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Need advice Ashley Talese Emerson 1 child; Texas 22 posts
29th Aug '12

Hi my name is ashley. On the 16 of this month at 7:54pm I gave birth to Laura Alexis Rogers. Her daddy was there for the whole pregnancy and for her birth. But he can't be here for her right now. He had to move almost 100 miles away to go back to college. While I was pregnant we lived together. But I've gotten depressed and I know I'm not bonding with my daughter the way I'm supposed to be. I have my two week check up today. And I'm going to talk to my doctor about it. But I don't know what to do to make up for not bonding with her the first 2 weeks of her life. I feel horrible about it. I need advice on what to do for her.

Mama2(three)Boys ♥ 3 kids; New Jersey 9870 posts
29th Aug '12

Aw hun, I'm sorry you're depressed. Dont feel guilty! A lot of women experience depression after giving birth. I was one of them. Talking to the dr is the best thing to do, for you and for your LO.

Ashley Talese Emerson 1 child; Texas 22 posts
29th Aug '12
Quoting L&J ♥:" Aw hun, I'm sorry you're depressed. Dont feel guilty! A lot of women experience depression after giving birth. I was one of them. Talking to the dr is the best thing to do, for you and for your LO."

Thank you. I just find it really upsetting that I know I'm not bonding with her. I love her so much and she means everything to me. But I need help and I know I do. I've had a history of being depressed. But I didn't think I'd have it after having her.

Rylynne's mommy 1 child; Delaware 315 posts
19th Sep '12

I had a binding problem with my daughter also, my husband (who just a boyfriend at the time) lived an hour away so he was only with us on the weekends. My daughter never really wanted to bond with me when she was around 2 months, all she wanted was daddy and I felt really depressed and unwanted. That time was so rough for me but now she loves being around me and looks for me if im not in the room. I think everyone at some point has some type of a bonding problem. There was times when i just wanted a break from her than felt like a bad mom.