would not be friends with benefits with him. He needs to grow up. He can't have his cake and eat it to all while trying to control you and be hot and cold. Take care of yourself and that baby.

Trace1886 Due March 11; 66 kids; 5 angel babies; Dayton, Ohio 555 posts
27th Aug '12

You shouldn't let yourself be in that situation. Dont let him use you for a piece of ass and then decide if he wants you in the end

Haleigh Marie Due October 12 (boy); Ohio 25 posts
27th Aug '12

As of right now we don't have any drama and we haven't argued. But he doesn't go to any appts or ultrasounds. Like 2 weeks ago my baby stopped moving and I texted him to let him know that I was going to the hospital and he didn't even respond. Its like he doesn't care. ):

Nevaeh's mommy :) 1 child; Brandon, Florida 981 posts
27th Aug '12
Quoting Haleigh Marie:" As of right now we don't have any drama and we haven't argued. But he doesn't go to any appts or ultrasounds. ... [snip!] ... and I texted him to let him know that I was going to the hospital and he didn't even respond. Its like he doesn't care. ): "

talking from someone that is going through it right now let him go Before baby gets here becuase its going to be 10x harder after baby gets here

Haleigh Marie Due October 12 (boy); Ohio 25 posts
27th Aug '12
Quoting Nevaeh's mommy :):" talking from someone that is going through it right now let him go Before baby gets here becuase its going to be 10x harder after baby gets here"


I'm slowly getting over the whole 'family' thing with him and realizing that we will never be a stable couple but its hard.

Nevaeh's mommy :) 1 child; Brandon, Florida 981 posts
27th Aug '12
Quoting Haleigh Marie:" I'm slowly getting over the whole 'family' thing with him and realizing that we will never be a stable couple but its hard. "

i know the feeling the heart wants what it wants but sometimes thats just not good enough i wouldnt wish what im going through on anyone

Haleigh Marie Due October 12 (boy); Ohio 25 posts
27th Aug '12

Me either. This sucks. I know I have support but I wish I had it from him too. People that I don't know or haven't talked to since I graduated high school (2yrs ago) ask more about the baby than him. He said that when he was growing up, he wanted to be the best dad he could be because his dad wasn't there for him or his mom but he isn't doing anything different.

Nevaeh's mommy :) 1 child; Brandon, Florida 981 posts
27th Aug '12
Quoting Haleigh Marie:" Me either. This sucks. I know I have support but I wish I had it from him too. People that I don't know ... [snip!] ... he wanted to be the best dad he could be because his dad wasn't there for him or his mom but he isn't doing anything different."

yeah i have heard that to actions speak louder than words i dont want to hear you say it i want to see you do it

KrisTeeAndPea 1 child; Pennsylvania 463 posts
29th Aug '12

honestly i would give him an ultimatum. he either wanted to be with me now through my pregnancy and everything else or leave and never ever be with me again. It sounds like he cares about you but hes not ready to step up and take responsibility for his actions. in other words he wants you to do all the hard work and then when its done he'll see if he wants to be apart of it. he still sounds very immature and until he gets it together i would kick him to the curb. Good luck.

Emmybean 1 child; Plymouth, United Kingdom 1649 posts
29th Aug '12
Quoting Haleigh Marie:" So my ex and I were completely fine when there was just the thought of me being pregnant. Then he told ... [snip!] ... be with me. I do have the support of his family and mine, I just wish he was here by my side. Has anyone been in my situation? "


Friends with benefits? Tell him to fuck off.

Haleigh Marie Due October 12 (boy); Ohio 25 posts
2nd Sep '12

i did. we had a reallllllllyyy long conversation earlier today. we are going to be civil for our son but other than that im moving on. i told him how i feel but i realized that i dont need someone like him as a bf or a hubby. we are on good terms as of right now. (:

Nevaeh's mommy :) 1 child; Brandon, Florida 981 posts
3rd Sep '12
Quoting Haleigh Marie:" i did. we had a reallllllllyyy long conversation earlier today. we are going to be civil for our son ... [snip!] ... him how i feel but i realized that i dont need someone like him as a bf or a hubby. we are on good terms as of right now. (:"

good glad to hear that